Mild BDSM story line

[MissTaken]

I want to right a story or series of story with a BDSM theme. It is my hope that it is tasteful to the general reader as well as a potential learning tool for the novice Dom or sub.

However, my concern is that many aspects of BDSM have been written, rewritten and overdone.

Does anyone have any ideas for mild BDSM with a bit of originality?

Additional info: I finally finished a story. Now, the desire to write another is so great it is almost a need or craving. This is an addictive pastime!

Please, help!

 

[deliciously_naughty]

Perhaps you could write of a woman discovering her inner sub/domme (depending on where you fit it). I'm sure this has been done, but we must start somewhere. I'm sure that your prespective will make it new and original. What type of characters do you want?

 

[MissTaken]

A younger gal, mid thirties with an older man.

She finds herself drawn to older men as she naturally finds herself drawn to confident men.

In terms of the story line, I believe we are on the same page, d_n. It could turn into a mini series, of sorts, with the introduction of new aspects of BDSM being incorporated with each segment.

My personal interest in BDSM leans toward the emotional and psychological piece. It can be difficult to describe some of what a new submissive experiences on an emotional level and perhaps, boring?

I fear that to write this from my perspective would be a lot of description, thought and script as opposed to being a story bulky in "action."

Thoughts?

 

[Chicklet]

It can be difficult to describe some of what a new submissive experiences on an emotional level and perhaps, boring?

I don't think that it's boring. Difficult, sure, it's always hard to realistically relate to an audience what a character is feeling, but I don't think that it's boring.

What kind of audience are you going for - novice's that want to learn more/read more about the topic they're growing interested in? I think that this audience would really enjoy reading about feelings they themselves are having; anxiety, excitement, fear...

Chicklet

 

[deliciously_naughty]

My personal interest in BDSM leans toward the emotional and psychological piece. It can be difficult to describe some of what a new submissive experiences on an emotional level and perhaps, boring?

I fear that to write this from my perspective would be a lot of description, thought and script as opposed to being a story bulky in "action."

I would argue, first of all, that it would not be "boring" at all. I would agree with Chick that your audience is definitely there, in the areas she describes and others too. I think a description of the emotional journey is just as interesting as the sex that might be involved. I find my better stories have less sex, although my more popular works are "stroke" stories.

When you're dealing with a woman in her early thirties, the sub lifestyle is going to be an adjustment, something that most stories choose to ignore. I would be very interested to see which way you would address them.

 

[chatbug]

When you're dealing with a woman in her early thirties, the sub lifestyle is going to be an adjustment, something that most stories choose to ignore. I would be very interested to see which way you would address them.

A woman in her early thirties would possibly (probably?) have been considered passive instead of submissive, and could (would?) have low self-esteem as a result of the men in her life consciously or subconciously taking advantage of her.

It would be interesting to read a story that builds the subs self-esteem as she's guided to true submission.

 

[MissTaken]

This could turn into a novel.




Thanks all, I appreciate the help.

chatbug?
You have an excellent point there as it seems true for many women who are seen as passive and get involved with control freaks when what they really are searching for is dominance.

Yes, d_n, the adjustment, the putting away the old values and mores instilled by youth and adulthood sans BDSM and coming to grips with freakhood could be a challenge in the tale.

One that I think needs to be told.

I am beginning to question the "lit worthiness" of such a work, but am sure there is somewhere that readers would enjoy this.

 

[PaulX35]

A few thoughts

Misstaken,

Like many others, I do think there is an audience for the ideas you have in mind. I often commented on BDSM-stories that the emotional background part is part of the thrill in that genre, yet often forgotten to be added or taken for granted.

Your ideas give me the impression you find that aspect worth working on, and I can only encourage you to do that.
BDSM isn't just one concept. It's a veriety of ways to be thrilled by imbalances of power between two people. And the degree of arousal derived from it is totally independent of the degree of "heaviness" of the BDSM-relationship.
And personally I find a "softer", psychological interpretation both very thrilling and very close to feelings that even the non-BDSM inclined people will occasionally have. It's how I discovered my own liking for BDSM, and based on that personal experience I think an approach like that would bring your story emotionally close to many readers.
So again, do give it a try please

 

[MissTaken]

Thank you, Paul!

I just fear disappointing the readers who click open a story and do not find three or four pages about whips and chains!

 

[deliciously_naughty]

Thank you, Paul!

I just fear disappointing the readers who click open a story and do not find three or four pages about whips and chains!

they'll get over it and find something that does fit what they're looking for. The hardest lesson I've learned as an author is that I can't write to be all things to all people. You have a story just begging to get out, and as you've seen you have an audience.

Can't wait to read it

 

[kristydoll]

Am glad to see this topic while wandering around. I have to agree with all the advice you have been given so far.

Go for it - add all your descriptions and dwell on the emotional aspects - for we all will tell it differently. I have finally decided to post my own here on this topic (Tahlia's Journey) and look forward to reading yours as it comes out *smiles*

My only bit of advice - you said about it possibly being a learning tool for new doms and subs - don't do this. Just write your story - in all that it means to you. People will gain/accept what they see in it for themselves, but if you make it a 'manual', you may run a negative risk.

Good luck!

kristy

 

[PaulX35]

Thank you, Paul!

I just fear disappointing the readers who click open a story and do not find three or four pages about whips and chains!

All I can say, with so many who said it before me: write what your heart gives in. If this is what thrills and intrigues you, you're bound to write an interesting story about it.

Whips and chains are mere instruments. And someone using a whip doesn't make him a Dom, as little as being whipped makes anybody submissive. It's the craving for the whip handled by a Master you respect and trust that makes you sub, I personally think.

 

[sirhugs]

ditto

I agree the emotional side, while difficult to write, holds more interest . The hardcore audience may appreciate it as a variety item. A good title and topic line may draw in the 'novices' and curiosity seekers- a much broader audience. A good topic description also reduces the chances readers will open your story expecting 4 pages of whips and chains.

I'm thinking of a description like " Jane contemplates the submissive lifestyle" or " the psychology of submission"( oops, that last is too clinical) or "opening new rooms in her heart"

 

[MissTaken]

I am drawing a blank.

I also lack knowledge to share the Domly perspective!

Hmmmm

Thanks for the cheering section and the great ideas.

I will do my level best to try to put something worthy together.

<warm smiles>

 

[Chicklet]

Thank you, Paul!

I just fear disappointing the readers who click open a story and do not find three or four pages about whips and chains!

Hey MissT,

Personally I have a couple of "BDSM" stories up...excluding a big mistake (my first story ever)

One of my stories is a very LIGHT Femdom story with hardly any bondage or anything like that, and the other is just a discussion between two people and it doesn't even include any sex. I've found both stories to be getting decent ratings (4.2 average) and I get a ton of great feedback for both.

To sum up, I don't think that all of the people who scan the BDSM section are searching for whips and chains, which you knew, but I'm trying to say that not many people will be disapointed.

Chicklet

 

[Peter2002]

Thirty something

The idea that a woman might want to explore a submissive side of her personality in her 30s rings true to some of my experience. Many people know what they want -- or think they do -- at an earleir age, but after experiencing some life I think there are some women who are ready to act on their fantasies. Now, I'm not propounding a general principle here, but it is a very real possibility.

 

[MissTaken]

I think it is fairly common given a time line which includes schooling, marriage or LTR, children and divorce.

I also think that many people in their thirties explore and perhaps struggle with their sexuality.

Hmmm

but so far, the story eludes me.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

I think it is fairly common given a time line which includes schooling, marriage or LTR, children and divorce.

I also think that many people in their thirties explore and perhaps struggle with their sexuality.

Hmmm

but so far, the story eludes me.

Sometimes the best stories have to percolate and live in our heads before we can actually get them onto paper. Don't give up...