Moral question

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[awara]

any preoccupation with what is right or wrong is an indicator of arrested intellectual development

 

[EX-Member]

I might be wrong but...

Doesn't the vow go something like this?

"...forsaking All others..."

 

[penguindance]

 

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[ARaynes]

Depends on if the husband knows and cares. Also depends on what vows were said at the wedding. Like at ours we never said that we would never have sex with another person.

 

[awara]

having said that ..... it's also true that :

you should not be sincere in what you say .............














sincerity is an unpardonable mannerism of style

 

[Bluesboy2]

Sex is sex

In my opinion it would be cheating assuming it was done without your spouses consent or knowledge.

 

[Amused]

If she's married to a woman...

 

[penguindance]

 

[awara]

it's cheating if your partner does not approve

 

[ARaynes]

I aggree.....it is not ok if it isn't ok with the spouse.

 

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[awara]

if it is Ok with them ... why shd. I bother ?

 

[Demian]

Pick out a nigger on the Streets you walk

youre just a Bitch ho...it's in their Music

Ask me...mmmmmm...after the Sex...Tell me, I'll tell you

 

[ARaynes]

I don't see it that way, as your friend does.

When my husband and I got married we were agreeing to be together for each other to love one another and so on and so forth, but nothing (NOTHING) in our vows said we would not have sex with others.

Of corse there is the hidden agreement that we will not do it without the other's concent, but that is our choice. We swing, and we enjoy watching the other get off with someone else in their arms, but we also know that when it is time to go home, they will always go home with each other.

 

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[Shy Tall Guy]

Just wondering what you guys think on this one. (Don't take it too seriously!)

If a woman has sex with another woman while she is married, is it cheating?

It could easily be cheating. A lot of course depends on the circumstances. I assume from the question that this would be without the spouse's knowledge. In that case, yes it is "cheating", just as much as if it was with a male. It is alienation of affections. Some men would care less about dalliances between women as they are not threatened, or threatened less, but if that was the case then the woman should make sure it was alright with her spouse first. Same goes for the man of course.

If it were my wife I would be very hurt if she didn't come to me first before starting any kind of relationship like that with another woman. I probably wouldn't be that threatened by the relationship, but that would depend on our relationship and the nature of the other relationship. Too many variables to juggle without specifics, so I couldn't say more than that, other than to say that I like bisexual women, and if I was confident in our relationship, I could maybe handle it well. If I was part of the other relationship, in short if it was a menage a trois, then that would be all the better. Of course that almost goes iwthout saying as what man doesn't enjoy a threesome with two women? But the emotional involvement would be a comforting factor too - otherwise I might be insecure about it, unless it was just sex for sex sake.

So much depends on the relationship and the people involved. I would never want such a side relationship to endanger the primary relationship, regardless of the benefits for anybody. And it does happen.

 

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Re: Re: Moral question

 

[awara]

yes


cos' things don't just happen .....people do em'

 

[patient1]

My thinking is that it's not cheating if all the players agree to the rule interpretations or changes.

Religious issues depend on the religion.

 

[perks]

depends what you've agreed to together.

 

[ARaynes]

Does this ever happen when the other is not watching? Like... could one of you feel free to call from the bar and say you are going home with someone else?

Usually as a most part, we try to stay together. There is only one other couple I spend the night with myself and that is because I have fallen in love with the male half. I concider him my boyfriend and in fact it was my husband who called him that before I did. He knows I love B. and knows when I plan on staying with him. He has no problem with it because he knows that when I wake, sometime during that day, I will come home to him.

He is the one that I have chosen to live with, be a wife to and always will. Now if the time comes when we decide to allow someone else to live with us as our wife/husband, then so be it, but that will be something that will have to be a long thought about. Not something that we just jump into. And if either of us had any insecure feelings over it it would never be.

To me I think that gives us more trust. We don't have to worry about the other cheating on us or whatever because we know that the other would share in our joy and become a part of it instead of staying on the sidelines.

 

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