Monogamy

[Buzzboy]

What is monogamy to you?

 

[ksmith475]

Is a joke. Why punish urself

 

[bestone4ever]

Gross!

 

[Oblimo]

”Existential monogamy:” sex is just something that happens between two people.

 

[Hypoxia]

There are polygamy and monotony.

Choose.

 

[Saint_Ann]

You love one, and only one person until one of you dies. Then you fly on with one wing into the sun.

 

[jezzilee]

I prefer to be in a monogamous relationship. Pledging oneself wholly to another person and only them is a truly beautiful thing.

 

[Jada59]

Something that most people don't achieve.

 

[Comshaw]

It's a joke for most. The majority of people have how many lovers in their lifetime? More then one. So that makes them serial polyamorous people, not monogamous individuals as they would have you believe. So what's the difference between loving more then one at one time, or doing it serially? The only difference is that in the first instance you're truthful with yourself, in the second you're using a mental slight of hand to convince yourself you're on the accepted moral track.




Comshaw

 

[jezzilee]

It's a joke for most. The majority of people have how many lovers in their lifetime? More then one. So that makes them serial polyamorous people, not monogamous individuals as they would have you believe. So what's the difference between loving more then one at one time, or doing it serially? The only difference is that in the first instance you're truthful with yourself, in the second you're using a mental slight of hand to convince yourself you're on the accepted moral track.




Comshaw

Who's morals? Yours? Mine? His? Hers?

I think it has nothing to do with morals. I respect people who do not want a monogamous relationship, but when I have a S/O, I am monogamous. They are the only person I want to be with.

 

[Hypoxia]

Juggling several lovers gets tiresome after awhile.

 

[IG_88]

It's a joke for most. The majority of people have how many lovers in their lifetime? More then one. So that makes them serial polyamorous people, not monogamous individuals as they would have you believe.

A polyamorous person has multiple lovers at one time. Monogamy isn't one lover ever, it's one at a time which is what most people do.

 

[AnAmericanDarling]

It's possible to be monogamous; that is, to stay to true to the person you're with while the relationship lasts. It's possible to be a moral person and not cheat on your partner and vice-versa.

 

[Que]

Monogamy is often championed by people with few options and opportunities as a way to exert power over someone else. Without the contract of monogamy- withholding sex would have absolutely no power over anyone.

True monogamy should be 100% voluntary and simply a matter of being into the other person and they into you. Monogamy should be a drive from within, a delight not a burden.

If it's a burden, get out. Do both of yourselves a favor.

 

[von_Bismarck]

Monogamy is often championed by people with few options and opportunities as a way to exert power over someone else. Without the contract of monogamy- withholding sex would have absolutely no power over anyone.

True monogamy should be 100% voluntary and simply a matter of being into the other person and they into you. Monogamy should be a drive from within, a delight not a burden.

If it's a burden, get out. Do both of yourselves a favor.

^ So speaketh the poster boi for cuckoldry.

 

[coati]

Without the contract of monogamy- withholding sex would have absolutely no power over anyone.

True monogamy should be 100% voluntary and simply a matter of being into the other person and they into you. Monogamy should be a drive from within, a delight not a burden.

I concur.

 

[Hypoxia]

I wrote a funny essay about this, What Is Cheating? -- linked in my .sig. You set up relationships with implicit or explicit rules that you do or don't follow. Consequences are up to you. Do you feel lucky?

 

[LENTINUS]

A social construct that shouldn't be assigned with such great intrinsic value. I 100% support everyone leading their lives in their preferred way, but a great number of monogamists tend to take the moral high ground aggressively putting others down. It's like fighting for acceptance of women being able to vote, freedom of religion, gay rights etc. all over again.

 

[Comshaw]

Who's morals? Yours? Mine? His? Hers?

I think it has nothing to do with morals. I respect people who do not want a monogamous relationship, but when I have a S/O, I am monogamous. They are the only person I want to be with.

But you have no problem going from one SO to another, as long as it's one at a time? I have friends that have been married and divorced three or four times. Wikipedia calls that serial monogamy. I call it serial polyandry. Having more then one lover, only separated by time isn't what I'd call monogamy. But then you get to define it your way and I mine.

A polyamorous person has multiple lovers at one time. Monogamy isn't one lover ever, it's one at a time which is what most people do.

I will admit I used the wrong word. They aren't serial polyamorous, they are serial polyandry. And as I said above I wouldn't consider monogamy having more then one wife or lover and justify it by separating them in time. All you have to do is look at the root words. mono- one, poly-many. Having three or four wives or lovers whether all at once or separated by time is still defined as many (poly). The ONLY difference is one variation is morally accepted by the majority of our society while the other by only a small minority.

But then as I also said above, on this subject we get to define it as we want.

Comshaw

 

[Hypoxia]

A social construct that shouldn't be assigned with such great intrinsic value. I 100% support everyone leading their lives in their preferred way, but a great number of monogamists tend to take the moral high ground aggressively putting others down. It's like fighting for acceptance of women being able to vote, freedom of religion, gay rights etc. all over again.

Not so much morality as practicality, mono-wise. Poly anything is great for freedom and fun. Strong Mono means a long-term partner, always there for you. That works.

 

[LENTINUS]

Not so much morality as practicality, mono-wise. Poly anything is great for freedom and fun. Strong Mono means a long-term partner, always there for you. That works.

I beg to differ. A large amount of people still voice their opinions about open relationships along the lines of "I'm not judgmental or anything, but..." (followed by a complete dismissal of poly relationships), usually caused by a lack of understanding towards perspectives that are different than theirs (like you implying that only monogamy enables you to have a long-term partner who is always there for you)

 

[IG_88]

But you have no problem going from one SO to another, as long as it's one at a time? I have friends that have been married and divorced three or four times. Wikipedia calls that serial monogamy. I call it serial polyandry. Having more then one lover, only separated by time isn't what I'd call monogamy. But then you get to define it your way and I mine.



I will admit I used the wrong word. They aren't serial polyamorous, they are serial polyandry. And as I said above I wouldn't consider monogamy having more then one wife or lover and justify it by separating them in time. All you have to do is look at the root words. mono- one, poly-many. Having three or four wives or lovers whether all at once or separated by time is still defined as many (poly). The ONLY difference is one variation is morally accepted by the majority of our society while the other by only a small minority.

But then as I also said above, on this subject we get to define it as we want.

Comshaw

No, you don't get to define words the way you want. Language doesn't work that way.
It's not really important in this context because who the fuck cares what a couple people on the internet are talking about but overall you can't just decide a word means something that fits your own view.