Meeting new people

[docisin]

Hi everyone. Questionaire: You're in a bar, or somewhere you want to meet someone. You spot someone that looks kinda cool. Guys: what do you say? Opening lines, etc. Girls: what do you like to hear, and what do you NOT want to hear? Thanks in advance, I really love posting on this board, because everyone always gives great, helpful answers...

 

[hotNnasty]

I like an introduction first. "Hi, my name is xxxx" As long as a corny line doesn't follow that I'm ready to talk

 

[Lust Engine]

Skip all the cheesy opening lines. Don't come across with any airs or cockiness.

A simple "Hi!" will usually suffice. Be yourself. You might want to say something along the lines of "I could help but notice blah-blah-blah about you" & then see where things go. Be confident & if no magic then so be it... move on. But a friendly un assuming manner has always worked well for me.

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[AngelEyes78]

Girls: what do you like to hear, and what do you NOT want to hear?

Men that start a normal conversation usually are the winners of attention. No cheesy pick up lines (as far as I know, they just make women want to laugh and leave the area). Actually act interested in what I have to say. Hmm..that's about all I can think of right now. It's been awhile since I've been in the "dating" arena. Hope that helps.

 

[LoneOne]

Re: Re: Meeting new people

Men that start a normal conversation usually are the winners of attention. ... Actually act interested in what I have to say.

Strange, everytime I tried something like this it stoped at the "Ok we are now friends"-thing.

I don´t get over this act interested part, they will talk and talk and talk..., ok I think it is my problem to point out that I like these persons.
But hey, I ask myself everytime : What could I say without the feeling that I sound stupid?

And so Docisins question is a good one, what do you think doesn´t sound stupid in such an situation?

By the way, why it is always the mens part to Pick-Up Ladies.
I don´t know many woman who take the first step, 90 % of the relationships I remember (friends, people at shool etc.) starts with He takes the first step.

One thing is sure, you can´t start a relationship by a pick-up line like "Nice shoes, wanna fuck" (Yes there are people who tried this, not me)

 

[AngelEyes78]

Re: Re: Re: Meeting new people

I don´t get over this act interested part, they will talk and talk and talk..., ok I think it is my problem to point out that I like these persons.
But hey, I ask myself everytime : What could I say without the feeling that I sound stupid?

By the way, why it is always the mens part to Pick-Up Ladies.
I don´t know many woman who take the first step, 90 % of the relationships I remember (friends, people at shool etc.) starts with He takes the first step.

Most men that have started conversations with me in any arena (be it bar, club, etc..) haven't really sounded stupid to me unless they use lines like "You must be tired...you've been running through my mind all night".

I don't think it should always be up to the man to start conversations either. As a matter of fact, when I was on the dating scene, I am usually the one that took first initiative. And on that note, women sometimes feel like they sound stupid too

 

[SexyChele]

For me a man who can say something that makes me laugh will grab my attention. (As long as the comment isn't a sarcastic dig at another person, and the humor isn't off color) I've actually had a couple of men use a bad pickup line as a joke - and that works. They realize it's cheesy, they are too shy to come up with something, and it gets me laughing. All good things. After that, it really boils down to a man simply being himself. That doesn't mean that every being himself is going to be some one I'm attracted to, but I will take the time to get to know him.

Oh, and LoneOne? Most women do initiate. While some women do, a lot of women don't go up to men and initiate a conversation. But they will position themselves so that they are seen, initiate eye contact, smile welcomingly. I'm always so amazed when men say they have to do it all. As a woman, it is sometimes difficult to grab that man's attention so he finally gets the clue to come over and say something!

 

[MightyZor]

I would say this lie: "I don't believe in coincidences! You were in my class in (whatever name) high school" she's gonna say no, she went to another high school. YOu answer, "oh really? Sorry then, my name is BOB by the way."

 

[homerjay]

Anytime I'm nervous or don't know quite what to say after the innitial greetings, I usually say something like "Come here often?" or the like. Don't do that.