Maybe a SUB is what i need...

[bigjohnnyd2014]

Hello,

Where to start.... Ill just start writing and throw it all out there, this is just a shot in the dark anyways... what the hell...

Im an attractive fun 28 M, married and frustrated as hell... Ive never written this out, so here it goes...

And thats the problem, i love my wife very much, we have sex, but thats just it, its "just" sex, nothing really fun / exciting, i can count the number of positions we have tried on 1 hand, i can count the number of places on less than 1 hand... We make love around once a week, give or take.... She is just kinda a "good girl" and isnt interested much in experimenting with her sexuality or my fantasies.

So, I am learning alot about myself and my sexuality, i daydream all day long every single day, i have so many fantasies about sex its making me insane, so insane that i would post this to a bunch of strangers to view.

My sex drive is literally at its peak, yes even more so now than ever, i think i could F*** 6 times a day/night im so horny. I have not slept with any other girl before, but i desire to let this beast inside me out, i think a SUB may be the answer.

The only thing i can think of is to try to find a similar attractive SUB someone to share fantasies with and play them out, someone to have passionate hot unrestricted ongoing discrete, no-strings-attatched sex and fulfill my desires and unleash my inner ALPHA.

IDEAL SCENARIO:

I dont know your real name, you dont know mine, i dont know where you live (unless you are comfortable hosting/doing that), you dont know where i live, we can communicate through an email address and i will let you know when i want to play out a fantasy or just use you, we plan it and keep the sexual meetings going for as long as we want to.

ARE THERE ANY SUBS INTERESTED IN THIS? Please PM me if you are interested in something like this,

I live in California would be willing up to 50 miles radius around Sacramento to meet for this kind of a thing.

 

[RawHumor]

It sounds like a prostitute is more what you're looking for.

Asking a woman who doesn't know you to submit to you to be used, while a fun fantasy, can be incredibly dangerous (for both of you) in real life.

I mean, there's a reason people talk about Craig's List Killer types.

 

[bigjohnnyd2014]

Um... no that's not what I'm looking for. I would like to get to know the person... I think u miss understand my post.

 

[Malich]

As long as you understand Sub =/= Slut. They're not just someone for rough sex and then to be discarded when your wife comes home... who will know about this other person I assume?

A Sub is not someone there just to fulfil your fantasies. It's someone who needs a certain amount of physical and emotional support after any form of play. RL or OL.

Are you an experienced dominant? If not, are you willing to learn how to be one before taking it too far into actual sessioning? Do you have an understanding of the phrases safe word, safety call and after care?

If you're understanding of all the concepts of this lifestyle, or willing to put in the time to learn them before you potentially seriously hurt someone (physically or emotionally) then, good on ya mate. Knock em dead and have all the fun you can handle. But if you just want someone for a random meet then it might be time to look somewhere else.

Signed

A grumpy old dom

 

[TwoShades]

As long as you understand Sub =/= Slut. They're not just someone for rough sex and then to be discarded when your wife comes home... who will know about this other person I assume?

A Sub is not someone there just to fulfil your fantasies. It's someone who needs a certain amount of physical and emotional support after any form of play. RL or OL.

Are you an experienced dominant? If not, are you willing to learn how to be one before taking it too far into actual sessioning? Do you have an understanding of the phrases safe word, safety call and after care?

If you're understanding of all the concepts of this lifestyle, or willing to put in the time to learn them before you potentially seriously hurt someone (physically or emotionally) then, good on ya mate. Knock em dead and have all the fun you can handle. But if you just want someone for a random meet then it might be time to look somewhere else.

Signed

A grumpy old dom

He is right. Its not something to be taken lightly. It comes with an awful lot of responsibility.

I agree also that a its a prostitute that you need. You can get to know her as well, can't you?

 

[bdsmshade]

If you want anonymous sex but you don't wanna pay for it try to find a swingers club that does nights were single men are welcome its rare but kinda the point. Or if you don't mind who is blowing you there always cruising sites or certain public toilets were you can get that done for you. Oh almost forgot dogging sites sometimes will find couples were the woman wants anonymous sex.
But do wonder why your married to a woman your sexualy incompatible with and you can't talk to perhaps what you really need is couples councilling much as it pains me to say that. If you listen to prostitutes, vice cops or cottage queens your story is pritty common most of the guys they deal with are doing the same thing. So you can denie it as much as you like but sounds like you want a hooker not a sub.
Trust me over 20 years ago when I was young and dumber girl I was with either really hated me or tryed to be the dominant she believed I wanted her to be without talking to me bout it 1st I still can't let go the pain or talk to her. So every thing you have been told is true you can screw someone up if you don't no what your doing so always be careful and think of what your wife will feel when it comes out what you been up to. Trust me it's the behind your back that hurts most.