Me...venting..

[StrawberryPez]

For about the last year my life just seems to be getting worse. My marriage fell apart and instead of disillusioning myself and saying life will get better, I left. I've been staying with my parents. I don't have the money for a full on divorce yet so we are separated. Well today I got a package in the mail from my soon-to-be ex and it was a card saying how sorry he was and how much he loves me and a ring.......It just made me mad that after the whole time we were together he had all these chances to show me how much he loved me and to let me feel how much he loved me....and he didn't. Then I leave because I can't take the depression, the hurt, the crying, the torment....and he says "I've been crying for days....I've been hurting for a week" A week!!! A friggin week!!! I've been hurting for a year!!! Then to top it all off when I get this package and I say that he can just shove it...my dad tells me "you are just confused...you don't know what you are feeling" WTF?!! My dad doesn't EVER talk to me...where does he get off thinking he can tell me that!! I cry every day about how horrible I felt in this marriage and I'm amazed at how great I feel now that I'm not with him....and my dad says I'm confused...*sigh* I need a hug.....a big ol' huge one...

sorry...I just needed to vent.....

 

[perks]

HUGGING YOU!!!

sorry you have to deal with this shit, sugah. Hang in there. Don't let anyone who doesn't know the reality tell you what you're feeling.

 

[RawHumor]

I'm sorry, sweetie... cyber-hugs just aren't as revitalizing as the real thing.

As for your ex, it's the same old story - you don't know what you've got until it's gone.

He had you. You were there every day for him. He started to take you for granted. You were unhappy and you left him. He now realizes what he had in you and he wants that (or you) back.

 

[Cibo]

*hugs berry*

 

[StrawberryPez]

Thank you guys for the kind words.

It's just so hard....i feel so by myself about this. I never know if anyone is on my side. In the past week i had 5 of his friends tell me how they are worried about HIM and how upset HE is. All i could think was "what about me? Doesn't anyone care how i feel?" Then my dad seemed like he was on my ex's side also. That was a hell of a blow. I just want it all to be over....so i don't cry anymore.

 

[Kelly_Liscious]

Hello StrawberryPez,

I know I am not a " regular" Lit ... I am new to the boards... as you can see by my post count....


But you should do what makes you happy. I am sure you are going through an array of emotions and I am sure you are feeling uncertain about certains things. But you should follow your heart and do what you feel is best for yourself. Think about yourself ... Life is short and you should live life to the fullest and enjoy yourself and be happy.

I hope you feel better and I hope all goes well for you.

 

[huskie]

I take it you have no kids with this man???? If so, then just walk away......
It hurts and all but there are other people out there. You WELL find them. Just think, you feel better to be out of this marriage and (I think?) you don't have kids with him.............. He has nothing on you. Nothing that can FORCE you back or effect your life anymore.

You will get over this and you will be smarter for it. You may not realize it now but you will.

 

[StrawberryPez]

Hello StrawberryPez,

I know I am not a " regular" Lit ... I am new to the boards... as you can see by my post count....


But you should do what makes you happy. I am sure you are going through an array of emotions and I am sure you are feeling uncertain about certains things. But you should follow your heart and do what you feel is best for yourself. Think about yourself ... Life is short and you should live life to the fullest and enjoy yourself and be happy.

I hope you feel better and I hope all goes well for you.

Thank you very much Kelly..That's why i'm trying my hardest to do..i went out yesterday...and didn't really think of anything that was wrong in my life. It was very nice.

Welcome to Lit


Huskie I didn't have kids with him...thank god. And i tell myself every day how i feel better now...i've even lost weight...and i feel really good.

 

[unclej]

i'm truly sorry for your troubles but here's Dr. Unclej's prescription...take a really stiff bourbon and coke, rub it on a sore spot and if it doesn't get better call me in the morning...

 

[chidbar]

Hay Strawberry, I can't say I know what your going through, nobody does because it is always different, but I can relate. In my opinion what you need to do is examine what is in your heart and make your decision based on that. You must always be true to your heart that is the only way you can be true to yourself.

Also if you need someone to vent to I can listen very well, as I say I can relate and refuse to judge. LOL

 

[penguindance]

 

[chidbar]

One other thing, about Dr. Unclej's perscription, don't turn to the bottle the answers are never at the bottom, use all the support you have, it is hard but booze is not the answer. LOL

There now you got a dozen roses from a friend.

 

[chidbar]

I have one thing to say. Every time the men in my life start to piss me off, I say it to myself, and I feel a little better.

MEN SUCK.

End of story. We just have to try not to let the fact that THEY suck get in the way of OUR plans.

As a man I agree we SUCK at times but so do Women at times.

 

[penguindance]

 

[StrawberryPez]

Thanks a lot all of you. And i will keep you in mind Chidbar if i need further venting and thanks for the roses

PLS....men do SUCK hehe thanks for the grin i got from reading your post.


UncleJ....I'd probably end up calling you in the morning LOL

 

[chidbar]

I know sweetie. But we're cute while we're doing it.

A girlfriend of mine has a saying...I'd be a lesbian...but women are too damn crazy.

I love that. Thx you just brightened my day.

 

[penguindance]

 

[Monazwx]

Pez

So sorry to hear what you're going through. It's sad that now that he realizes what he's lost and carrying on badly, he's getting all the attention and sympathy.

Stand your ground though, cause it's your life and you deserve to be happy too. Only after moving out of the house, this guy wants to make up. Sounds like he's the one who needs to rethink things, not you and thank goodness threre's only you to think about.

It's good to vent. Here's your hug ((((((BERRY)))))))))
(And you know you have my support).

 

[chidbar]

Nope it couldn't.

But remember "if we weren't all CRAZY we would go INSANE."

By the strawberry I send you lots of hugs, use them as needed and if you run out there is more where they came from.

 

[StrawberryPez]

Re: Pez

So sorry to hear what you're going through. It's sad that now that he realizes what he's lost and carrying on badly, he's getting all the attention and sympathy.

Stand your ground though, cause it's your life and you deserve to be happy too. Only after moving out of the house, this guy wants to make up. Sounds like he's the one who needs to rethink things, not you and thank goodness threre's only you to think about.

It's good to vent. Here's your hug ((((((BERRY)))))))))
(And you know you have my support).

Thank you very much. My heart goes out to all of you for helping cheer me up. I deeply appreciate it

 

[crysede]

That's rich, you're confused and he's suffering, next I suppose they'll tell you all the pain you've been in for the last year was just hormones. I mean chicks cry all the time right? No big deal - but a guy crying, oh that's serious, that means he's really in pain!

Hang in there babe, and don't be shy about telling everyone in no uncertain terms that it's over with him, don't let them convince you you're the bad guy. He had his chance, you don't owe him a second one, and you don't owe anyone an explanation for not giving him one.

And *hugs*!

 

[LukkyKnight]

My solution to those who opt to tell a separated person they don't know what they're losing/throwing away, or whatever, was always to say, "Here's the deal: you go live with her, I already admitted I can't." Nobody wants to live with my ex. It helped put it into perspective for them.

 

[StrawberryPez]

*hugs Crysede* Thank you so much for that. It's the best thing i've heard so far. I hate trying to explain myself. I get frustrated and cry harder. So i'm going to have to do that from now on and not say anything.