men and female orgasm

axel

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For You, Ladies, to give me some feedback ...
From personal experience, men belong to three catergories:
1)those who dont give a damn whether their partners have an orgasm , as long as they get what they need.
2)Those macho ones who EXPECT their partners to have many orgasms following vaginal penetration and they reject as frigid those partners who would admit that they never had one with them.
3)And those who really care about the quality of Os their partners will have with them no matter how.
Now, You Ladies,I believe you belong to the following categories:
1) Those who have regular Os during every intercourse just by penetration provided their partner lasts reasonably long enough.
2)Those who can reach a climax by penetration but under certain conditions, like the stimulation of a certain spot
(g-spot,cervix etc) long enough, fast enough, and hard enough.
3)Those who need to have their vaginal walls stretched wide enough and been hit deep enough, so they require a specific
size of a male member.
4)Those who can NEVER achieve vaginal orgasm but only clitoral by tongue or fingers.
5)Those who can achieve orgasm ONLY by masturbating with their OWN fingers.
6)Those who need more complicated combinations, like clitoral stimulation with their vagina or anus stimulated too, having their bladder full etc.
7)Those who can NEVER reach an orgasm except with special devices, like extra strong clitoral vibrators .
8)Those who need clitoral vibrators together with dildos or vaginal vibrators or butt toys in all combinations.
(The two last categories can NEVER reach orgasms by a human body, theirs ot their partners.)
9)Of course there is the category of the ones who can never reach an O after they have tried EVERYTHING of the above).

The achievement of Os during lovemaking depends on the combination between the different male and female categories.
For example, in a macho man and a woman-who-climaxes-only-by-clitoral-stimulation relationship the outcome will be faking orgams or mutual rejection.
In a relationship between a caring man and an open-minded woman who communicates her needs there can be established
a complex lovemaking that would satisfy both with the use of female masturbation, use of various toys etc.

ladies, I expect your feedback comments...
 
Wow... After reading all of the categories you've provided for the finer sex, I started getting dizzy! lol Then I kept scrolling back up, and the down, and then back up again just to try to remember which one was what #. ~sigh~ So, I figured it would be easier to just answer your question MY way! ;)

I almost never orgams from just regular vaginal penetration. I require having my clit, nipples, or SOMEthing played with during it (not to mention deep thrusting helps! lol) I can acheieve orgasm from clitoral (usually oral) stimulation alone. I can also achieve orgasm from anal stimulation alone. (I've had some stronger orgasms through anal than I have vaginal.) When alone, I usually never finger my pussy. I use this lovely lil' buzzing device on my clit and slide a finger into my asshole. ;) Was there anything I've forgotten? Another question or such?

~Tiggs~
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Zo kiddo, you might have forgoten sum - ya?

Zo's individuals mit no genitalia.... Ah hah! Und zo's mit der damaged mental states. Und zo's who can cum mit pure mental stimulation - no physical shit - ha????

You didn't zink of zees now did you????

Doctor Axel.
 
Are ya writing your disertation, eh?

Neener neener neener Ours are better than yours!
 
He's category 3 (men), I'm category 2 (women). But that is too general, because it's not one thing every time.

Variety is key for me: fingers, tongue, slow then fast, deep penetration, all do it for me in different moods or on different nights. Start at neck, down to breasts, and ever further down. Or start at toes and work UP! Previous guys did it the same way every time, so boring! The fact that there is genuine love behind the sex is also key.

When he stimulates my G-spot and clit at same time (fingers and/or tongue), that is the ABSOLUTE best, I turn to quivering jelly that just keeps coming. When he slides in slowly, stops all the way in, and doesn't pull out right away, mmm, baby, dotsa so NNNICE! The patience to heat me up over the course of an hour or two, not five minutes like some guys I've known, wait for ME to come before he comes, or simultaneously. Then I flow like a faucet with no "off" position.

If he reads my mood right and responds appropriately, the magic of it sends me over the top several times in quick succession--why settle for ONE orgasm when you can have 3 or 4 right on top of each other? It's the obvious caring about me and being in tune with each other that makes me O (OOOOOO!).

-- Latina
 
I'm mutable. Its been reported, after a 10 year study of the subject, that the G-Spot in the Muffin shifts its position with such irregularity that it can be construed as a regular shift.

In other words, what gets me going one night won't necessarily work the next morning. So, color me all of the above and then some.

My only consistent orgasmic stimulation comes from my brain. If he can engage my wonderful fantasy infrastructure, then he is more than capable of making me wail like a bane sidhe for, dare I say it? hours on end.

Otherwise, I tend toward more tepid orgasmic heights easily mimicked by a few well practiced strokes of my fingers. I utilize such orgasms for purposes such as staying awake, to deflect boredom, or perhaps to regain interest in something I may be writing. Enough to give my cerebral cortex a wakeup call, but not enough to be truly exciting.

Most men are of the I wanna see her cum like crazy variety. For three reasons, in my estimation, 1) Its a real ego booster to have a woman screaming "OH MY GAWD I DIDN'T KNOW YOU COULD DO THAT WITH YOUR (fill in the blank)!! I'M CUMMING AGAIN DON'T EVER STOPPPPP OOOOOOOHHHHH KEEP FUCKING MEEEEEEE!!!!! which leads to reason 2) The desire to get laid again, preferably soon. And reason number 3) They genuinely care.
 
Tiggs, you are lucky both, you and your lover!

Cheri maybe is wright, it wound up like a disertation!But is it my fault if female orgasms have so many flavors and colors like flowers? Believe me, as a very caring man I am dizzy too with the wish to ecplore,discover and fully satisfy!
Your answer kind of confirmed my experience that very few women can reach O only by penetration.I have noticed too what an orgasm triggering bliss can be a hard suck and gentle nibble of an erected nipple!
It very happily surprises me that you can reach an orgasm anally alone -:) -stronger than vaginal.This gives me hope!!!
-:)I always was believing that this can happen but i had had no prooves! You are my only proof!
Tiggs, why you women have abandonned that so natural finger-clit rubbing and you converted to Hitachi fans?Poor medieval wives of the crucaders! There was neither electricity nor batteries back then!
Seriously, I suspect that today's women are too lazy to wait long for an ecstasy that can be achieved easily,stronger and quicker with a taiwanese gadget, but in the long run it makes clit nerve endings sesensitized and your solitary moments consume considerable (now expensive!)
watts ! Dont you think that women have to rethink over toys again? As for the finger in the asshole it has become the international standard orgasm trigger,AT LAST !
Tiggs, have you ever orgasmed by a butt vibrator alone?
Some more questions: Does size affect the possibility of purely vaginal orgasm?
Does your g-spot work? Are you more sensitive on your cervix? When self-loving, can a dildo alone bring you an orgasm without clitoral stimulation?
Do you enjoy masturbating when with your lover?
And the final question: Which one of those Os is the greatest of all and what bodily reaction distinguish it from the rest? (I mean do you cry when you manage a mind-blowing one? or what?)
i thank you for your patience and eloquence, you are just wonderful !!!
 
Sorry, Sparty Kronkite, but I zink i am not German !

Dear Sparky Kronkite,
I am sorry zat i dont speak zingliz like you do!
I admit i forgot zos wizout genitalia, ze aliens too,
but i didnt not forget about women who can cum mit pure mental stimulation! I never met anybody who admitted zi kan!
Zey alway say zey need physical stimulation! If you are interested, to me they happen frequently zoz mental orgasms!
BTW, plz send more posts in order to teach me some german at least!
 
Cheri dear, how I envy you !

Cheri dear, you are right in both: I wound up writing my disertation and if you still help the way you did ,I hope I will soon get my PhD degree on Orgasmology!-:) You are also right to tease me for having better orgasms than we do! Whenever i see a woman in ecstatic rapture I feel unfinished, like the old joke that God made man as a rough sketch in order to perfect his masterpiece : you, women !
Actually Cheri all this is written out of adoration for female orgasms!
 
Lucky Latina!

Dear Latina, i can see that already my classification system starts working!-:)
I completely agree that being in genuine love and in tune with a caring intelligent lover is the prerequisite of orgasmic fulfillment.I am so glad that you found your right man.
But what I meant was that no matter how wonderful and how compatible the relationship, there are still women whose body refuses to gratify them with a Big O unless under some very specific conditions.See for example above that a lovely woman has just said she almost never reaches an O by regular vaginal penetration.Some other need very strong and long clitoral only stimulation with extremely strong devices, regardless of human touch.That was my point !
Thank you for your wonderful description, couples like you two give all people hope !!! And congratulations to your exquisite lover, he honors all our gender!
 
Good Lord! Maybe I never should have asked if you had more questions! lol <scrolling up and down a lot!> Yes, I've achieved orgasm with an anal vibrator. (Damn, vibrations are nice! lol)

"Tiggs, why you women have abandonned that so natural finger-clit rubbing and you converted to Hitachi fans? Seriously, I suspect that today's women are too lazy to wait long for an ecstasy that can be achieved easily,stronger and quicker with a taiwanese gadget, but in the long run it makes clit nerve endings sesensitized and your solitary moments consume considerable (now expensive!)
watts !"

I wouldn't say that I've become lazy by any means. Yes, the vibrations on my clit will bring me to a quick orgasm, but it also makes my clit VERY sensitive all day. (Which can add to awesome playing, etc!)

Yes, my G-spot works. Love it when it's hit!! :) "When self-loving, can a dildo alone bring you an orgasm without clitoral stimulation?" I don't play with my pussy when I masturbate, as stated above.

The biggest, strongest, best orgasm comes from oral stimulation. Also, through that was how I found out I'm capable of squirting. :)

~Tiggs~
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KillerMuffin, you aimed dead center !

ladies,thank you so much for honoring my original post that opened that thread with so much and open, honest feed-back.
it is absolutely true that O springs from the brain, the source of everything.But dont you think that it takes a physical touch to implement it? That's the point!
Of course flavors change in the same woman according to mood and partner but dont you agree that women more or less belong to some discernible "patterns"? Dont you agree that their lovers have to explore those "patterns" and use them to the full advantage of the couple's happiness?
You are quite accurate "returning the favor" and categorize men according to their reason for relishing and yearning orgasms.Allow me to add that category 3 has more "branches"! I know because I belong to that branch that does not mind how his beloved woman achieves an orgasm: by mere penetration when in feverish passion, orally, anally,
gently, roughly,self-caressing, using toys, all the above together, it is irrelevant! What counts for me is that bliss in the eyes, that tremendous release of built up urges' tension, the tears, and then the absolute quietness, the total feeling of calm completeness...
 
I know you're wondering...

I can be brought to orgasm by:

Voice alone - if he can weave a good tale, he can make me cum just by touching my mind. Yes, I have done this a time or two.

My feet - they are sensitive, he washed them for me once, after I had a bad day, then sucked my toes, I can't believe I came like. I fell off the side of the tub and smacked my head on the floor and didn't stop cummin either.

Clitoral - well duh

vaginal - never happened alone

anally - :D

g spot - its there, it works, but it works better if he uses the clit too

anally - :D

breasts - they had no sensation until I turned 22, then all of the sudden boing, instant sparks when he touches them, the slopes of them are just as senstive as the nipples for some reason, but no solitary orgasm from them
 
KillerMuffin ,you and him you have a lucky star!

I am so happy for your prompt and so clear replies.
I am like you, I can cum by the right tale or a discussion or a fantasy.My gf gets extremely aroused by all that but she needs a physical touch.If very aroused ,one O (or up to five so far) can be elicited by minor physical stimulation.
But she maintains that no woman can cum only through her mind alone, without any physical stimulation !
I adore to wash her feet , lick and suck with passion her
toes but she barely concedes ,no pleasure!
You also confirm that for some women vaginal alone NEVER works, no matter what (size,speed,hardness,roughness,spots to hit etc).Even the g-spot needs the clit.
You are the second to confirm that anal can bring an orgasm alone, whereas vaginal alone cannot! It can be a subject by itself! Impressive! Mine had previous horrible experiences and she kept that zone forbitten altogether, even the slightest touch, by a "secret contract" before even we had started dating!
With patience and gentleness and trust we converted within a month ,an abhorred area to a principal area of mutual pleasure and THE orgasm eliciting main center-:), but not still alone!(she still needs the clit). But your
feedback is very promising for a lot of people too who hover over that experience still. I noticed the repeat and the smiley! It seems to work wonders!
Her nipples are supersensitive and they constitute the second major trigger after the anus.But still clit is required, all efforts to become an autonomous center failed!
Well, thanks, your feedback was extremely impressive!
TALES AND TOES, My Gawwwwd!!!
 
tiggs, now you have me mesmerized!

But i feel very lucky I have aksed ALL those questions!
The anal vibration is a very useful feedback,i suppose you will convince many female readers to try it!
But ,pleeeease, tell me why do you have abandonned that so wonderful fingering of the clit? What's wrong with that?
(At least, think of the energy saving!)
I BEG my gf to do that for me but she points always at her super-duper heavy duty machinery that makes the house tremble like an earthquake, the buzz is deafening and the plugs burn and melt.
My gf enjoys her Os better when besides the clitoral massage she feels her butt or vagina full or rammed.
Despite all efforts, we didnt discover the g-spot yet.Is it possible that some women do not have it?
As for squirting following oral, this is my greatest wish and fantasy, it never worked no matter how much we strived!
To say the truth,I didnt believe it really happnes util you confirm me that!
Tiggs,i would like your guidance, may I contact you by e-mail or I can ask your advice publicly?
 
I read the post, I still don't know what the question was or what I'm supposed to give you feed back on..

I must say that I find it odd you can only find three categories of men in the bedroom. From what I've noticed men tend to be a varied lot if nothing else..
 
I have O-ed from vaginal penetration, but only because my clit was being hit like crazy by his groin as it slapped into me.

When I finger myself, I touch my clit only. Vibrator is my method of choice lately because it doesn't need lubrication. However, after the climax, sometimes I insert it because my clit is too sensitve directly afterward and I get some lovely sensations in what I suppose is my g-spot.

I was wondering if men start out as number ones and then mature into being number threes?

I've only once had an orgasm from my nipple being sucked hard, and that was after a very intense orally induced orgasm. That was incredible. Would love to have that happen again!

Gotta remember to ask Whisperhubby to try sucking my toes for me sometime after I've had a hot bath. That sounds like fun, what KillerMuffin talked about!
 
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