Men & Women

[Rick DeVille]

We see things differently

Or do we???????????


What is the difference?

 

[Rick DeVille]

Or we can't see them?

 

[kotori]

yeah, i think we see things differently, and i think it's biological

there's only one driving force in life (of any species): the perpetuation of the species. that's why we eat, why we breathe, and ultimately motivates our every action.

in humans, females have twelve chances a year to perpetuate the species (in terms of egg production). males, on the other hand, produce billions of the little fellahs daily. this difference is going to result in different tactics of dissemination (if you will).

women have to be sharpshooters; limited amo. men can take the shootgun approach.

"society" and social conventions and mores are our self-imposed attempts regulating some of these activities. but it is a construct, something we all buy into to some extent.

i should add that i have nothing against monogamy, i can only deal with one relationship at a time, but i think that is part of the social construct which we agree to but have a hard time sticking to, and that's the cause of a lot of dismay.

 

[intrigued]

I think we see many life issues in the same way, its our approach and also our response to the same stimuli/circumstance that distinguishes us. We are raised differently, we are treated differently, thus, we respond differently.
This is why communication is so very vital to our relationships and to our peace of mind. I think this alone is what alienates and divides us, its not about how we are so very different, its about what we do with those differences. Communication can be maddening, but you have to keep at it until you can atleast know you have done your very best to express what is important to you, and let all the other crap go. You just have to build bridges, not walls.

 

[Rick DeVille]

Talking is not that bad if you respect the other point of view

 

[sarahuk4]

I dont think i will ever unstand men till the day i die , you live with a person for years , assume you know them well , then something happens , you realise you know them not ....Men to me are like another species ....aliens !!!!......

 

[intrigued]

Talking is not that bad if you respect the other point of view

Exactly, and having the ability to realize what is really important, and letting the rest go.
People give up so easily, we should listen and talk and touch so much more than we do. There are more ways to communicate than the obvious....

Also simply saying "we're different...accept it" is lovely, but where does that leave us?

 

[Cheyenne]

There's an old tongue-in-cheek (for the most part) Ismael thread around here somewhere complaining about women. The posts there definitely highlight the differences between the way men and women think.