men who want kids?

[sunandshadow]

Okay, I am curious - how many men are there here who are single and actually want kids? It seems like every new guy I meet one of the first things I find out is that he doesn't like or want kids, whereas I want to become a mother. preferably soon, so I promised myself I wouldn't get involved with any guy who doesn't like the idea of getting married and having kids. So are there actually any available guys out there who meet my criteria, or are the few guys who like kids all taken, or what?

 

[singerdave]

There are some of us out there, don't give up on your search

 

[lord_bob]

yeah, I'd quite like kids one day, I seem to be always running into woman who'd never ever want kids, who don't even like them, its a bit sad

 

[KinkyBoyUK]

Okay, I am curious - how many men are there here who are single and actually want kids? It seems like every new guy I meet one of the first things I find out is that he doesn't like or want kids, whereas I want to become a mother. preferably soon, so I promised myself I wouldn't get involved with any guy who doesn't like the idea of getting married and having kids. So are there actually any available guys out there who meet my criteria, or are the few guys who like kids all taken, or what?

id love kids one day, thing is if i meet someone new having kids and married isnt in the forefront of my mind, that would be a long way off

 

[sunandshadow]

If you want kids "one day" but not right now, is that more because you feel you are too young, you feel you don't have enough money, or because you would want to know the woman for some length of time first? I used to be afraid of how much responsibility a child would be, but around when I turned 24 I decided I was ready, and now having just turned 26 I definitely feel ready. Money could be a problem, but I guess when I'm imagining finding a guy to have kids with I optimistically imagine he will have enough money for them. And I definitely would want to know a guy for at least a year before we started trying to conceive a child.

 

[Jason_2006]

i'd definitely want kids one day. maybe 3 or four. but right now, i just want to wait until im financially secure enough

 

[NaughtySmirk]

I want them...it's just scary when a girl asks about it

If I'm out with a woman and I have no idea where it's going - or how interested I am - it definitely freaks me out a bit if she asks how I feel about children. Not that I don't understand where you're coming from. It might be a big incompatability issue down the road and there's no sense getting involved if it's not going to work anyway. But I can't help but feel deep down like it's the female equivalent of a guy asking on a first date if a girl puts out, because otherwise it's not worth it. It's not that the answer is not important, but to me the question itself is a bit of a downer.
But yes, I want kids, as soon as I'm convinced that I'm settled with someone I'm happy with and a reliable job.

 

[NaughtySeafarer]

i hope to father kids one day

 

[Spins]

Okay, I am curious - how many men are there here who are single and actually want kids? It seems like every new guy I meet one of the first things I find out is that he doesn't like or want kids, whereas I want to become a mother. preferably soon, so I promised myself I wouldn't get involved with any guy who doesn't like the idea of getting married and having kids. So are there actually any available guys out there who meet my criteria, or are the few guys who like kids all taken, or what?

I think there are plenty of single guys out there who want kids, but, as with most everyone in thier 20's, we have been burned by the increasing divorce rate and the ever increasing difficulty of just getting by.

I want to have kids. I love kids. I am a kid.

I can imagine nothing more in the world that I want than a loving wife and a couple of kiddos to spend my life with, but i'm not going to place a wife and kids into a situation where they are forced to do without, or they feel they have no security.

Increasingly we find ourselves having to relocate for our jobs, or go back to school to get a higher degree, and finding the time to devout to what is required to maintain our skills to retain the job we have makes finding a wife less of a priority.

Face it. We've (men that is) made to be "domestic". We can now cook, clean, and fend for ourselves. There is no reason to have a large family at a young age for most men(ie no farm labour, millwork, or otherwise "hard" labour").

Most of the women I have met that are my age fit into two categories (My age being 26).

A) They have kids already, are divorced, or were never married, and now they are looking for a partner, but more importantly a father for thier kids.

B) They are very career oriented and they want to hold off on marriage, or don't want to get married at all. They are enjoying the "single-life".

It doesn't describe everyone or every situation, but that has been my experience.

I wish things were easier. Timing has always been important to a relationship, but now it has taken on a bigger role alongside money and compatability.

You can take solace in the fact that you are likley to live an extra 20-30 years and so will have a little more time to get it all

 

[lord_bob]

If you want kids "one day" but not right now, is that more because you feel you are too young, you feel you don't have enough money, or because you would want to know the woman for some length of time first? I used to be afraid of how much responsibility a child would be, but around when I turned 24 I decided I was ready, and now having just turned 26 I definitely feel ready. Money could be a problem, but I guess when I'm imagining finding a guy to have kids with I optimistically imagine he will have enough money for them. And I definitely would want to know a guy for at least a year before we started trying to conceive a child.

well yeah I feel I am too young to start having kids, especially since I wouldnt have a way of supporting them I want to bring kids into a life where I can have the sources to care for them properly, and ofcourse you do have to always know the person for a length of time before having kids, its a big decision

 

[Owain]

I'm 28 and I definitely want children, it's just about the only thing I'm sure of in my future.

 

[John048]

If you want kids "one day" but not right now, is that more because you feel you are too young, you feel you don't have enough money, or because you would want to know the woman for some length of time first? I used to be afraid of how much responsibility a child would be, but around when I turned 24 I decided I was ready, and now having just turned 26 I definitely feel ready. Money could be a problem, but I guess when I'm imagining finding a guy to have kids with I optimistically imagine he will have enough money for them. And I definitely would want to know a guy for at least a year before we started trying to conceive a child.

I'd like to wish you the very best in finding your mate, Being an older Parent of two, I liked what spins said, it takes 2 to raise a child, not just finanially, that actually takes two incomes now, more then before, money does help, don't get me wrong, the nurturing and growth of loving parents are the most important part of a childs developement, my fmr wife and i were about your age when we had our children we were married for 4 years, we waited, purchased a house, wanted to wait another year then have children, But, we had em soon after buying our house it was unexpected but welcomed, lol.
when the two of ya purchase that house together it's supposed to be an investment towards your family and future!
Your feeling your clock ticking which is a good thing, taking your time is still an option but get married to the right guy, discuss your feelings with him about children but not right out of the gate take your time say 3 months find out where he stands on children and what he looks forward to in his & your future about marriage and children (example 2 years down the road) he should be able to give an honest answer and not be a player like some younger ones are! My Hope is your able to find what your seeking! Good luck in your quest!

 

[SexyCleric]

Okay, I am curious - how many men are there here who are single and actually want kids? It seems like every new guy I meet one of the first things I find out is that he doesn't like or want kids, whereas I want to become a mother. preferably soon, so I promised myself I wouldn't get involved with any guy who doesn't like the idea of getting married and having kids. So are there actually any available guys out there who meet my criteria, or are the few guys who like kids all taken, or what?

I want a son some day.
When I'm financially ready.

I mean, honestly, aren't children the only form of immortality that matters?
You get to shape a young mind into a better person than you were.
Teach them of right, wrong, and what mistakes to avoid.

But, then again, ask me again in nine years, and I may have a totally different answer.

 

[hornyaussieman]

re wanting kids

hi im a single male 39 yrs old i have a 16 year old daughter and a 8 month old daughter and the baby was concieved when i was single and given the chance i would have more kids i come from a big family and anyone who ever says they dont want kids isa fool i love both my girls always will

 

[awestley12000]

I'm another "older" single guy

Hi Sunandshadow;

I'm 39 and I would like kids, but I am "older" and I don't want to have my kids growing up and being ashamed to bring their friends over or not being able to do things with them.

I also don't want to start a family just to have kids and them their mom and I divorce.

You are still young I'm sure you'll find someone... be patient.

Oh and on the first or second date don't start talking about having kids; that definitely freeks guys out.

 

[ima6uldv8]

yeah, I'd quite like kids one day, I seem to be always running into woman who'd never ever want kids, who don't even like them, its a bit sad

Very curious as to why you think it's sad if a woman doesn't want/like kids. I'm one. Do you have the same feelings about a man that feels the same way? Why is it expected that every woman on earth should want to take that path? And, why are we treated badly when we say we don't want them?

 

[sic_and_sour]

I can't wait to have kids I am 25

 

[wantonthoughts]

Oh and on the first or second date don't start talking about having kids; that definitely freeks guys out.[/QUOTE]

lol I take it this has happened to you once maybe twice??

 

[Eilan]

I'm 39 and I would like kids, but I am "older" and I don't want to have my kids growing up and being ashamed to bring their friends over or not being able to do things with them.

Um, 39 is NOT older. And, at some point, all kids are embarrassed by their parents, regardless of how old the parents are. They grow out of it.

My husband became a first-time daddy at 45, and chasing after a four-year-old and an almost-three-year old keeps him young.

 

[monkeyback]

Most definitely want kids. I think I even want a lot of them...like, 4-5 at least. But that's not entirely up to me...when I meet the wife, I'll have to find out what she wants.

 

[awestley12000]

Hi Wanttonthoughts;

First date once (I was 22) and second date twice (in my thirties)... The last time (I was 37) we had other dates after that, but the other two times I couldn't wait for that date to end.

 

[Hooper_X]

I am so freaking glad that all of this madness is behind me.

 

[lord_bob]

Very curious as to why you think it's sad if a woman doesn't want/like kids. I'm one. Do you have the same feelings about a man that feels the same way? Why is it expected that every woman on earth should want to take that path? And, why are we treated badly when we say we don't want them?

No I dont have the same feelings about men not wanting kids, per se, because I already dont think much of men anyway, I expect them not to want kids, so I cant think any less of them them than I already do if they dont want kids. If I thought more higly of men and then one said they didnt want kids then I would feel the same way about men not wanting kids as I do about women.
And you're taking my use of the word sad too harshly, I fully accept thats their decision not to want them, but I still think its a bit sad that they want to miss out one of lifes, in my opinion, worthwhile goals. I dont think any less of women for not wanting kids

 

[lord_bob]

Um, 39 is NOT older. And, at some point, all kids are embarrassed by their parents, regardless of how old the parents are. They grow out of it.

My husband became a first-time daddy at 45, and chasing after a four-year-old and an almost-three-year old keeps him young.

exactly
god knows I've seen people only becoming parents into their 60's, my grandfather for example was 30 years older than his wife when they had my father.

And being ashmed to bring home your friends to your parents, that happens to every kid, regardless of age lol