Meeting People from Online, In Real time

[Spanktress]

I'm a new member to this site & I'm sure this is something thats been discussed before...

I've had all sorts of experiences with meeting people with who I have chatted with online & would like to share them.. the good the bad & the ugly!!

But I'd like to hear other peoples views/experiences.
*Was it good/bad?
*Were there expectations, & were they met?
*If it was bad, terrible even,due to something the other person did/said, would you tell others as a 'warning'?


I've met close to 100 people from online , at parties in public places, 1-on-1 for 'coffee' & have held a couple of small parties in my home. The majority of 'meets' has been good, some wonderful Have I just been lucky?

*~* Spanks *~*

 

[lovetoread]

I have only met a few online people. Are you not worried about meeting people? Or having them in your home?

More importantly what happened at the meetings where it didnt go well,was it awkward?


I'm very curious....

 

[Brandyi]

Meeting people online

WOW Spanktress 100!!! I don't come close to that, only four but all good experiences.

I'm in the process of a divorce and my friend and I are getting an apartment together, she's one of the 4 I met online.

 

[wildrose69]

Well i do have to comment on this one!! In the last 2 yrs I have prbly met at least 35 people from online...the first was a very nice man....right before my divorce..and after a 16 yr hiatus from sex!!! Not by choice believe me...and out of all the ones I met there was really only one real "ass"...a real smooth talker...but i try to check them out very carefully....and some of my best friends are people I chat with every day online but have never actually met...all in all it's been a great experience...

 

[GeorgiaPeach69]

Meeting Online Friends

I've only met a handful of online friends, but I have been fortunate enough to have had good experiences with it.

Out of those, one turned into a long distance relationship that ended badly, however two of the people I've met have become two of my closest RL friends...in fact, I'm living with one right now.

I've found that the meetings that go best are with online friends that I've associated with the longest, although even that is not a guarantee that all will end well.

 

[tieinguup]

also new here

new to this site but have meet some nice ladys that work out great from other sites.but i have also meet some women that just liked playing mind games,but most have been good.

 

[Brandyi]

Re: Meeting Online Friends

I've found that the meetings that go best are with online friends that I've associated with the longest, although even that is not a guarantee that all will end well.

I agree!, Of the four I have met the one that lives with me now I've knew longer than the rest.

 

[Jellybeangirl]

The meetings I've had have been wonderful experiences. I do think it is important and safer to get to know someone online and speak over the phone first. I've made a few good friends...I haven't had any adverse experiences

My first RL encounter took me around NYC and showed me some sights- I didn't mention that it was all old hat to me...didn't seem to matter..it was rather romantic

 

[paulo1556]

getting personal

As another new to this, I am wondering how true to life your on-line connections were when you got to know them in-person. So many opportunities for role playing (i.e. make-believe). Were single people really single? appearances as described? personalities in keeping with their on-line personae? Would love to hear these types of details.

 

[lovetoread]

Re: getting personal

As another new to this, I am wondering how true to life your on-line connections were when you got to know them in-person. So many opportunities for role playing (i.e. make-believe). Were single people really single? appearances as described? personalities in keeping with their on-line personae? Would love to hear these types of details.

I am always truthful.

If someone cant handle it,then its their loss.

 

[Jellybeangirl]

Re: getting personal

As another new to this, I am wondering how true to life your on-line connections were when you got to know them in-person. So many opportunities for role playing (i.e. make-believe). Were single people really single? appearances as described? personalities in keeping with their on-line personae? Would love to hear these types of details.

There weren't any surprises...maybe that is a surprise...as i haven't met any single people, I can say that the ones i met were indeed married...appearances were as described & personalities the same- even their voices were the same...

 

[JimXO]

I have only met 3 people from online, but it's all been good.I met my wife online...I think most people are truthful,if you talk with them long enough to get to know them.I know my wife is everything i expected,and more!

 

[Spanktress]

lovetoread - I enjoy meeting new people but I dont 'jump right in'. I'm always sure to exchange pics, chat or exchange emails for sometime & chat on the telephone at least once before. As for having people in my home, I feel I'm a good judge of character & have not had any major problems. Altho my very first party I was disappointed to find out that a male I had invited, brought along a couple with him as he thought it was going to be an orgy! Thats not what parties at my home are about. Its about putting faces to names, for the single females to meet males in a safe environment & have people around who know the situation, things like that!

The very first person I met from online was my worst experience & I believe that is because I didnt really know what I was doing. I didnt know how to handle it , went along with what he wanted & ended up feeling very degraded. I learnt from that, made sure to ask more questions, find out if they had expectations & what they were (then sort them out!!)

Over all my experiences have been positive, had a relationship with one , seen several people several times & made some wonderful trusting friendships.

I'll share some of my experiences, the good ones, the bad ones, even the funny ones... soon!

*~* Spanks *~*

 

[lovetoread]

Thanks for telling me that. I was worried about people reading only the good things about meeting people in r/l .

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Online Love

I have only met 3 people from online, but it's all been good.I met my wife online...I think most people are truthful,if you talk with them long enough to get to know them.I know my wife is everything i expected,and more!

Having started a thread of my own here (re: long distance relationships), I have a strong interest in the experiences others have already had with meeting folks through the internet.

So far you are only the 2nd person I've found, Jimxo, who actually married someone they met this way. I would indeed be curious to learn more about your situation (how long you chatted with your wife before actually meeting her; any pitfalls to avoid; etc.). I already believe that honesty is the most important factor in any close relationship. Hoping mine turns out as successfully as yours.

 

[Guest]

Re: Meeting people online

WOW Spanktress 100!!! I don't come close to that, only four but all good experiences.

Yes, that is a lot. Must be fun down under.

I've only been looking around online for a few months so I don't have much experience. I did meet one couple for an afternoon, which went well, though she wasn't entirely my type. They were very nice and attractive though and I have briefly to chatted in person with him when I went back to pick up a wrist watch I'd left on the dresser.

I've also chatted with a few men as potential guests for my wife, but haven't really followed up with any yet. Many single men seem to be a bit too quick to act for my taste. That's probably what keeps them marginalized in the swinger world.

Other than that I've managed a few encounters in the chat rooms with mixed results. One bailed out as soon as the discussion got close (first kiss?). The other was just doing research I think, so I'll probably just be one of her subjects as she tries to figure out what to write about in her stories.
The last was the most interesting, though not quite the romantic type I might prefer and I did manage to lose my cyber-virginity with her. She was married woman hanging out in one the chat rooms on her own and wanted to do something kinky. I obliged her interest and after awhile even picked up three other men for her and brought them to her room! Mostly though, I'd prefer email correspondence to get to know somebody even in this limited way. (In my younger days I had some nice snail mail relationships, which I'd be glad to recount if you are interested.)

 

[KMann]

WOW Spanktress 100!!!

Originally posted by Brandyi
WOW Spanktress 100!!! I don't come close to that, only four but all good experiences.

Yes, that is a lot. Must be fun down under.

I've only been looking around online for a few months so I don't have much experience. I did meet one couple for an afternoon, which went well, though she wasn't entirely my type. They were very nice and attractive though and I have briefly to chatted in person with him when I went back to pick up a wrist watch I'd left on the dresser.

I've also chatted with a few men as potential guests for my wife, but haven't really followed up with any yet. Many single men seem to be a bit too quick to act for my taste. That's probably what keeps them marginalized in the swinger world.

Other than that I've managed a few encounters in the chat rooms with mixed results. One bailed out as soon as the discussion got close (first kiss?). The other was just doing research I think, so I'll probably just be one of her subjects as she tries to figure out what to write about in her stories. The last was the most interesting, though not quite the romantic type I might prefer and I did manage to lose my cyber-virginity with her. She was married woman hanging out in one the chat rooms on her own and wanted to do something kinky. I obliged her interest and after awhile even picked up three other men for her and brought them to her room! Mostly though, I'd prefer email correspondence to get to know somebody even in this limited way. (In my younger days I had some nice snail mail relationships, which I'd be glad to recount if you are interested.)

 

[JimXO]

Re: Online Love

Having started a thread of my own here (re: long distance relationships), I have a strong interest in the experiences others have already had with meeting folks through the internet.

So far you are only the 2nd person I've found, Jimxo, who actually married someone they met this way. I would indeed be curious to learn more about your situation (how long you chatted with your wife before actually meeting her; any pitfalls to avoid; etc.). I already believe that honesty is the most important factor in any close relationship. Hoping mine turns out as successfully as yours.

I was browsing the AOL profiles, and read hers.I sent her email,we talked online for about a month before deciding to meet.
We had exchanged pics,and after a few weeks I asked her to marry me. Neither of us had been looking for marriage,so there was'nt any pressure.The pitfalls to avoid are the same as any other relationship...be honest,patient,and it'll work out! Good Luck!

 

[Spanktress]

100!

I've received a few PM's about this & I just wanted to say that a majority of the people I've met has been at parties , around 65-70% I'd say!

*~* Spanks *~*

 

[Spanktress]

1 & Only LDR Online Became very short Real time One !!

I did have a long distance relationship ,with someone who I met online. Neither of us was expecting the way our feelings towards each other developed.Within 1 mth we were chatting online 4hrs a day (2hrs am/2hrs pm!!) , telephone calls every 2nd day, emails, snail mail, the works!! We discussed our dreams, desires, fears, life ambitions & of course numerous photos. He lived in the UK & after 5mths he finally booked a ticket to Australia. Before his arriving we discussed things such as our long term future, what we would need to do to get his visa extended (get married!!) things like that.
Unfortunately after 3 days of his being here, I'd asked him to pack his bags & to make other arrangements while waiting for his visa to expire
There were a few things why our real time relationship wasnt successful. For me, there was no chemisty, physical attraction. I might be a hopeless romantic or something but when I thought about meeting him off the plane, I'd daydream we would run into each others arms.We did hug & exchanged kisses on the cheek, but that was the extent of physical contact the whole time he was here!!
The other thing, on his 2nd nite here, he asked me about something & how I would feel if he were to do it (not something I want to share). The next morning he admitted he had done it, even tho I'd told him it would hurt me & show me that he didnt trust me

I dont intend to ever get into another long distance relationship!!

*~* Spanks *~*

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Thank You Spanktress

Thank you for sharing you LDR experience. Would it be ok for me to copy this reply to my thread on this site? I'm sure others who have posted there would benefit as well from this insight.

And thank you Jimxo for sharing as well and for your good wishes.

 

[seth6138]

FIRST TIME

about 5 years ago, after spending 6 months in a AOl chat room, i decided to attend a room "lunch." About 30 roomies attended it. My only real way to describe it was....Do you remember the bar scene in "Starr Wars?"

 

[lovetoread]

Re: FIRST TIME

My only real way to describe it was....Do you remember the bar scene in "Starr Wars?"

Laughing

What exactly do you mean? That it was really crowded or that they were all aliens??

 

[seth6138]

rent the movie. midgets, aliens, three breasted women, one eyed purple people

 

[lovetoread]

three breasted women

And that one was bad??