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lorddragonwolf
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foxy said:
where did they go?
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foxy said:
I am not who you had in mind, I'm quite sure but, I
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I agree with the "what is normal?" statement.
I happen to enjoy giving "strong sensations" my girlfriend enjoys "strong sensations" are we not normal?
If you really get scientific about it, we're very very normal. Maybe we are more "normal" than people who do not engage in "abnormal" activity.
I'll talk about female submissives since those are who I am more interested in, and know more about
Women wear makeup, I'll talk about blush specifically. Why does a "normal" woman wear this? Women wear this to look aroused, to entice men, trick their primal brains into thinking she is sexually excited, and ready.
Why do they wear bras? To lift their breasts, but why do we as humans, and men specificlly like this look?
One of the many reactions to a woman being aroused is extra blood flowing to her face, giving her a glowing look, blush attempts to recreate this and allow her to have it all the time. Some other places this happens is her neck, and her breasts.
There is a lot of talk about humiliation here. I don't think it would be considered "normal" to enjoy humiliation. But let’s look at what happens during this state.
Extra blood flows to the face, reddening it. Depending on how embarrassed she feels, will depend on how noticeable this is, but extra blood also flows to her neck and breasts.
When the extra blood flows to her breasts it tightens the skin, making them firmer. Of course it also plays a part in making her nipples hard, but the tightening of the skin makes the breasts raise up, to a much lesser degree than a bra does, but our primal brain can notice this change.
So in case you missed it, the reaction to both arousal and embarrassment are the same. I haven't seen as much research on where else the blood flows during times of embarrassment, but if I had to guess, I'd have to imagine that there are other parts of the body it flows in greater quantities as well.
So is it "normal" to associate humiliation with arousal? or are some just a little more aware of their bodies? Are men who like to see their partners embarrassed abnormal or are they just a normal man who is a little more aware of his instinctive side and willing to recognize this and feed it?
I happen to enjoy giving "strong sensations" my girlfriend enjoys "strong sensations" are we not normal?
If you really get scientific about it, we're very very normal. Maybe we are more "normal" than people who do not engage in "abnormal" activity.
I'll talk about female submissives since those are who I am more interested in, and know more about
Women wear makeup, I'll talk about blush specifically. Why does a "normal" woman wear this? Women wear this to look aroused, to entice men, trick their primal brains into thinking she is sexually excited, and ready.
Why do they wear bras? To lift their breasts, but why do we as humans, and men specificlly like this look?
One of the many reactions to a woman being aroused is extra blood flowing to her face, giving her a glowing look, blush attempts to recreate this and allow her to have it all the time. Some other places this happens is her neck, and her breasts.
There is a lot of talk about humiliation here. I don't think it would be considered "normal" to enjoy humiliation. But let’s look at what happens during this state.
Extra blood flows to the face, reddening it. Depending on how embarrassed she feels, will depend on how noticeable this is, but extra blood also flows to her neck and breasts.
When the extra blood flows to her breasts it tightens the skin, making them firmer. Of course it also plays a part in making her nipples hard, but the tightening of the skin makes the breasts raise up, to a much lesser degree than a bra does, but our primal brain can notice this change.
So in case you missed it, the reaction to both arousal and embarrassment are the same. I haven't seen as much research on where else the blood flows during times of embarrassment, but if I had to guess, I'd have to imagine that there are other parts of the body it flows in greater quantities as well.
So is it "normal" to associate humiliation with arousal? or are some just a little more aware of their bodies? Are men who like to see their partners embarrassed abnormal or are they just a normal man who is a little more aware of his instinctive side and willing to recognize this and feed it?
foxy said:
I understand what you are saying. And yes, much of the time I think it would be SO much easier to be "normal." Or, in attempt to define that term, it would be easier to be more 'majority.' But I don't think I get to make that choice. And it really sucks sometimes. I understand.
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I can dig it. I'm abnormal and that has caused me a lot of problems; because I am never satisfied with the regular stuff. WHen you invent a normalizer let me know.
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Normal is as normal does, what is normal for one is not for another. Don't put a name on your life like that. It boxes you in and limits it.
You can buy a picket fence and get a dog anywhere. Easy to get but we all know hard to keep.
As for the can't love and not loved. That is a damn shame and is a pure crime agains't nature. None of my business, but why? I am not normally a sensitive man myself, but yet I still find the capacity to love deeply, and thank God, I am loved. Wow, that one little line sure made me mad at whatever it is or was that stopped or hinders that for you. I don't even know you. Hope no one notices I actually had a "nice" thought.
Got a rep to keep and all you know......
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i feel this way alot also. but then i think...if i were normal, would i wanna be something else like who/what i am now? and the answer is always yes.foxy said:
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Been there, totally understand.
Your life is being complicated a lot.
I'm not as cavalier about how much easier it would be than most people, it's not so simple as saying "what's normal is boring, fuck normalcy" you're subject to more tragedy and misunderstanding when you can't seem to be sexually straight.
Your memoir may be a better read if that's any consolation.
Been there, totally understand, but there are days when I would not trade my weird life with anyone.
Your life is being complicated a lot.
I'm not as cavalier about how much easier it would be than most people, it's not so simple as saying "what's normal is boring, fuck normalcy" you're subject to more tragedy and misunderstanding when you can't seem to be sexually straight.
Your memoir may be a better read if that's any consolation.
Been there, totally understand, but there are days when I would not trade my weird life with anyone.
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Netzach said:
Oh, gods, is that ever true.
PyroDemon
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Really, would it be any different if tieing one up and spanking them or being the recipricant of that was "normal" would you feel different? Rules and "normality" are just another means of control. I understand rules they can be of benefit. But "normality" can bite my ass.
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White picket fences certainly wouldn't be normal here. Normality is a hard concept to define.
Personally, I've never been "normal", so it's not something I miss.
But if you WANT to be "normal" (whatever that may be in your head), then what is stopping you? You have only yourself to take you where you want to go. Go be the person you want to be, and have the picket fence you want to have.
Personally, I've never been "normal", so it's not something I miss.
But if you WANT to be "normal" (whatever that may be in your head), then what is stopping you? You have only yourself to take you where you want to go. Go be the person you want to be, and have the picket fence you want to have.
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Once I accepted who and what I really was I finally felt normal.
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One of my best friends is what I call normal.
He has a nice job, house in the suburb, lives with his highschool girlfriend, and they have a dog.
I think that he is happy with his life and I know it's alot easier then my.
It's a nice life but it's not for me, I know that I could never be truly happy with a normal life, I need more.
He has a nice job, house in the suburb, lives with his highschool girlfriend, and they have a dog.
I think that he is happy with his life and I know it's alot easier then my.
It's a nice life but it's not for me, I know that I could never be truly happy with a normal life, I need more.
