Mentally conflicted?

[EliteDarknessScyther]

I'm just gonna start this right out by saying: I have an aversion to Gays/Lesbians/Bisexuals. It's not so much of a fear, or a hate, as it is a "I'd rather stay away." kind of feeling. The reason is because I was molested at around 10 by a gay man. I know I should be having these feelings towards the molester, not people who share his sexuality, but I still find it difficult to be friendly towards, or even accept gays/lesbians/bisexuals. I know sexuality is something trivial and should not matter, but it makes a huge difference to how I view a person. I was wondering if anyone could offer me some kind of advice or such. I'm just tired of it.

 

[NiggerSayWhat]

Your Title should be---Mentally Retarded

You were molested by a child molester not a gay man.

More children are molested and killed by straight people. Should we hate all straights?

Stupid muthafucka

 

[Stella_Omega]

Zoloft and Wellbutrin. And talk therapy.

And you are not alone. Thousands and thousands of women have been raped by men and don't much like or trust men after that, even men like yourself who have also been raped. It sucks.

but-- why the fuck would you blame lesbians for what a man did to you? Time for you to re-engage your brain, my dear. Stop feeling and start thinking.

(Lipz baby... I think you just outed your fine, firm, warm, mahogany ass. )

 

[Etoile]

I'm just gonna start this right out by saying: I have an aversion to Gays/Lesbians/Bisexuals. It's not so much of a fear, or a hate, as it is a "I'd rather stay away." kind of feeling. The reason is because I was molested at around 10 by a gay man. I know I should be having these feelings towards the molester, not people who share his sexuality, but I still find it difficult to be friendly towards, or even accept gays/lesbians/bisexuals. I know sexuality is something trivial and should not matter, but it makes a huge difference to how I view a person. I was wondering if anyone could offer me some kind of advice or such. I'm just tired of it.

Your feelings are understandable, but not rational. When I was a baby, I witnessed my mother being abused by my father. They divorced before I was 2, but I was scared of men for a long time thereafter. My mom has told me that I was genuinely terrified of all men, and she thinks the previous abuse I witnessed must be why. We're imprintable when we're young.

Of course, it's not rational to be scared of all men. Or to blame all GLB people for being molested by a gay man. (By the way, do you know he was gay, or just assume? Statistically, most pedophiles are heterosexual, regardless of the gender of their victims.) If a woman is raped by a black man, should she be scared of all black men? No, it's not rational...one raped her, they didn't all rape her.

Have you been to therapy? It seems like you would definitely benefit from it. In fact, specific treatment with exposure therapy would probably help a lot. If you haven't considered it, do think about it. It's not something we can guide you on...you'll want to work with a professional.