Miss getting messages ...do you?

[officegirl_20]

Miss getting the amount of messages i got when i was new here. Would love to have inbox full again. Not just a "hi" maybe something caught your eye in posts ive made

 

[Yknot1169]

Miss getting the amount of messages i got when i was new here. Would love to have inbox full again. Not just a "hi" maybe something caught your eye in posts ive made

Haven’t been on much but I will definitely look at your profile

 

[BillyWalrus]

Did you get any messages?

 

[SirSparky]

Miss getting the amount of messages i got when i was new here. Would love to have inbox full again. Not just a "hi" maybe something caught your eye in posts ive made

The same has happened to me. Always getting messages when I first statted posting, but now few and far between. My inbox is always open to chat abojt anything. Love to make a connection

 

[DinglyDangly]

It was nice in the early days have my inbox filled with messages, now it's the odd one or two.

 

[spiderwal]

I’m surprised that you don’t still get lots, although that may of changed since you posted this as there will be a lot of guys here also wishing they could find a woman to chat with as it’s a lot harder for us with us outnumbering the ladies, so unless we manage to become one of the first to chat and make an impression our messages just go unread

 

[niceguyswin]

Would be happy to chat if you would still be looking for chat partners

 

[officegirl_20]

Love the messages hopefully not just a "hi". let me know if you like my threads or maybe want to play. Those are the messages one looks forward to lol

 

[athelticguy04]

Love the messages hopefully not just a "hi". let me know if you like my threads or maybe want to play. Those are the messages one looks forward to lol

Your so much fun to talk to and enjoy

 

[kinky_jat]

Miss getting the amount of messages i got when i was new here. Would love to have inbox full again. Not just a "hi" maybe something caught your eye in posts ive made

Your profile picture catches my eye.

 

[HornyIsh69]

Miss getting the amount of messages i got when i was new here. Would love to have inbox full again. Not just a "hi" maybe something caught your eye in posts ive made

I get where you're coming from, I miss getting messages too, so yeah!!! Lol

 

[jackburns]

Miss as in longing/lonely or miss as in they drift off into the sunset before you get a chance to read them?

 

[ChloeOfCascadia]

Miss getting the amount of messages i got when i was new here. Would love to have inbox full again. Not just a "hi" maybe something caught your eye in posts ive made

It's about what I expect.

Personal ad- I'm seeking women
Dozen private messages to women who match 90+ percent of my desires and have made threads based on such desires.
Responses from women- zero
Responses from men- dozen

I expect that this is the experience for cis women-
Personal ad- woman seeking men
Inbox- 200 messages that say "sup wanna rp / fuk" and show a dick pic.
0 messages of actual value.

It's the same when you go on the chat. 95 percent inactive, 4.9 percent regulars who hang out with each other and there's no sex chat happening, 0.1 percent people who go "I'M SINGLE WHO WANTS TO FUCK" and they leave in five minutes to go wank when no one responds.

Hahahahaha.

I'm fine posting a personals ad on here. I even have friendly and polite exchanges with the men in my inbox sometimes, though there are a lot of them. Usually, we like the same things, just not each other sexually. But it's fun to look at the things we both like, at least.

But finding a person to be with when much of the site is spam or inactive is going to be difficult.

It would be even worse on a paid dating website. I could do all this and more and pay money I don't have per month for an ad that will get zero hits in rural Norway and I will still be alone and have less money.

It's comical, you just have to find the humor in it.

Sure, the joke is on me, but it's a pretty funny joke. I'm gonna die alone, ha ha! Insert Nelson Muntz meme here.

 

[dutifulrose]

My experiences on Literotica tend to reflect the effort I put into them. Spending time here has been exciting, confusing, overwhelming (once), and - more often than not - frustrating. The quality of interactions varies widely depending on the forum or chat room, but even more so on the people who occupy and puppy guard those spaces like little tribes.

Regardless of who initiates the conversation, engaging with low‑effort users (those with empty or bare‑bones profiles) usually means two things:

1. You end up doing most of the work to keep the conversation going.

2. Your expectations of Literotica diminish, because these users almost always disappear once they’ve gotten whatever they wanted from the interaction. Streets are named after people like that - Einbahnstraße.

That said, even these brief exchanges seem to be declining across most text‑based platforms, not just Literotica. Many low‑effort users, who tend to make up the majority on any platform, have migrated to voice chat because it requires (even) less effort (and there's the lure of a pleasant sounding voice, too). Typing requires a bit more thought than speaking - usually, anyway.

Despite the challenges, I’ve found that the effort you invest can still lead to genuinely rewarding interactions. When you do come across people who communicate with intention and curiosity, the conversations can be surprisingly meaningful - and sometimes even memorable

Those moments remind me that the Lit Landscape is always shifting, and there are still thoughtful, engaged users out there. With a bit of patience and a willingness to filter through the noise, it’s entirely possible to carve out connections that feel worthwhile

 

[Unravelx]

Lit is a comparatively small community so I wouldn't be surprised to see diminishing returns on posting personals ads. People who write more than "sup" may have already replied to you previously and perhaps not had any response from you if you were flooded with messages. Lit is a small enough community that people will remember you not replying and not message again. For sites with a much larger population that would be an insignificant factor but could be a contributing one here.

 

[ChloeOfCascadia]

Thank you for the post, Rose. I need the encouragement.

I believe this will lead to something good. I believe it's easier to express and exchange complex ideas through writing than voice chats.

People who are worthwhile will put in the effort.

 

[dutifulrose]

I believe it's easier to express and exchange complex ideas through writing than voice chats.

Before the computer (and later smartphone) became an individual's item, letter writing/posting was a ritual bordering on the sacred (Jane Austen's novels of landed English gentry come to mind). A value-added feature of that ritual often was the desire to not just exhibit legible penmenship but manifest exceptional pencraft

And the deliberate and careful attention given to your hand's movements with the pen and ink (along with the difficulty in correcting any boo-boos) often required focused thought on the message's content

Flash forward to today and cursive writing is no longer a required subject in many schools (a bit more than half of American schools don't teach it) and national postal services are the premier carriers of junk mail. in fact, Denmark's PostNord no longer delivers personal letters and is focused only in package delivery. This has resulted in the loss of nuanced meaning to brevity (BTW, FWIW, LOL) at the expense of articulated thought

Sooo, thank goodness computers and smartphones still have keyboards (I'm pretending that the voice-to-text feature is disdained) because they allow us as authors to still pause before communicating to others (succinctly) our complex ideas (or passioned desires, wants, and needs, if an adult-focused web site is involved)

 

[cadman7777]

I had some great conversations years ago when I joined. It doesn't seems like many want that as much anymore......I'm also older now so I think women aren't wanting to their spend time when they have so many options with others. I don't have to have the conversation with women but I like having conversations with them. I love finding out what they think about things not just sexually(although I love that) but overall regarding relationships, life, where the conversation goes

 

[ChloeOfCascadia]

Before the computer (and later smartphone) became an individual item, letter writing/posting was a ritual bordering on the sacred (Jane Austen's novels of landed English gentry come to mind). A value-added feature of that ritual often was the desire to not just exhibit legible penmenship but manifest exceptional pencraft

And the deliberate and careful attention given to your hand's movements with the pen and ink (along with the difficulty in correcting any boo-boos) often required focused thought on the message's content

Flash forward to today and cursive writing is no longer a required subject in many schools (a bit more than half of American schools don't teach it) and national postal services are the premier carriers of junk mail. in fact, Denmark's PostNord no longer delivers personal letters and is focused only in package delivery. This has resulted in the loss of nuanced meaning to brevity (BTW, FWIW, LOL) at the expense of articulated thought

Sooo, thank goodness computers and smartphones still have keyboards (I'm pretending that the voice-to-text featire is disdained) because they allow us as authors to still pause before communicating to others (succinctly) our complex ideas (or passioned desires, wants, and needs, if an adult-focused web site is involved)

I would like to think I can even be seductive, turn a person on, with my words.

On this website dedicated literally to erotic fiction. One would think this would be the place people appreciate it.

Hahaha.

Glad to meet a fellow word enthusiast. I guess we are a dying breed.

 

[Mrcub81]

Miss getting the amount of messages i got when i was new here. Would love to have inbox full again. Not just a "hi" maybe something caught your eye in posts ive made

Hi, I'm new to this forum stuff. What kind of messages are you looking for.

 

[Magikul]

Miss getting the amount of messages i got when i was new here. Would love to have inbox full again. Not just a "hi" maybe something caught your eye in posts ive made

I can fill your inbox or fill anything else you want

 

[dutifulrose]

Yup - Einbahnstraße

 

[BigDaddy19670401]

I miss get messages too

 

[Rakson]

Getting ghosted is all part of the online experience

 

[Mrcub81]

Hi, I'm new to this forum stuff. What kind of messages are you looking for.

With what ever you feel like chatting about. Sexually of course.