Maybe I shouldn't post this, but....

[Patryn]

I'm going out with the man in a little bit, about an hour or so, and I have the hope/feeling that tonight is going to be "the night" so to speak.

We haven't really discussed much on the topic, except that neither of us wanted to rush into anything. He's kind of a professional type, quiet guy, and I'm just getting over a really bad sexual experience...well, not the sex itself, but the aftermath, so that worked out good.

The odd thing is, I've never been this nervous at the possibility before. If it doesn't happen, that's fine too, and I won't push the issue, but I'd like to take things to the next level. A lot of my sexual experiences, excluding of course my marriage, were pretty casual, "fuck buddy" type of things with a friend. We knew we could trust each other, but also knew there was no committment, so it wasn't that big of a deal.

Maybe it's just because I really like this guy and I want the first time with him to be perfect, or because it's a risk that I got burned in the last time I took, or it could just be uncertainty or insecurity.

Either way I'm freaking out here. Any advice? And hurry please!!

 

[wolfy]

Be honest with him and tell him how you feel and what you want. He probably wants the same thing as you but is afraid of losing you if he pushes. When you really like someone it's so hard to tell them because it means so much to you so let him know that It will make him very happy and let him know that you love him.

 

[Guest]

Maybe it's just because I really like this guy and I want the first time with him to be perfect, or because it's a risk that I got burned in the last time I took, or it could just be uncertainty or insecurity.

Any advice?

I think you just answered your own question, hon. Or, well, offered your own advice. Since your past experiences have leaned towards the casual sex, maybe you're hoping for more this time. You did mention how you really like this man. And though sex is awesome, and casual sex can be good, it sounds to me like maybe you want more now? I'm kinda in that same boat myself.

~Tiggs~
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[KillerMuffin]

Yes. Take it slow, take it easy, and don't try for perfection, because perfection cannot be acheived. You'll work yourself into a bundle of nerves and it will be less than perfect. It's a physical expression of how you feel, aside from being lots of fun. Enjoy his body the same way you enjoy his company. Enjoy your own body as well, that turns men on like nobody's business, a woman who is free enough with herself to enjoy herself while she is giving herself to him. Let whatever happens, happen. Don't try to force it or change it, or to be something it can't be. Let it be even better than that.

Maybe you should start with a nice sensual massage. Relaxing. Destressing. Gets rid of some nervousness... just don't fall asleep

Good luck sweetie, and I'm wishing you more than just many cums.

 

[forgetunome]

I don't have alot of advice but I wish you the best and here's a hug {{{{{{{{{{{{Patryn}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

If you have a "feeling" that tonight might be the night it probably has a good liklihood as I feel strongly about intuition. If you are having dinner and he lays his hand on the table lay your hand over his and rub your fingers lightly on the inside of his palm...if he stays there it looks good he's interested in more if he pulls slowly away it's interested but not now...anyway that is my humble opinion but, play it by ear your instincts will guide you!

Best of luck dear!!! Have fun!!!

 

[Patryn]

I'm not necessarily looking for a committment from him, but I'm not against one either. We've only been seeing each other for a month and a half, but things are going really well, and we're comfortable around each other, so here's hoping, right? Maybe I just bumbled into work one day and met "the one".

Ack. LOL...how pathetic am I? Instead of calling my friends before The Date, I'm posting on the net. Again, LOL. I just hope I don't come in here bragging tomorrow. Oh wait, yes I do...well, you know what I mean. I really need to chill out. Damn, I feel like I'm in high school again.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Maybe masturbating to orgasm first? It seems to work for the guys...?

 

[Sonora]

Lauging at Patryn. Girl, I hope that the night is everything you hope it will be!

 

[Patryn]

No, that'll just make it worse. But thanks for the suggestion.

And it's OK, I'm lauging at myself too.

 

[Cheri]

Well it's 10:14 and I'm sitting here wondering what's happening with you girl. Are you catching a flick or taking a ride on the wild baloney pony? I'm hoping everything is going better than you even expected!

 

[Roll-One]

I'm probably to late to wish ya luck, but i hope everything worked out for ya.... keep smiling

 

[Never]

Damn, I feel like I'm in high school again.

Slide home Patryn.. Slliiiiiiiide hoooooooome!

 

[Patryn]

Well guys, I'm back. We unfortunately had to call it a short night. He has to leave tomorrow for a convention on Monday (he told me before, I just forgot...damn, I got all worked up for nothing when I shoulda known that), so...not tonight. Which is OK, it'll happen when it happens, but let's just say things are looking like that's going to be soon.

 

[Never]

hut, hut, hut, fumble..

Oh man, sorry Patryn. Maybe next year.

 

[wolfy]

Nod sorry patryn but it'll happen soon i'm sure
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[Latina]

I agree with the others, don't push it, Patryn. It will happen when the time is right. My first husband and I had a terrible sex life, and I realize now that I settled for so little for 17 years because we rushed into marriage and sex too soon, without waiting for that feeling that he was "THE right one" for me. We waited until our honeymoon to have sex, and then I realized too late that he was NOT going to give me fireworks. I loved him deeply, still do in some ways even 8 years after his death, but he was NOT "the one".

My second husband and I found each other through a dating service, we talked on the phone every night for about 6 weeks before we met in person. On our fourth date, we began making out on the couch, I was 45 and not very experienced (6 times in 17 years of marriage, and only 3 times before that) and he was 40 and a virgin. He hesitated a moment, before taking it to the next level, and he later told me that at that moment he was wrestling in his mind over surrendering his virginity, and then realized he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, and I was the woman he WANTED to lose his virginity to. As we stripped each other, we did talk about how we needed to know if the sex between us was any good, if we were to commit to a lifetime together. But we talked about it in a loving and positive way, not pressure like "if the sex is no good, I'm dumping you." He relaxed and was not at all nervous, and it was very good--the best I'd had up to that time. We got married just 3 months after our first date.

My point is, when it is right, it will happen without forcing the moment, and if he is "the one" you will both figure that out fairly quickly. And if he isn't THE guy, hopefully the caual sex will still be fun and a fond memory, even though it sounds like you are ready for something MORE than just casual sex with him now.

-- Latina