Messed up Sexuality?

[xxxKyleB]

Hey everyone, I'm having a good time on this board and was wondering if anybody could field this question for me.

I'm not sure what to consider myself, whether I'm bi or straight, not that It's so much about the label but it's more about whether or not anyone here feels the same as me, as I'm sure there is. I'm attracted to all the aspects of being in a relationship with a girl, the sex, the closeness, the affection and all that good stuff. With men, I'm attracted only to the idea of gay sex, but unlike with women where I'm always attracted to them no matter If i just had an orgasm and I'm not thinking about that kinda stuff, or if I'm horny as hell. Once I have an orgasm the idea of gay sex becomes almost repulsive for the next 10-15mins untill I'm back to my regular self, and it's quite a strong feeling, strong enough to make me feel ashamed and angry that I'm wasting my time thinking about this stuff when I get so put off by it after I cum.

Anyway, I'm just curious if anyone else has ever felt this way, and if anyone has any input into this situation?

 

[emap]

It's normal to think about having a same sex lover. I had another woman once, I've never gone back to it, but it was enjoyable and I think back on it sometimes.

I get the feeling it's not something you want to do except when your horny, most likely it would be best to leave it there.

However when you are horny and having those thoughts, enjoy them it doesn't make you gay or any of that, it just makes you like everyone else.

 

[fljim0121]

Re: Sexuality

Kyle:

I feel mostly the same as you with a few exceptions. All I can say is, don't be ashamed of the way you are. Just because you only need men to satisfy yourself once in a while is fine.

Believe me, you're far from the only one who feels the way you do.

 

[Her sissy slave]

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Hey everyone, I'm having a good time on this board and was wondering if anybody could field this question for me.

I'm not sure what to consider myself, whether I'm bi or straight, not that It's so much about the label but it's more about whether or not anyone here feels the same as me, as I'm sure there is. I'm attracted to all the aspects of being in a relationship with a girl, the sex, the closeness, the affection and all that good stuff. With men, I'm attracted only to the idea of gay sex, but unlike with women where I'm always attracted to them no matter If i just had an orgasm and I'm not thinking about that kinda stuff, or if I'm horny as hell. Once I have an orgasm the idea of gay sex becomes almost repulsive for the next 10-15mins untill I'm back to my regular self, and it's quite a strong feeling, strong enough to make me feel ashamed and angry that I'm wasting my time thinking about this stuff when I get so put off by it after I cum.

Anyway, I'm just curious if anyone else has ever felt this way, and if anyone has any input into this situation?

sorry. no shrink. but i am in kind of a confusion myself to a small bit.
i have always been super macho hetero....

as of recently being a sissy for my Domme......i am calling myself..bi---curious. i am not attracted TO guys.......but the idea of gay sex is becoming a constant in my head....esp. with the hormones i am taking it gets worse.

a slave

 

[Jay4fun2day39]

It can be hard to figure out

Hey, I'm new to the site and just checking out all the threads posted.
All I can say from exiperience (a lot more then you - twice your age...lol) Give things time. Stop worrying....you're normal. Don't worry about what you are, be yourself.

Not a shrink here either, and don't have the same feeling you have, but pretty much did when I was younger (in 20s).But I really think a lot of it has to do with society. Man to man sex is AN EVIL THING. At least if you listen to society. But even if you try to be open minded, there is still that part in the back of your mind that society, parents, family, friends, etc has placed there. And it tells you THAT'S SICK! It's pretty much like....hey if it feels good do it......oh, God, what did I do (after it's over). At least that's my opinion, for what it's worth.

Answers? solutions? None to offer unfortunately, just let time take it's course and be yourself (because you are normal). Over time you will either say it's not for me, I'm sticking with girls, or you will become more comfortable with the situation, and your mind will tell those little (It's Sick) voices to shut up.
Good luck, and be safe

 

[human_male]

Kyle, I'm EXACTLY the same way. When I'm turned on I love the thought of getting it from a guy but I'm not attracted to men, only women. So I don't know what to think. I doubt I'd do anything with a guy for real, but I sometimes wish I was gay coz women don't want me

I think it's very common though. I've seen tons of threads that start out "I'm not gay but I want to suck a cock."

 

[John Doe]

Hey everyone, I'm having a good time on this board and was wondering if anybody could field this question for me.

I'm not sure what to consider myself, whether I'm bi or straight, not that It's so much about the label but it's more about whether or not anyone here feels the same as me, as I'm sure there is. I'm attracted to all the aspects of being in a relationship with a girl, the sex, the closeness, the affection and all that good stuff. With men, I'm attracted only to the idea of gay sex, but unlike with women where I'm always attracted to them no matter If i just had an orgasm and I'm not thinking about that kinda stuff, or if I'm horny as hell. Once I have an orgasm the idea of gay sex becomes almost repulsive for the next 10-15mins untill I'm back to my regular self, and it's quite a strong feeling, strong enough to make me feel ashamed and angry that I'm wasting my time thinking about this stuff when I get so put off by it after I cum.

Anyway, I'm just curious if anyone else has ever felt this way, and if anyone has any input into this situation?

You're letting other people think for you. Don't.

 

[none2_none2]

Sexuality can be quite varied. Personally, I cannot relate to someone craving cock -- especially if men don't turn them on. However, I'm basically the polar opposite.

I am gay from the standpoint of wanting a guy's love. (FYI, that doesn't mean that I'm effeminate, and I definately don't crave effeminate men.) I also crave the bodies of muscular, hairy, caucasion guys. There is nothing hotter for me than having my kind of guy reaching a spontaneous orgasm not from his cock but from what mine is doing to his body.


I don't crave cock, and never did. When I see a big one, I wish mine were that side, but I do not crave playing with it. Pre-cum is great, and I love the smell of cum and to see it shoot. However, I never craved having one in side me anywhere. I don't crave the taste of cum, and I do not like the "banging" motion that most guys need to get off.

If I was a medical doctor giving physicals and told I could either inspect for hernias or prostate problems, I'd choose giving prostate exams every time. I find the male behind (clean of course) to be far more interesting. I don't mind getting oral, but I don't get off that way. Perhaps because I'm allergic to teeth.

I've only had vagina sex once. It was ok. It wasn't as pleasing as anal, but only because it was so loose. Of course, one vaginal experience doesn't mean all are loose. If I were the creator, I would have created a creature that was all man, except with a vagina instead of a dick. Lots of times my greatest head trip is the thought of impregnating a man, and having him deliver a baby.

 

[VinnieMeatball]

Hey, I'm new to the site and just checking out all the threads posted.
All I can say from exiperience (a lot more then you - twice your age...lol) Give things time. Stop worrying....you're normal. Don't worry about what you are, be yourself.

Not a shrink here either, and don't have the same feeling you have, but pretty much did when I was younger (in 20s).But I really think a lot of it has to do with society. Man to man sex is AN EVIL THING. At least if you listen to society. But even if you try to be open minded, there is still that part in the back of your mind that society, parents, family, friends, etc has placed there. And it tells you THAT'S SICK! It's pretty much like....hey if it feels good do it......oh, God, what did I do (after it's over). At least that's my opinion, for what it's worth.

Answers? solutions? None to offer unfortunately, just let time take it's course and be yourself (because you are normal). Over time you will either say it's not for me, I'm sticking with girls, or you will become more comfortable with the situation, and your mind will tell those little (It's Sick) voices to shut up.
Good luck, and be safe

Jay, that is excellent advice and almost exactly what I would have said if you didn't beat me to it! I felt the same way too until several years ago and I really believe in what you said about societal influences. Now that I accept myself and say "screw society" I am much happier and much more open to exploring my sexuality in a very healthy way.

Don't worry Kyle, so many of us have felt like this before. As you grow and figure yourself out, it gets much easier. Also, with the exception pedophilia, there is no such thing as having a messed-up sexuality. Normal is all relative. Best of luck to you!

 

[Her sissy slave]

messed up?

Hey everyone, I'm having a good time on this board and was wondering if anybody could field this question for me.

I'm not sure what to consider myself, whether I'm bi or straight, not that It's so much about the label but it's more about whether or not anyone here feels the same as me, as I'm sure there is. I'm attracted to all the aspects of being in a relationship with a girl, the sex, the closeness, the affection and all that good stuff. With men, I'm attracted only to the idea of gay sex, but unlike with women where I'm always attracted to them no matter If i just had an orgasm and I'm not thinking about that kinda stuff, or if I'm horny as hell. Once I have an orgasm the idea of gay sex becomes almost repulsive for the next 10-15mins untill I'm back to my regular self, and it's quite a strong feeling, strong enough to make me feel ashamed and angry that I'm wasting my time thinking about this stuff when I get so put off by it after I cum.

Anyway, I'm just curious if anyone else has ever felt this way, and if anyone has any input into this situation?

nothing is, messed up, unless you, yourself, let it be.
use your own thoughts and feelings. disregard "norms".
i myself have struggled with it.
i have been super macho all my life...hetero...
now?
i am bi---------curious.
i am curious what it is like.

thats all i have for you.

be well

 

[ShyBi19]

Hi, I think I understand you!
When I see women I get really horny and wish i was brave enough to "dive in", with men, I AM attracted to them but I don't feel as sexually driven towards them. I'm probably curious, either way I'd like to experience a woman, they seem more sensual, and the male bits aren't as attractive as our wobbly bits!

 

[mmcowboys]

i used to feel the same way.

when i got horny, i would only think about guys, but after i was done masturbating i felt ashamed of myself.

i've learned that society is simply a bunch of bullshit, so it's really a waste of my time to worry about what others think about my sexuality.

lately i've been becoming more confident in myself, and in my sexuality towards men. my friends always talk about their girlfriends, and sometimes i consider that maybe i'm just going through a phase. but then i remember that i'm an individual so it keeps me going.

"i'm not here to live up to your expectations, neither are you here to live up to mine" - peter tosh