Men a question on blowjobs?

[SunshineGirl]

You meet what you consider to be the perfect woman for you. You have just about everything in common, even up to supporting the same teams in sports, Your communication is the best it's ever been, she accepts your bad habits and you accept hers. She loves to sit and talk openly with you about her sexual preferences, letting you know full well what she is looking for, and she in turn listens and accepts what your looking for. You even find out that you are both looking for the same thing.

BUT

It is during this very open discussion that you find out that she's never given head. You talk to her about this and ask why? As any normal man would. She responds that she's never been with a man that she has felt comfortable enough with to do that for him. However she feels something for you that she's never felt with any other man, and she now wants to do this for you, but she doesn't want to just do this she NEEDS to do it for the both of you.

How do you go about making this an experience that you'll both enjoy? How do you go about making her relax? How do you make sure that she'll want to do this again?

Now remember that she's never done this, and as much as you just want to ram your cock to the back of her throat, that would probably put her off ever letting you near her mouth again.

Remember that she may be "The One" for you.

She desperately wants to please you and give you this last piece of her, she wants to do this not only for YOU but herself also.

So how then do you go about making this comfortable for both of you? Do you caress her cheek and guide her? Do you take the talk her through it approach? How far would you expect her to go on that very first time?

Let me know what you would do? And Ladies, how did you feel the first time? Did you let him know it was your first time? Did the first time put any of you off ever doing it again?

 

[Lil-Brandi]

I just had to peek!!!

Sorry I couldn't help it...well I LOVE that uuhh subject...sheesh..ok...I'm leaving now!!!

 

[WriterDom]

I'd probably lie back in the bed and let her experiment with touching, licking, sucking, whatever she wished to do, and not force the issue of my pleasure. If she were truly "the one" there would be ample time for her to improve on her techniques.

 

[Lost Soul]

This has happen to me once with a women who was believe it or not ever older then me.

We went slow and I let her do it at her own speed. I also went to a used bookstore and found a copy of the Senuous Women written in the 70s which help.

In time, she got to be quite good.

 

[livin_simple]

When this happened with me....

We had already made love and were lying together in post-coital peacefulness. In retrospect, this is a good time for a newer level of sharing with each other.

She had obviously spent time considering how she was going to go about giving me oral pleasure. I knew enough to sit back and receive. I only gave her warning when I was about to cum, she elected to finish things off by hand.

Know this, as long as your teeth don't cause any pain, there is no such thing as a 'bad' blowjob. Only variations of an incredibly awesome experience.

 

[GuyJD]

THIS HAS HAPPENED TO ME A COUPLE OF TIMES

I usually talked them through prior to the act. If need be, show them a porn video that contains oral sex.

On the contrary living_ simple, there is no such thing as a bad blow job. Only women who don't give good ones.

 

[CRaZy]

Grabbing the girl roughly by the hair and pounding into her mouth while forcing her up against a wall would be bad. Yea...I don't think that would work. The first guy I ever gave head to consensually just lay there and said - go ahead - experiment - I'm happy with whatever you do. He caressed me gently the whole time, made little utterences of encouragement and I loved it. As I have alluded elsewhere I actually gained a fetish for it. Now given that the first time was non consensual and I should probably have been turned off this for life, it shows what a little kindness, patience, genuine caring and positive feedback can do.

 

[LAVA GODDESSS]

PREVIOUS POSTER BETTER DUCK AND COVER (well the second to before me.)

For some damned reason, I find that post insulting. I dunno why. Just do. Had to vent. Not even capable at the moment to write in full sentences.

sigh.....what are we coming to? porn movie? HA!

 

[Comshaw]

The watch word today boys and girls is "slow", take it slow. If she really is "the one" you have a lot of time ahead of you. My wife and I were together for almost three years before she was comfortable giving me one. And it was a year or so more before she was really good at it. Now the woman wants to devour me on a regular basis! But that's what 30 years of loving and learning will get you.
As I said take it slow, she should learn to enjoy what she is doing, and that doesn't come over night. Patience, communication, practice, that's what it will take.
comshaw

 

[SunshineGirl]

Thank-you all for taking the time to answer.

I see that you just lay back and let them go for it, which I'm sure is the best thing to do in this situation.

Thank-you again, it's kinda helped me out, but I think when the time comes, the man I want to offer this to will be my biggest help.

Like a few of you have said, if she is really "The One" then you have plenty of time to learn/teach together, and I'm pretty sure we would do that.

Thank-you