met someone on Lit, do they have feelings for me?

[cutiepiegrl]

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[bad_dave]

how do you meet someone on here if you only have one post?

 

[bailadora]

Why not just ask him?

I don't mean to sound dismissive, but the only one who can tell you what's he's really feeling is....well, him. The rest of us would only be able to speculate.

You also might find this thread relevant as her situation seems to loosely parallel yours.

 

[strapon_tales]

No.

At best, they'll entertain your fantasies. At worst, they're not who they say they are and are just using you for their own purposes.

 

[KierstH12]

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[Lord Pmann]

Have you taken into consideration that he could be married and doesn't want you to be able to find him? He sounds married and cautious to me.

Ding ding ding ding!!!!

Dude is married.

Let me guess... Is he a good bit older than you?

 

[Eilan]

how do you meet someone on here if you only have one post?

I assumed the OP created an alt for this thread.

Have you taken into consideration that he could be married and doesn't want you to be able to find him? He sounds married and cautious to me.

Bingo!

 

[LadyVer]

If you're chatting with someone from Lit and haven't been able to get a pic by the end of a week, something is definitely wrong. Whether he's married, or he is actually a she, something is rotten in Denmark...

 

[NippleMuncher]

If you're chatting with someone from Lit and haven't been able to get a pic by the end of a week, something is definitely wrong. Whether he's married, or he is actually a she, something is rotten in Denmark...

I don't disagree that something is amiss, but don't judge simply on the basis of no pic. Some of us not only don't like our pic taken, we don't post them all over the internet. Some may not even have the means of taking a pic to post on the internet. just say'n

 

[LadyVer]

I don't disagree that something is amiss, but don't judge simply on the basis of no pic. Some of us not only don't like our pic taken, we don't post them all over the internet. Some may not even have the means of taking a pic to post on the internet. just say'n

All good points. I have been very fortunate in the pics I have received, especially since I don't share much myself.

 

[NippleMuncher]

All good points. I have been very fortunate in the pics I have received, especially since I don't share much myself.

Well of course they're all good points.

Hell, if I didn't have a resident techie in the house I probably couldn't even get online. I can't even text (weird, cheap phone, and no desire to do so) and have no mobile devices to speak of.

 

[bailadora]

I can't even text (weird, cheap phone, and no desire to do so) and have no mobile devices to speak of.

What kinda wierdo ARE you? SMH

 

[NippleMuncher]

What kinda wierdo ARE you? SMH

Sadly, I am an analog man in a digital world.

 

[ConfusedAgain]

Talking to someone on the phone and a few emails/ims does NOT even mean you "met" him.

There is no way this guy has "feelings" for you other than sexual ones that he got from jerking off to the pics you sent even if they weren't nudes.

 

[RedHotMamaTN]

I agree, something isnt just right. Sounds married. I also want to know how do you "met" someone after just 1 post?

 

[Edensgarden]

Talking to someone on the phone and a few emails/ims does NOT even mean you "met" him.

There is no way this guy has "feelings" for you other than sexual ones that he got from jerking off to the pics you sent even if they weren't nudes.

You sound as if you are talking from personal experience. That may not necessarily be true for the OP. If she has exchanged enough with him and seemingly has feelings, wouldn't it be safe to say he could possibly feel the same, regardless of his situation IRL?

Have you asked him if he is in a relationship? You yourself stated this isn't junior high. That's not a clingy question after chatting with someone for several months. If he can't answer some of your questions at that point, then you might want to consider cutting him off.

 

[Noor]

I would just tell them that you want to be more than friends and see what they say.

Lots of guys here are fairly shy in real life, at least the ones I know well.

As for pictures, I don't tend to send them usually unless I have a reason too, I don't really like pictures and if I like someone it doesn't really matter.
I know who my cyber guys are because they either tell me outright or tell me enough to easily find them, they aren't stupid, they know what they are doing.

The married ones I have known have always been honest about being married. Guys can be evasive about some things that may or may not have anything to do with you, somethings maybe too personal for them to share, everyone is allow some privacy.

 

[NightL]

how do you meet someone on here if you only have one post?

yep, fishing season again

 

[Firefly69]

I also want to know how do you "met" someone after just 1 post?

Just like another poster mentioned, I assumed that the person created another identity to ask about it. If they came on here with the identity they met the other person with-- the other person would know for sure it was them!

Of course someone could just be messing around.

 

[cutiepiegrl]

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[Lord Pmann]

Just like another poster mentioned, I assumed that the person created another identity to ask about it. If they came on here with the identity they met the other person with-- the other person would know for sure it was them!

Of course someone could just be messing around.

People don't mess around here on Lit. That's not possible.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Thnk you for your feedback. This person isn't married and we are the same age. I appreciate that some of the feedback thus far has mentioned that not everyone is eager to give out a photo, and in this case I believe my "friend" has a dislike for putting their dirty laundry out for anyone in the real world to trace. While I'm enjoying their company, I've decided to maintain a friendship but look around too. I'm a catch and if they don't speak up soon, I'll slip from their hands.
And to ConfusedAgain, valid point. They may have and may be using me, and I get that. It's a turn on to be sexually desired and to play around as we do, but that is not exclusively our relationship. Call me naive but, bloody hell, he's not requested photos of me, I offered them (stupidly, and not nude or secual) and hes been nothing but a gentleman. hence my deep confusion as to what we are doing?! Is this a game or real... I don't know... More than likely it's just a game.

Maybe the person is unhappy with their looks. But how are you sure he's not married?

Best of luck and I hope it works out.

 

[ConfusedAgain]

You sound as if you are talking from personal experience. That may not necessarily be true for the OP. If she has exchanged enough with him and seemingly has feelings, wouldn't it be safe to say he could possibly feel the same, regardless of his situation IRL?

I'm not speaking from personal experience. It's more from reading many posts like this over the years on the internet where someone thinks they're really feeling something from someone they talk to online. You never really, truly know someone by talking to them online or on the phone than in real life. You're shown a side online and on the phone that they want you to see and it's usually their best side and people fall for it. Just because someone says something over the phone doesn't even make it true. How many married guys that cheat admit to being married?

I think if he felt the same he wouldn't be so "cautious". I mean, has he even suggested meeting up for coffee or something out of the way? How many people really come to Lit for a real relationship anyway? This isn't exactly a dating site.

 

[Noor]

I'm not speaking from personal experience. It's more from reading many posts like this over the years on the internet where someone thinks they're really feeling something from someone they talk to online. You never really, truly know someone by talking to them online or on the phone than in real life. You're shown a side online and on the phone that they want you to see and it's usually their best side and people fall for it. Just because someone says something over the phone doesn't even make it true. How many married guys that cheat admit to being married?

I think if he felt the same he wouldn't be so "cautious". I mean, has he even suggested meeting up for coffee or something out of the way? How many people really come to Lit for a real relationship anyway? This isn't exactly a dating site.

You know the person they are or want to be in this context. In some ways people are more truthful here than in real and because they think they are anonymous they share stuff they don't even let their partners know sometimes their dreams.

People lie and cheat in real life too. Just because someone says something to you in person doesn't mean its true either. I could meet a guy in person and know less about him than one I met here online.

I don't know how many people come here looking for a real relationship. I have met people from lit and I know of many long term couples who have met through lit, not usually from the personal ads but from share posting on threads. I figure its a crap shot like anywhere else.

I have an ad that is open relationships, but I don't really go looking in real life either. I get to know people and see what happens.

Most of the married guys here admit to being married so you know they cheat.

 

[cutiepiegrl]

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