Me and my wife are experimenting

[ADIDAS00]

So me and my wife are going through a renaissance. We’re asking “why not” instead of “why”. We’re venturing out and dipping our toes in the water of what it means to go outside of our marriage. We both have a “friend” that we talk to. We’re still in the flirting stage. We haven’t taken the plunge into actually doing anything physical but the more we push the envelope the more we feel closer and the more we have sex(literally daily sex). It’s been great for us so far. I’m still looking for the downside. Is there a downside?

 

[Nudeblackgirl]

So me and my wife are going through a renaissance. We’re asking “why not” instead of “why”. We’re venturing out and dipping our toes in the water of what it means to go outside of our marriage. We both have a “friend” that we talk to. We’re still in the flirting stage. We haven’t taken the plunge into actually doing anything physical but the more we push the envelope the more we feel closer and the more we have sex(literally daily sex). It’s been great for us so far. I’m still looking for the downside. Is there a downside?

Everything has potential downsides. NOT trying this has downside, maybe your marriage needs it at this point and you take greater risk by not doing it.

You seem to be thoughtful about it, and considerate of eachother, and most importantly it seems like you're both on the same page. Why NOT do it?

Have fun

 

[PapaRomantic]

So me and my wife are going through a renaissance. We’re asking “why not” instead of “why”. We’re venturing out and dipping our toes in the water of what it means to go outside of our marriage. We both have a “friend” that we talk to. We’re still in the flirting stage. We haven’t taken the plunge into actually doing anything physical but the more we push the envelope the more we feel closer and the more we have sex(literally daily sex). It’s been great for us so far. I’m still looking for the downside. Is there a downside?

Jealousy is an issue in many cases. You need to understand that usually the women in the relationship has an easier time finding partners outside the marriage than the man does. Had a friend from Lit where this was the case. Her husband was the one pushing for an open marriage and she went along with it and found that getting partners for her wasn't a problem at all, but when he struggled, he was ready to close the marriage, and that wasn't going to happen for her.

I wish you luck and lots and LOTS of communication and careful planning!

 

[ADIDAS00]

Everything has potential downsides. NOT trying this has downside, maybe your marriage needs it at this point and you take greater risk by not doing it.

You seem to be thoughtful about it, and considerate of eachother, and most importantly it seems like you're both on the same page. Why NOT do it?

Have fun

Thanks for the reply. We’ve always talked about it and fantasized about it. It seems natural now that we’re actually doing it. We both feel excited and aroused by it all. I’m still trying to pin point the down side

 

[ADIDAS00]

Jealousy is an issue in many cases. You need to understand that usually the women in the relationship has an easier time finding partners outside the marriage than the man does. Had a friend from Lit where this was the case. Her husband was the one pushing for an open marriage and she went along with it and found that getting partners for her wasn't a problem at all, but when he struggled, he was ready to close the marriage, and that wasn't going to happen for her.

I wish you luck and lots and LOTS of communication and careful planning!

I’m just not the jealous type. I’m confident and secure in my own skin. I know she’s super hot and she can get anyone she wants. I actually like that. She also encourages me to find women…I’m attractive too but not arrogant. I personally think this is the best thing we’ve ever done

 

[SmokingFap]

So me and my wife are going through a renaissance. We’re asking “why not” instead of “why”. We’re venturing out and dipping our toes in the water of what it means to go outside of our marriage. We both have a “friend” that we talk to. We’re still in the flirting stage. We haven’t taken the plunge into actually doing anything physical but the more we push the envelope the more we feel closer and the more we have sex(literally daily sex). It’s been great for us so far. I’m still looking for the downside. Is there a downside?

No.

 

[Nudeblackgirl]

No.

Lol.

Kind of agree.

 

[SmokingFap]

Lol.

Kind of agree.

Hi, NBG. What are you doing up so late?

 

[Drussrek]

I could never and would never share or be able to countenance any girlfriend or fiance with another man (or a woman).

If you play with fire you get burned. It feels warm and hot and comforting now. Later it will take your flesh from your bones.

The being closer and more sex is in part, conaciously or unconsciously, trying to hold onto the relationship and each other. You want to be enough for her and vice-versa. This threatens that. It is hot and alluring, but going into it will only cause pain. It is a siren song.


My 2 cents anyway.

 

[magicalmoments]

The biggest downside is the possibility that one of you will not cope well with knowing the other is fucking someone else when it happens for real. Call it insecurity, jealousy, whatever, if one of you has a negative reaction you'll have a really bigly downside.

No matter how well you prepare, talk through the potential scenarios and consequences, have contingency plans, you may both be absolutely convinced you're ready for the big step and can handle the emotions involved... then... out of the blue... downside.

But, good on you for trying it, I applaud you both and hope it all works out. Keep us informed.

 

[HottieOlwen]

So me and my wife are going through a renaissance. We’re asking “why not” instead of “why”. We’re venturing out and dipping our toes in the water of what it means to go outside of our marriage. We both have a “friend” that we talk to. We’re still in the flirting stage. We haven’t taken the plunge into actually doing anything physical but the more we push the envelope the more we feel closer and the more we have sex(literally daily sex). It’s been great for us so far. I’m still looking for the downside. Is there a downside?

The man who was then my husband (he's my cuckold now) and I discussed the same scenario. Richard has a tiny cock and suffers from p.e. When he suggested I find a better equipped lover, we argued, and I left our marital bed. After we made up, we started swinging, but Richard's lack of size and his inability to restrict his cumming very quickly meant that we were soon being excluded from swinging parties. That's when I became a Hot wife. My only advice would be to be perfectly open and truthful with one another. Do nothing that is not totally consensual. And good luck!

 

[Veeweewee]

Jealousy is an issue in many cases. You need to understand that usually the women in the relationship has an easier time finding partners outside the marriage than the man does. Had a friend from Lit where this was the case. Her husband was the one pushing for an open marriage and she went along with it and found that getting partners for her wasn't a problem at all, but when he struggled, he was ready to close the marriage, and that wasn't going to happen for her.

I wish you luck and lots and LOTS of communication and careful planning!

This.

That first hurdle is slaying the jealousy monster. If you can BOTH get past that, and it will be an issue whether you think so or not, you'll have to overcome that.

Then exactly as Papa says, your wife is going to get a lot more sex than you, especially if she is attractive. In our case that is what turns my husband on. He knows he can cum twice at best, and that we ladies can just keep going.


That can make for uncomfortable dynamics at sex clubs where no single guys are allowed, but if you find a group with the right mix and good people, it can be fucking amazing.


Good luck and do go carefully.

 

[Wonderer67]

It’s been great for us so far. I’m still looking for the downside. Is there a downside?

My wife and I have talked about this too. There are tons of downside (break up, jealousy, unmet expectation or works for one and not the other)

Also some upside too. (Different and new sexual experiences, realizing fantasies, having outrageous fun).

Neither of us have taken the real plunge (I play around w people here virtually from time to time - she’s is aware), but we won’t IRL, till both parties are ready. There’s a good chance my wife will never be ready and that’s ok too.

I would never want to fuck up my marriage. For us, strong and honest communication is key.

 

[cowboyup6977]

been in the lifestyle for a while
It has only improved our relationship
But have seen it destroy others if you want to talk about it

 

[ADIDAS00]

I could never and would never share or be able to countenance any girlfriend or fiance with another man (or a woman).

If you play with fire you get burned. It feels warm and hot and comforting now. Later it will take your flesh from your bones.

The being closer and more sex is in part, conaciously or unconsciously, trying to hold onto the relationship and each other. You want to be enough for her and vice-versa. This threatens that. It is hot and alluring, but going into it will only cause pain. It is a siren song.


My 2 cents anyway.

Is it though? I kind of disagree. We’ve been together since high school. We have an extremely close bond and a really great marriage. The kind of marriage most people dream of. We often say, “if we could only tell the the secret to our happiness “.

We’ve had phases of lots of sex and then phase of a little sex. We kind of ride the waves. We’re on a huge wave right now and we’re not gonna let go.

And you say “this threatens that”. Threatens what? We’ve never been more in love and more connected. Hell, she screens her messages through me half the time to make sure she doesn’t send any thing too weird, lol. I still can’t see the negative

 

[ADIDAS00]

The biggest downside is the possibility that one of you will not cope well with knowing the other is fucking someone else when it happens for real. Call it insecurity, jealousy, whatever, if one of you has a negative reaction you'll have a really bigly downside.

No matter how well you prepare, talk through the potential scenarios and consequences, have contingency plans, you may both be absolutely convinced you're ready for the big step and can handle the emotions involved... then... out of the blue... downside.

But, good on you for trying it, I applaud you both and hope it all works out. Keep us informed.

First of all, thank you for the nice message. I appreciate it.

Maybe I just missed the jealousy emotion. I think maybe when I was younger I could have been jealous. But now, I almost live vicariously through her. When she’s happy and giddy, so am I. When she’s sad, so am I. It’s like we’re one….kind of how marriage is supposed to be.

He’s a great guy too. I’ve met him multiple times. I have no problems with her sending him pics and talking dirty with him. He might be the perfect first guy for her

 

[Britva415]

you say “this threatens that”. Threatens what? We’ve never been more in love and more connected

There's a risk that once this happens for real, it will be a threat. You haven't gone through with it yet, so, you can't be sure you'll be this secure afterwards.

 

[ADIDAS00]

There's a risk that once this happens for real, it will be a threat. You haven't gone through with it yet, so, you can't be sure you'll be this secure afterwards.

Maybe I’m just not getting it. I’d love for her to experience something new. In a way, I’d almost be proud of her for doing it. Am I just crazy?

 

[ADIDAS00]

This.

That first hurdle is slaying the jealousy monster. If you can BOTH get past that, and it will be an issue whether you think so or not, you'll have to overcome that.

Then exactly as Papa says, your wife is going to get a lot more sex than you, especially if she is attractive. In our case that is what turns my husband on. He knows he can cum twice at best, and that we ladies can just keep going.


That can make for uncomfortable dynamics at sex clubs where no single guys are allowed, but if you find a group with the right mix and good people, it can be fucking amazing.


Good luck and do go carefully.

Thank you for the reply! I appreciate it. I really do.

We’re not much into the sex club idea….but we’d like for her to have a list of guys she can call and text and flirt with….and occasionally meet. We’re very private so clubs just don’t do it for us.

However, we’re both attractive and we both get hit on quite a bit which we like. We’re our own best cheerleaders. When a woman hits on me, my wife is all for it. Lick and I’m the same way for her. It’s like we’re a team

 

[ADIDAS00]

My wife and I have talked about this too. There are tons of downside (break up, jealousy, unmet expectation or works for one and not the other)

Also some upside too. (Different and new sexual experiences, realizing fantasies, having outrageous fun).

Neither of us have taken the real plunge (I play around w people here virtually from time to time - she’s is aware), but we won’t IRL, till both parties are ready. There’s a good chance my wife will never be ready and that’s ok too.

I would never want to fuck up my marriage. For us, strong and honest communication is key.

Great reply!! Thank you!!

I too wouod never want to jeopardize my marriage. But I think the further we go down this road, the closer we become. We talk more, we open up about everything, we have great sex all the time.

The more they text, the more me and her talk about it and connect and make love. And vice versa. It’s been like a magic pill for us

 

[bjlatx]

My wife and I opened our marriage this year and it’s been great. I haven’t acted on my side yet and I don’t know if I will. My wife now has 5 regular lovers, some more regular than others. I’ve watched her many times in person and she’s also made several videos for me. Our only regret is that we didn’t do this 20 years ago.

 

[ADIDAS00]

been in the lifestyle for a while
It has only improved our relationship
But have seen it destroy others if you want to talk about it

Maybe it depends on how good the marriage is in the first place? I could see if we were struggling how this could be detrimental. But we’re on cloud 9 loving life together. We’re looking at things from a different angle…through a different light…and it’s amazing

 

[Monica_112]

So me and my wife are going through a renaissance. We’re asking “why not” instead of “why”. We’re venturing out and dipping our toes in the water of what it means to go outside of our marriage. We both have a “friend” that we talk to. We’re still in the flirting stage. We haven’t taken the plunge into actually doing anything physical but the more we push the envelope the more we feel closer and the more we have sex(literally daily sex). It’s been great for us so far. I’m still looking for the downside. Is there a downside?

Is this one friend you’re both going to play with together or are you aiming for individual sessions. What rules have you negotiated?

with the latter, in the absence of fetish (hot wives or control etc) the one who is less succesful, which is more likely the male because sex for women is easily obtainable and takes far less time and effort, will more likely feel aggrieved or jealous over time, especially in a more vanilla world If you’re planning on playing together then less risky

well that’s what I think anyway

 

[Jcam1980s]

I wish my wife was open to it, I'd love to see a guy or guys bareback her and watch her cum with them

 

[ADIDAS00]

My wife and I opened our marriage this year and it’s been great. I haven’t acted on my side yet and I don’t know if I will. My wife now has 5 regular lovers, some more regular than others. I’ve watched her many times in person and she’s also made several videos for me. Our only regret is that we didn’t do this 20 years ago.

Right!!! We always say that we wish we could tell more people our secret to a happy marriage. We’ve fantasized for years but I wish we would have gone down this road sooner. It’s been such a fun, adventurous and satisfying journey together