Misconceptions: erotica writers & readers

[daughter]

Folks--

How many of you roll your eyes and feel like smackin' somebody when he says something flippant about erotica writers or folks who otherwise participate on sexuality forums?

Does anyone honestly believe that being a member on a sexuality forum means you're sex crazed or warped? Do readers think that erotica writers are oversexed nuts who are writing their own sexual exploits?

How do you see yourself as a member of communities like this one or how do you view yourself as an erotica writer?

Sorry, I don't dream of screwing 24/7, I don't have thousands of personal sex stories I'm dying to share with y'all. I'm just an open-minded, opinionated woman with many interests including talking about sexuality, sex, and erotic literature.


Next.

Peace,

daughter

 

[YogiBare]

Daughter, thanks for the great topic! I think that our society (USA) is so hung up on sexuality! It is very quick to condemn those who have a more open attitude toward sex. In some quarters we are even considered "dangerous". Such foolishness.

 

[alltherage]

I honestly don't come here now because of the sex. I guess i did at first. Curiousty. I don't spend too much time thinking about what people think of me. If people misread my presense here then thats there problem. I come here now to write and to respond to those things that interest me. In the course of doing that I hope to make a few friends. Those who come strickly for sex will more than likely leave soon enough. I do have experiences that i share here but to me it is just part of me and not an effort at exihibitionism.

What i really enjoy about this place is that it gives me the opportunity to simply speak my mind. I do not have to do the screening of my thoughts that i do in RL. That is a great pleasure to me and I come away less stressed. It also serves to free my creativity. I have not written in a almost a year. I am writing again and I can thank this place. Thats why I keep coming back.

 

[fantac64]

There are those that know not what I write. There are those that know what I write and pretend that they don't know me. Then there are the people on lit and some other sites that only judge what I have written, not the person that wrote it. I write because I must. The secret me can be revealed without giving away the rest of me. Thankd for the thread daughter, it needed to be done.

 

[tigerjen]

Daughter, thanks for the great topic! I think
that our society (USA) is so hung up on sexuality!
It is very quick to condemn those who have a
more open attitude toward sex. In some quarters
we are even considered "dangerous".
Such foolishness.

I will have to agree w/ YogiBare in regards
to the US being "puritanistic" in regards to sexuality
and sex in general. Europe seems to be more
open about it, and more accepting. Sex and related
subjects to it should be discussed....and in some
aspects, kept "age-appropriate". An example of what
I mean by "age-appropriate" is when I was 10-11 yrs.
old my mom sat me down and discussed about
menstruation and how babies are made and all that
jazz...i remember even a little younger than 10 yrs. old
my mom saying "boys have a penis, and girls have a
vagina". ...no sugar-coated stuff. Of course, it would
not be appropriate to discuss at a big family gathering
(god forbid! ) ! I recall my mom and I being in the
library right before I entered college and suggested
that I read "Lady Chatterley's Lover" by DH Lawrence...
cuz it was a formerly banned book......well little did she
know that certain parts in the book turned me on

Now in regards to Lit.......Literotica personifies the
1st Amendment in all its glory....freedom of speech...
freedom of expression.......Lit gives me the opportunity
to be *myself*.....to showcase my stories and poems
to those who would be interested.....to post up on the
BBs and discuss diff. topics either sexually or nonsexually
related......I don't think that I'm a nympho for being on
a "sex forum" such as Lit at all...I'm on here because I
want to be.

daughter......great topic here! thanks much!

TJ

 

[Guest]

Daughter,
Nice thread! I've had this conversation/debate a few times in the last year. It's presumed that I'm some sort of pervert, deviant, nymphomaniac, etc. because I write erotica. I enjoy the rhythm of words and the imagery slathered upon my mind as I type out a sensual scene. There are times erotica flows from my fingers at a much easier pace than any other genre.

So what if I am a perv...what does that have to do with writing!

 

[Mistress]

Does anyone honestly believe that being a member on a sexuality forum means you're sex crazed or warped? Do readers think that erotica writers are oversexed nuts who are writing their own sexual exploits?

You mean we're not?

 

[daughter]

Well, Mistress

A sista does like to get her groove on, but I can't front and say I'm some sexual maven. LOL

So erotica is one of the genres I write in, I still have to have the same skills any other good writer does.

I guess I'm lucky. My mother has heard me read. She knows I can be risque. She hasn't read any of my prose, but I don't have to hide. Rather, I respect her comfort level. Most people that know me beyond the cursory, know about my writing.

Well, I'm a chatty cathy so I talk regularly with both members and writers. I know you all are just your garden variety folk. Okay, so some of you have some interesting flavoring and that's very cool. I love diverse flavors.

Peace,

daughter

 

[Rambling Rose]

porn vs. literature

I found literotica while running a search for free online erotica in 1999. I hear this site constantly referred to as a 'porn board' by its members. I have to admit that I always think of this as a writing site for those of us that enjoy or even prefer erotic writing. First and foremost, for me this is a site to showcase writers that excel at sensual imaginings.

I believe the primary purpose of the bulletin boards here was to foster discussion among authors and give us a forum to interact with one another and share ideas. I visit this bulletin board because it allows me to speak plainly and openly about one of my favourite subjects with others who share my interest in sex and all of its varied charms.

daughter, my mother also knows I have this site bookmarked on both my home computer and hers. She has read my poetry and knows that I do some volunteer editing occassionally by request. I have a large collection of erotica that I have collected over the years, often receiving books as Christmas or birthday gifts. It is no surprise to my family that I am a sexual woman. They've raised me! This sista likes to get her groove on too, and there ain't no kinda shame to that!

 

[Azwed]

I might be slightly sex crazed and sligthly warped but I don't think that is a bad thing. I am comfortable with my sexuality and my kinds and that is a lot better then represing them. Repression is almost never a good idea and usually costs you a ton of money at the shrink.

 

[girl]

Europe seems to be more
open about it, and more accepting.

I'd have to agree. My fiancé is European and I can recall being overthere a couple New Years ago and his mom asking me why Americans are so freaked out about their kids learning about sex and seeing nudity.

It's very difficult to explain that sort of thing when you don't quite understand it yourself.


girl

 

[Calamity Jane]

I have a few close friends that know I write erotica. Some of them have come to this site due to my encouragement. As I've mentioned in many posts, I live in a very very small town in which there is no dilineation between 'porn' and 'erotica'. To me, there is a vast difference.

I'm amazed at the number of random PMs and IMs I get from people who say "I just read your story. Do you wanna meet at ____ Hotel?" As if, because I write erotica and post on a BB that's sponsored by a 'porn site' that I am seeking random sexual encounters.

 

[Sabineteas]

Lit

I came hear for the stories because I was interested in them and my reaction to them. I started writing because there were some things that are dear to me that I felt I needed to try and say. It took over two years for me to have the courage to post one story. Now I have some here and I feel that I am indulging myself rather than really being a good writer as was pointed out to me once by someone that I consider very intelligent here. Unfortunately we have had a difference of opinion on something else and have stopped talking, not my choice but...

Anyway, the writing that I do is for me mostly. I feel good receiving comments both bad and good, that someone took the time to read and to tell me how they felt afterwards.

Am I sex crazed and think about it all the time? Nope. Do I think this is a porn board? Nope.

It is just people doing something they enjoy and sharing with others. I feel honored to have stories accepted here. I just wish my writing was better.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

How many of you roll your eyes and feel like smackin' somebody when he says something flippant about erotica writers ?

When people say to me, "Did you do what you wrote about." I just ask them "Does Stephen King go out and murder and tourture to get the plot for his next book?"

Maybe he does, maybe he dosn't

 

[Calamity Jane]

Re: Re: Misconceptions: erotica writers & readers

When people say to me, "Did you do what you wrote about." I just ask them "Does Stephen King go out and murder and tourture to get the plot for his next book?"

Maybe he does, maybe he dosn't

There's a movie called Cabin By the Lake that's about a screen writer with writer's block. The only way he can write is to commit the crimes he's writing about...

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Re: Re: Re: Misconceptions: erotica writers & readers

There's a movie called Cabin By the Lake that's about a screen writer with writer's block. The only way he can write is to commit the crimes he's writing about...

Damn, you found me out, lol