Men

We need lots of practice. Yelling is not a natural thing, and if you go to long without the ability atrophies. There's nothing to compare with being in a situation where you NEED to yell but all that comes out is inarticulate sputtering.
 
You're hanging out withthe wrong men
Real men don't yell





except when watching sports
 
just pet said:
You're hanging out withthe wrong men
Real men don't yell





except when watching sports

I never hang out with the wrong men.

I marry those ones.
 
MorgaineLaFay said:
Why do they yell at you for things, you haven't done? But could have done?


Spill it.....

......what haven't you done?
 
just pet said:
You're hanging out withthe wrong men
OK, there's that, too. I mean, when she's right she's right, Morgy! Funzioniamo via insieme.
 
MorgaineLaFay said:


I never hang out with the wrong men.

I marry those ones.

Made that mistake once myself
When I lost 175 pounds, I felt much better, and healthier
 
What I haven't done...

I went out with a girfriend the other night. Something I never do anymore. We went dancing for an hour and came home.

I got yelled at because I might have stayed out for hours...even though I didn't.

I could have been anywhere...But I wasn't.

I could have been with anyone in the time I was gone ... But I wasn't.

I think its all just a huge fucking excuse to be mad at me.
 
just pet said:
You're hanging out withthe wrong men
Real men don't yell





except when watching sports

Good answer, Pet!! I rarely ever raise my voice, yelling at some one is just a sign that you don't possess the verbal skills to speak rationally!
 
Maybe him yelling at you is an insight to his behavior when he is out and about. Sorry you were subject to the verbal abuse.
 
Re: What I haven't done...

MorgaineLaFay said:
I went out with a girfriend the other night. Something I never do anymore. We went dancing for an hour and came home.

I got yelled at because I might have stayed out for hours...even though I didn't.

I could have been anywhere...But I wasn't.

I could have been with anyone in the time I was gone ... But I wasn't.

I think its all just a huge fucking excuse to be mad at me.

that's a husband with huge insecurities.......

........he's gotta lighten up 'cos you will get pissed off with this attitude. In the end it could drive you to do things that you would never even consider if he just gave you the trust you deserve.
 
He actually goes out several nights a week after work. Without me. Never know where he is ...

I never yell at him. I tell him once in a while if we had plans for later and he doesn't show that it might be nice to get a call, but generally I drop it.

I am starting to think his yelling at me is perhaps out of his own guilt.

Okay big breath, thanks for letting me rant. I almost never talk about personal issues on here... thanks again:)
 
MorgaineLaFay said:
He actually goes out several nights a week after work. Without me. Never know where he is ...

I never yell at him. I tell him once in a while if we had plans for later and he doesn't show that it might be nice to get a call, but generally I drop it.

I am starting to think his yelling at me is perhaps out of his own guilt.

Okay big breath, thanks for letting me rant. I almost never talk about personal issues on here... thanks again:)

My hunch would be you're on to something. People who lie always assume they are being lied to.
 
yes

Major insecurities and requires an attitude adjustment.
Perhaps a 9 iron just below the ear.

Real men do not yell... I like that line.
 
The upside is, people yell - or argue, or fight - when they care. When they're indifferent the things that might lead to arguments just roll off.

Why this topic? Sure, could be he worries that he'd do something wrong given an opportunity, or it could be that somebody else he knows is dealing with an infidelity issue, so he's sensitized. Regardless, I think it's fair to point out that there's a significant disconnect between what he expects of you and what he expects of himself, and it does bear resolving fairly.
 
MorgaineLaFay said:
He actually goes out several nights a week after work. Without me. Never know where he is ...

I never yell at him. I tell him once in a while if we had plans for later and he doesn't show that it might be nice to get a call, but generally I drop it.

I am starting to think his yelling at me is perhaps out of his own guilt.

Okay big breath, thanks for letting me rant. I almost never talk about personal issues on here... thanks again:)

Your man sounds more like my woman.:(

Perhaps it's not a gender thing as much as a guilty conscience thing. Or even that he/she senses the end and is scared, a defense mechanism if you will.

Either way it's messed up!
 
miles said:

Yeah

Wanna make something of it, tough guy?





I am starting to think his yelling at me is perhaps out of his own guilt.

You deserve to be honored
He doesn't seem to understand the gift he has been given in you
He needs a wake up call
Bullies aren't much fun
Strong loving men are
 
I know. But at this point it is impossible to "talk" to him. I'm not an arguing person. I really sit back and think before I speak. I ALWAYS think of how the other person might be feeling, no matter what the situation is.

For once last night. I didn't talk. I chose to not react to him. I knew it was a lost battle.

I have tried to share my feelings ... they always go unheard. It is almost like talking to a child. He can't hear me. He only hears himself.
 
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