Menapause and squirting?

[RedHotMamaTN]

My best friend is only 35 yrs old and had to have a full hysterctomy last year and now she is having trouble with her natural lubication. We have talked about how I have suddenly have discovered how to squirt during sex. So now her and husband are wanting to try to do it as well. She has told me she wasnt able to do it and thinks it is because shes not able to produce her own lubication.
Does anyone else have this problem who is going through menapause or is she able to do this even with her problem or was she just trying to hard?

 

[SweetErika]

If your friend hasn't done so already, encourage her to research and speak with her doctor (or quite possibly a specialist) about the lubrication issue and HRT. On the lube front alone, especially because she has so little natural lube, silicone lube could be a great help to her. I'd definitely suggest silicone over water-based because it's super slick, it lasts forever, will not cause irritation or infections, and a little goes a long way.

On the female ejaculation (personally, I dislike the term "squirting" because the reality is typically far more of a gush of fluid than anything else) issue, I googled 'female ejaculation after hysterectomy' and found this near the top of the results. So, yes, women CAN ejaculate following total hysterectomies. Your friend had her uterus and ovaries removed, not her g-spot or urethral sponge or any of the glands that are involved in ejaculation removed, so it makes total sense that she'd be capable of ejaculating now if she was capable of it pre-hysterectomy (some women simply don't ejaculate regardless of what they try, period). THIS is an awesome factual article on female ejaculation that anyone who's interested in the subject should read, by the way.

Anyway, my bet is she's trying too hard and she's not relaxed enough. It's also possible that she hasn't found just the right stimulation or combination thereof. In my experience, the stars have to align in terms of stimulation and relaxation to ejaculate - it's certainly not something we do on demand!

So, tell her to work on her pelvic floor strength for a variety of reasons, relax completely, play around with different types of stimulation with NO goal in mind (other than learning more about her body and enjoying herself in general) a ton, and simply let it happen if it's going to happen. She needs to understand that it could happen this week or next year or never. IF she ever does ejaculate, she'll likely have a much better idea of the specific stimulation and relaxation it takes to get there.

 

[RedHotMamaTN]

Thanks for the info! I will let her know she can do this. She is under alot of stress with work, a teenager, 1 pre-teenager and a 1 yr old baby. I think she just may had been to tired when she has tried. :/