Mending a relationship

[alwayswantedto]

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[subwannabe]

That was a good idea. I would leave the parents out of it.

 

[LaRascasse]

Update

The website is underway and it has given me an opportunity to look more closely at her talents ( I didn't even know she had a deviantART profile till now, much less what she put on it).

It's all going well, except she asks me once in a while if my parents put me up to this. I keep refuting the idea, but she doesn't seem convinced.

 

[Aquagal]

The website is underway and it has given me an opportunity to look more closely at her talents ( I didn't even know she had a deviantART profile till now, much less what she put on it).

It's all going well, except she asks me once in a while if my parents put me up to this. I keep refuting the idea, but she doesn't seem convinced.

I like your Av, a good reason that my showers are sometimes long.

Good luck with your sister. I agree, keep your parents out of your attempt to reconcile a friendship. Build one that only includes you two. If she gives presentations of her arts, go to them. Just know it will probably take awhile to establish some trust.

 

[suckonsimon]

The website is underway and it has given me an opportunity to look more closely at her talents ( I didn't even know she had a deviantART profile till now, much less what she put on it).

It's all going well, except she asks me once in a while if my parents put me up to this. I keep refuting the idea, but she doesn't seem convinced.

I'll say it again, LaRas, you're a seriously fine guy. Don't be too concerned that she "doesn't seem convinced". Let her express her uncertainties, they need to be voiced before they can be left behind. May I suggest you respond along the lines of "Sis, this is me, wanting and needing to be close to you, involved with you, and you with me; if I've got a motive, that's it, pure and simple".

 

[JauntLust]

That's a good start... but remember you are trying to make up for almost 2 decades of lost time. It will take time to develop that bond... just don't expect instant results. And since you are attempting something that you have never done in your life... your new behaviour will seem 'fishy' to her ( with she probably wondering .. why is he being so nice too me ?). Keep at it. it's a long journey but worth it,well more that worth it actually.
I would also like to point out that even though your parents behaviour may be considered as cruel or as someone pointed out that 'you have been abused' .... maybe .... maybe not... but I am sure their intention was to safeguard your best interest (as best as their judgement would allow).

 

[suckonsimon]

That's a good start... but remember you are trying to make up for almost 2 decades of lost time. It will take time to develop that bond... just don't expect instant results. And since you are attempting something that you have never done in your life... your new behaviour will seem 'fishy' to her ( with she probably wondering .. why is he being so nice too me ?). Keep at it. it's a long journey but worth it,well more that worth it actually.
I would also like to point out that even though your parents behaviour may be considered as cruel or as someone pointed out that 'you have been abused' .... maybe .... maybe not... but I am sure their intention was to safeguard your best interest (as best as their judgement would allow).

Lovely first post, JL. Welcome to posting then! Si

 

[LaRascasse]

I would also like to point out that even though your parents behaviour may be considered as cruel or as someone pointed out that 'you have been abused' .... maybe .... maybe not... but I am sure their intention was to safeguard your best interest (as best as their judgement would allow).

I honestly don't hold anything against my parents. They brought me up with the same values they had as children. Sadly, a blind obeisance to studies is one of them.