Monogamous Vs Non Monogamous

[BiggDogg91]

Let me ask everyone on Literotica a question? Monogamous or Non Monogamous? Why do people feel the need to be in a non monogamous relationship? There is nothing wrong with being in a mongamous relationship. Let's keep it :that means let's keep it real and tell the truth. I would like to hear from the single men and women,as well as the married men and women.

 

[LoneMilf]

I was in a monogamous marriage for more than 15 years - and I loved it. We were both virgins when we met and we were able to explore and develop together. Part of the reason it felt special was that it was just between the two of us.

Now I'm a widow, so technically single. And I find myself less attracted to the idea of monogamy. I've discovered that I really like variety and surprise. That's difficult to keep finding with just one partner. As a result, I am not really looking for another marriage, but maybe more of an open kind of relationship.

I believe either can work, as long as everyone involved know and agree on how things should be.

 

[BiggDogg91]

I was in a monogamous marriage for more than 15 years - and I loved it. We were both virgins when we met and we were able to explore and develop together. Part of the reason it felt special was that it was just between the two of us.

Now I'm a widow, so technically single. And I find myself less attracted to the idea of monogamy. I've discovered that I really like variety and surprise. That's difficult to keep finding with just one partner. As a result, I am not really looking for another marriage, but maybe more of an open kind of relationship.

I believe either can work, as long as everyone involved know and agree on how things should be.

I hope you find what you are looking for. Thank you for your reply.

 

[NoFix4691]

I was married for 42 years and remained faithful to my wife, despite many opportunities to "cheat". I think that the mutual trust that develops between people in a monogamous relationship make sex more adventurous and deeply felt. Our marriage wore out and, since my divorce, I have had four relationships, none as good as when I was first married but still good. Different people bring different experiences. Each of my relationships has been "monogamous" (one at a time). That said, I have a woman who joins me for concerts (and bed) and a woman who joins me for strenuous bush-walking (which is beyond my concert partner's ability).

 

[NikiVien]

I really enjoy my non-monogamous relationship. In general I feel that we (women) enjoy and perhaps need change and variety far more than men (especially men of a certain age) do. Whilst many relationships stale and become sexless, ours after 18 years, is still lively and exciting. We can have conversations about what I did or will do with my boyfriend, or what we did or will do as a threesome, and this turns what might have become mundane and repetitive into something exciting. My husband is very creative, but even he would probably struggle to make our sex life as exciting as it is by being non-monogamous. It also goes far beyond just sex, but that would probably take a 10,000 word thesis to fully explain, and I'm not after a PhD

 

[BiggDogg91]

I really enjoy my non-monogamous relationship. In general I feel that we (women) enjoy and perhaps need change and variety far more than men (especially men of a certain age) do. Whilst many relationships stale and become sexless, ours after 18 years, is still lively and exciting. We can have conversations about what I did or will do with my boyfriend, or what we did or will do as a threesome, and this turns what might have become mundane and repetitive into something exciting. My husband is very creative, but even he would probably struggle to make our sex life as exciting as it is by being non-monogamous. It also goes far beyond just sex, but that would probably take a 10,000 word thesis to fully explain, and I'm not after a PhD

Explain what marriage is??? I just don't understand why people get married. My thing is this: if you are not going to be faithful in marriage, then don't get married.

 

[NikiVien]

Explain what marriage is??? I just don't understand why people get married. My thing is this: if you are not going to be faithful in marriage, then don't get married.

Marriage is a legal contract.

The definition of being unfaithful is "the contravention of a previous promise or understanding" - so I haven't been unfaithful to my husand because neither of our love for the other is possessional and allow each other to do what they wish - with agreement.

 

[LittleMissLandmine]

I am polyamorous. I’ve never and could never be monogamous.

 

[Escierto]

My girlfriend had been non-monogamous her whole life. She said she never wanted a relationship, instead engaging in a long series of one night stands over more than a decade.

After I visited her for three weeks and left to go back home, her roommate found her in her room crying. She was surprised and said to her, "What is happening with you? You never cry over a man." That was six years ago and she has been monogamous ever since.

 

[BiggDogg91]

Marriage is a legal contract.

The definition of being unfaithful is "the contravention of a previous promise or understanding" - so I haven't been unfaithful to my husband because neither of our love for the other is possessional and allow each other to do what they wish - with agreement.

It's sad that you feel that marriage is a legal contract. Marriage is where two people come together, to love and care for one another. If you love someone you will not have sex with another person. If you love someone you will not do that person wrong. I hope you are having fun with what you are doing and I wish you the best.

 

[LittleMissLandmine]

It's sad that you feel that marriage is a legal contract. Marriage is where two people come together, to love and care for one another. If you love someone you will not have sex with another person. If you love someone you will not do that person wrong. I hope you are having fun with what you are doing and I wish you the best.

It *is* a legal contract.

 

[Sprinklles]

Let me ask everyone on Literotica a question? Monogamous or Non Monogamous? Why do people feel the need to be in a non monogamous relationship? There is nothing wrong with being in a mongamous relationship. Let's keep it :that means let's keep it real and tell the truth. I would like to hear from the single men and women,as well as the married men and women.

I agree there is nothing wrong with being monogamous just as there is nothing wrong with a couple choosing to be non-monogamous. For my husband and I it is a chance to explore our sexual interest, keep things fun and interesting, and something both of us enjoy together and apart.

 

[curiousitieskill]

the idea of being able to date on the side with my husband's blessings would be my dream come trueeeeee - and would only make me love him more, and better. now to find a man who would agree to that, that's the part.

 

[LittleMissLandmine]

the idea of being able to date on the side with my husband's blessings would be my dream come trueeeeee - and would only make me love him more, and better. now to find a man who would agree to that, that's the part.

They’re out there!

 

[BiggDogg91]

It *is* a legal contract.

If you feel that way that's just

 

[LittleMissLandmine]

If you feel that way that's just

But that’s what it is by definition. It is a legal contract. It’s not about feelings. lol.

 

[BiggDogg91]

the idea of being able to date on the side with my husband's blessings would be my dream come trueeeeee - and would only make me love him more, and better. now to find a man who would agree to that, that's the part.

Why would that make you love him more? Do you still love your husband? I'm not judging you, I'm just trying to better understand what's going on here.

 

[BiggDogg91]

I will say this and be done with this. Marriage is where two people come together to love and care for one another. Marriage is about sacrifice. Till death do us part. Marriage is not just about sex and what you can get. Like I have said before if you love someone you will not have sex with another person. If you love someone you will not do that person wrong.

 

[filthytrancendence]

I will say this and be done with this. Marriage is where two people come together to love and care for one another. Marriage is about sacrifice. Till death do us part. Marriage is not just about sex and what you can get. Like I have said before if you love someone you will not have sex with another person. If you love someone you will not do that person wrong.

So look. You get to decide what marriage means to you. There isn't a universal definition practiced by all human beings, as evidenced by the things already shared with you in this thread.

You do not get to decide what it means to other people. And telling someone else what they will do if they love someone is... profoundly presumptive on your part.

 

[BiggDogg91]

So look. You get to decide what marriage means to you. There isn't a universal definition practiced by all human beings, as evidenced by the things already shared with you in this thread.

You do not get to decide what it means to other people. And telling someone else what they will do if they love someone is... profoundly presumptive on your part.

I said what I said. Do you even know what true love is? I know what true love is, and I know what true love should be. Yes I said if you love someone, and I meant what I said. I was explaining what true love is and should be.

 

[LittleMissLandmine]

I said what I said. Do you even know what true love is? I know what true love is, and what true love should be. Yes I said if you love someone, and I meant what I said.

You’re conflating love with monogamy. This thread has nothing to do with marriage at all.

 

[BiggDogg91]

You’re conflating love with monogamy. This thread has nothing to do with marriage at all.

I was responding to the other posts that people had made. Another thing the thread did mention single women and men as well as married women and men. I guess you missed that last part lol .

 

[LittleMissLandmine]

I was responding to the other posts that people had made. Another thing the thread did mention single women and men as well as married women and men. I guess you missed that last part lol .

this is like shooting fish in a barrel. lol. welp, good luck to you out there in the big bad world of 2025

 

[EasyBrad59]

the idea of being able to date on the side with my husband's blessings would be my dream come trueeeeee - and would only make me love him more, and better. now to find a man who would agree to that, that's the part.

I would agree to that part in a heartbeat. I would want my partner to be sexually satisfied in every way.

 

[filthytrancendence]

I said what I said. Do you even know what true love is? I know what true love is, and I know what true love should be. Yes I said if you love someone, and I meant what I said. I was explaining what true love is and should be.

Hey. I'm not against you.

The difference between your position and mine is that I respect your agency as a human being to disagree with me. That was the first thing I communicated to you.

I called you out because I know where the chain of beliefs you are describing leads, and it is nowhere pleasant. Not for you, not for the people you love, and not for your impact on the world at large. If that sounds presumptive on my part, you can either write me off in anger, or take my lack of defensiveness as evidence of lived experience. I have been on the receiving end of the precise attitude you describe for most of my life, and it has caused me incredible harm.

Thankfully, I've turned that harm into personal growth. Just because I respect your capacity to disagree, does not mean I feel comfortable allowing your position to go unchallenged. Not just for your sake, but for anyone else who might be reading.

Love is much more vast than you're giving it credit for. True love is a solipsistic fantasy that diminishes those it ensnares. The fewer artificial boundaries you put on love, the more beautiful it can be. The more you allow your own insecurities to define it, the more destructive it will become. It's a knife's edge we all have to find our own way into walking. I wish you well on that journey.