Maybe it is best if I leave Lit........
- Thread starter phace5
- Start date
inferiormale
Virgin
- Joined
- Apr 8, 2002
- Posts
- 27
Why not?
Why don't you fit in? If you are one of those people who enjoys sex, you should fit in.
Why don't you fit in? If you are one of those people who enjoys sex, you should fit in.
Ebonyfire
Ball Stretcher
- Joined
- Jan 6, 2002
- Posts
- 11,729
phace5 said:
If that is how you feel, then do so. However, I do not think that is the problem. It is your frenquent posting in public of things that should be done in a personal message.
Post topics for all to reply to, and limit your personal messages to the specific people who they are meant for.
That is not too much to ask for.
And try searching for your desired links before trying to get other people to do it for you. Just go to google.com and type in whatever you're looking for. No harder than starting a thread on it here, and with faster results.
Gotta admit, it's a rather humorous contrast between your obviously submale mentality and the fact that you keep trying to make us your bitches.
Gotta admit, it's a rather humorous contrast between your obviously submale mentality and the fact that you keep trying to make us your bitches.
Goddess Helena
Really Really Experienced
- Joined
- Aug 30, 2002
- Posts
- 471
Thank you, Ebony and Quint. 
phace5, I have started one thread in My time here at lit. In large part because I cannot think of topics that have not already been covered. I post on other people's threads. I try to be supportive and share My experiences as a Domme and as a woman. I try to be a positive part of this comminity. I do not ask for much nor do I except much beyond respect, which I try to give as well.
This board is what W/we make of it.
Helena
phace5, I have started one thread in My time here at lit. In large part because I cannot think of topics that have not already been covered. I post on other people's threads. I try to be supportive and share My experiences as a Domme and as a woman. I try to be a positive part of this comminity. I do not ask for much nor do I except much beyond respect, which I try to give as well.
This board is what W/we make of it.
Helena
slvjenn
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Jul 18, 2002
- Posts
- 174
excuse me if i'm way off base here..but here is my 2 cents...
this post is one that shows you're seeking attention, and looking for people to ask you to stay. Want to be told that you're accepted and liked.
People here may love me or hate me, or just have no feelings one way or another. It really doesn't matter much to me one way or another.
The point of this is that it looks to me that you're confusing submission with a desire to be accepted. Somehow you have an idea that by being submissive (or to be submissive) you should always be looking around to make sure that "dom types" approve.
That is far from the case. The "dom types" here really should matter little to you or how you view yourself.
I think you might want to try to just either lurk for a while or refrain from posting new threads and only reply to others.
A small list of your recent topics:
Thread: Kinky e-cards.....
Post: Kinky e-cards.....
Preview: Any links please?
<answer> http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&q=kinky+e-cards
Thread: Maybe it is best if I leave Lit........
Post: Maybe it is best if I leave Lit........
Preview: I do not seem to fit in here.
<answer> see above and below>
Thread: An ex-girlfriend of mine bought...
Post: An ex-girlfriend of mine bought...
Preview: a leather whip, but we split up before she used it.
Not knowing what it feels like is driving me stupid.
<answer> not really a question
Thread: Trying to find......
Post: Trying to find......
Preview: BDSM fiction containing dominant women and sub men.
Most seems to be the other way around.
<answer> http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/t...102-8524493-6468927?v=glance&s=books&n=507846
Thread: Pixie mischief.......
Post: Pixie mischief.......
Preview: <deleted>
<personal, should have been a PM>
Thread: On television I once saw a dominatrix....
Post: On television I once saw a dominatrix....
Preview: Severely whip a man and wondered how you deal with the welts that are left.
Surely they stay for life?
<answer> ice makes them feel better for me (tho i'm not into pain so don't have much experience) no, they surely do not stay for life.
I'll stop there...but to me these posts just screem LOOK AT ME LOOK AT ME. But really add nothing to this forum. I'm not saying I have the best threads in the world
but i'm not baiting people at every turn either.
So stay, go, do what makes you happy, but don't do it because you don't feel excepted or aren't getting the level of exceptence that you are looking for from complete strangers.
this post is one that shows you're seeking attention, and looking for people to ask you to stay. Want to be told that you're accepted and liked.
People here may love me or hate me, or just have no feelings one way or another. It really doesn't matter much to me one way or another.
The point of this is that it looks to me that you're confusing submission with a desire to be accepted. Somehow you have an idea that by being submissive (or to be submissive) you should always be looking around to make sure that "dom types" approve.
That is far from the case. The "dom types" here really should matter little to you or how you view yourself.
I think you might want to try to just either lurk for a while or refrain from posting new threads and only reply to others.
A small list of your recent topics:
Thread: Kinky e-cards.....
Post: Kinky e-cards.....
Preview: Any links please?
<answer> http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&q=kinky+e-cards
Thread: Maybe it is best if I leave Lit........
Post: Maybe it is best if I leave Lit........
Preview: I do not seem to fit in here.
<answer> see above and below>
Thread: An ex-girlfriend of mine bought...
Post: An ex-girlfriend of mine bought...
Preview: a leather whip, but we split up before she used it.
Not knowing what it feels like is driving me stupid.
<answer> not really a question
Thread: Trying to find......
Post: Trying to find......
Preview: BDSM fiction containing dominant women and sub men.
Most seems to be the other way around.
<answer> http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/t...102-8524493-6468927?v=glance&s=books&n=507846
Thread: Pixie mischief.......
Post: Pixie mischief.......
Preview: <deleted>
<personal, should have been a PM>
Thread: On television I once saw a dominatrix....
Post: On television I once saw a dominatrix....
Preview: Severely whip a man and wondered how you deal with the welts that are left.
Surely they stay for life?
<answer> ice makes them feel better for me (tho i'm not into pain so don't have much experience) no, they surely do not stay for life.
I'll stop there...but to me these posts just screem LOOK AT ME LOOK AT ME. But really add nothing to this forum. I'm not saying I have the best threads in the world
but i'm not baiting people at every turn either. So stay, go, do what makes you happy, but don't do it because you don't feel excepted or aren't getting the level of exceptence that you are looking for from complete strangers.
Last edited:
redelicious
Bedroom Bottom
- Joined
- May 21, 2002
- Posts
- 12,939
I hope I am not out of line, but...
Phace,
I tend to agree with the above post, but I think there is more to it then that. It's as if you are trying to incorporate the posters here into your fantasy world. I also get the feeling that most of the posters here don't really want to feed into your fantasies.
Here is some friendly advice. First of all, try reading some of the threads that are already here. Feel free to share your own desires and experiences within those threads but try not to hijack them for your own purposes. Doing this will allow you to get to know the people here without projecting your kinks on them (and visa versa).
Secondly, perhaps it is time for you to get some r/l exposure to the lifestyle you seem to be embracing. Do a google search for bdsm clubs (munch groups) in your area. Go to some of the get-togethers they schedule. I could be wrong, but I think most of these meetings are just a safe way for people in the community to meet each other and share information (in other words, they aren't play parties). You just may meet someone who will help you find answers to your questions.
Good luck to you.
Phace,
I tend to agree with the above post, but I think there is more to it then that. It's as if you are trying to incorporate the posters here into your fantasy world. I also get the feeling that most of the posters here don't really want to feed into your fantasies.
Here is some friendly advice. First of all, try reading some of the threads that are already here. Feel free to share your own desires and experiences within those threads but try not to hijack them for your own purposes. Doing this will allow you to get to know the people here without projecting your kinks on them (and visa versa).
Secondly, perhaps it is time for you to get some r/l exposure to the lifestyle you seem to be embracing. Do a google search for bdsm clubs (munch groups) in your area. Go to some of the get-togethers they schedule. I could be wrong, but I think most of these meetings are just a safe way for people in the community to meet each other and share information (in other words, they aren't play parties). You just may meet someone who will help you find answers to your questions.
Good luck to you.
Richard49
The Gentleman Dom
- Joined
- Feb 27, 2002
- Posts
- 14,176
The only thing I can think of to add t othe above posts is something I said to you in another of your threads .....
Figure out who you are and what you want from lit
I have made some very good freinds here
When I have disappeared do to my health
they wanted to know what happened and shared it with others
You can look at this is as your private palyground
or as just a porn site or as a community where we share
our experence, strength and hope.
Ok EB I know
it is just a porn site
Figure out who you are and what you want from lit
I have made some very good freinds here
When I have disappeared do to my health
they wanted to know what happened and shared it with others
You can look at this is as your private palyground
or as just a porn site or as a community where we share
our experence, strength and hope.
Ok EB I know
it is just a porn site
lark sparrow
Literotica Guru
- Joined
- Oct 11, 2002
- Posts
- 1,715
phace5 said:
lol phace5, I was waiting for you to tell me to piss off! To prove there was more to phace5 than disconnected repetitive thread starting.
As it is, I have only seen one response by you that wasn't related to hair, miniskirts, corssdressing or discipline with a whip. Sure, we are all a bunch of kinky people and kink is the topic, but you don't seem to respond to anyone else's topics, and rarely even bother to respond to the responses your own numerous and daily repeated threads generate. Then I noticed you were already looking for other sites to go to - my armchair guess was that you were starting to feel that you had run your "fetish" material into the ground, and needed to start this same process off somewhere else. But even in that, you can't seem to be bothered to do your own research. People get tired of being used - objects don't mind. There's a line that must be observed in fetishism.
If your actual kink is just writing this stuff on an online board, then leaving might be a good idea, as it does truly get old after a very short time. Or heck, stay obsessed and at least give us a compelling reason why you like hair, put some effort into describing a fantasy of your fetish - you have to give something back, if you actually want to participate.
Otherwise, it quickly begins to feel like you are using the board and the people here to feed a fetish bordering on obsession that disconnects you from everything that is happening on this board. There are actual people here - smart complex passionate people - not simple life support systems for fantasies of whips, miniskirts and hair. We know you like these things, we get it - got anything else?
MissTaken
Biker Chick
- Joined
- Jun 30, 2001
- Posts
- 20,570
I don't fit in, either.
I guess he left. I haven't seen him posting, but as I posted on a thread to him in the General Board,
"IF you are having fun, stay.
If not, go."
(Or something to that effect.)
I hope he decides to come back and give it another try.
I guess he left. I haven't seen him posting, but as I posted on a thread to him in the General Board,
"IF you are having fun, stay.
If not, go."
(Or something to that effect.)
I hope he decides to come back and give it another try.
Ebonyfire
Ball Stretcher
- Joined
- Jan 6, 2002
- Posts
- 11,729
MissTaken said:I don't fit in, either.
I guess he left. I haven't seen him posting, but as I posted on a thread to him in the General Board,
"IF you are having fun, stay.
If not, go."
(Or something to that effect.)
I hope he decides to come back and give it another try.
Well, if he insists on using public posts to post personal messages, and then ignores good advice about proper posting etiquette, perhaps leaving is the thing to do.
