Masturbation vs Real Sex

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All things considered, I have come to prefer masturbating to the unpredictable, labor intensive process of luring a woman into bed with me. Call me lazy and maybe crazy, but the latter is too much like work.

I got divorced when I turned thirty years old, and to my surprise I began to find out what other young guys claimed, that being how easy it was to 'get laid'. I had gotten married at age nineteen and never had that period of life where a guy 'sows his wild oats' and I thought they were just exaggerating. Locker room bragging.

I didn't see myself as some talented lover boy, but still had pretty good success at it. This was in the early 1980s before things like AIDS crept in to spoil the fun. In 1980 alone I bedded twelve young women/girls, literally like the 'Playmate of the Month'. Of the twelve, eight were 'one and done' situations. For little old me it was stunning and so unexpected, but it was just the way of things at the time. I think about it now and feel more lucky that I didn't knock one of them up or catch some form of STD from them.

In between these 'scores' I became a World Class Masturbation Addict. After a stressful day at work, coming 'home' to my little apartment, throwing the deadbolt on the door, dispensing with my clothes and stroking myself became an everyday thing. If I ended up alone for the weekend it was a regular cumfest. At least three, sometimes four times a day on Saturday and Sunday.

The only thing that brought this to a screeching halt was woman/girl #13... I ended up marrying her. Lucky 13... Go figure. Did I stop masturbating? Hell no! I was AdDICKted to it!

After a while I began to think that beating off was all I needed most of the time. I realized how convenient it could be to get the needed relief just about anytime and anywhere.

If I have sex on my mind at work, a visit to the bathroom takes care of the situation so I can get my mind back on work.

Long, boring drives get my horny little mind thinking about sex, creating a need for relief. So I'll pull off into a rest stop or roadside picnic area, find a quiet spot there and splatter the steering wheel with my load. I just love the sight of my creamy white cum trickling down the horn button! For a real thrill I'd sometimes masturbate even while still on the road at 70 MPH.

The very sound of the word 'masturbate' has a certain stimulating effect on me. It has this wonderfully selfish ring to it. It dares me to find some place to do it that has the risk of being seen, but rarely will I take the risk.

Through masturbation I can 'have sex' with just about any woman my mind could imagine. Co-workers, neighbors, my wife's best friend, TV, movie and of course PORN stars.

I have used masturbation to 'safely' explore aspects of sexuality that I might otherwise reject for 'social' reasons. Take them for a 'test drive' in my mind to see how I feel about them. In doing so I discovered my 'cock curiosity' that has become a hunger.

I've even fantasized about being 'trapped' by a trans woman. In the fantasy I find what I think is some drop dead gorgeous woman, lure her to my bedroom only to find out 'she' has extra external plumbing. And instead of being pissed off, I loved it!

And I LOVE edging!
 
Married at 19 is quite young. IME I needed a lot of years to sow my oats. The LTRs I got into in my 30s just got in the way. I get how masturbation is more relaxing, but for me seducing and being seduced by young beautiful women is a pleasure in and of itself. I'm more settled now, not sure how old you are but I recommend not shutting out sex completely. Perhaps you crave variety but don't want to deal with the work that goes into it as you said?

Nonetheless, masturbation is awesome. I just wouldn't want to rely solely on it.
 
All things considered, I have come to prefer masturbating to the unpredictable, labor intensive process of luring a woman into bed with me. Call me lazy and maybe crazy, but the latter is too much like work.

I got divorced when I turned thirty years old, and to my surprise I began to find out what other young guys claimed, that being how easy it was to 'get laid'. I had gotten married at age nineteen and never had that period of life where a guy 'sows his wild oats' and I thought they were just exaggerating. Locker room bragging.

I didn't see myself as some talented lover boy, but still had pretty good success at it. This was in the early 1980s before things like AIDS crept in to spoil the fun. In 1980 alone I bedded twelve young women/girls, literally like the 'Playmate of the Month'. Of the twelve, eight were 'one and done' situations. For little old me it was stunning and so unexpected, but it was just the way of things at the time. I think about it now and feel more lucky that I didn't knock one of them up or catch some form of STD from them.

In between these 'scores' I became a World Class Masturbation Addict. After a stressful day at work, coming 'home' to my little apartment, throwing the deadbolt on the door, dispensing with my clothes and stroking myself became an everyday thing. If I ended up alone for the weekend it was a regular cumfest. At least three, sometimes four times a day on Saturday and Sunday.

The only thing that brought this to a screeching halt was woman/girl #13... I ended up marrying her. Lucky 13... Go figure. Did I stop masturbating? Hell no! I was AdDICKted to it!

After a while I began to think that beating off was all I needed most of the time. I realized how convenient it could be to get the needed relief just about anytime and anywhere.

If I have sex on my mind at work, a visit to the bathroom takes care of the situation so I can get my mind back on work.

Long, boring drives get my horny little mind thinking about sex, creating a need for relief. So I'll pull off into a rest stop or roadside picnic area, find a quiet spot there and splatter the steering wheel with my load. I just love the sight of my creamy white cum trickling down the horn button! For a real thrill I'd sometimes masturbate even while still on the road at 70 MPH.

The very sound of the word 'masturbate' has a certain stimulating effect on me. It has this wonderfully selfish ring to it. It dares me to find some place to do it that has the risk of being seen, but rarely will I take the risk.

Through masturbation I can 'have sex' with just about any woman my mind could imagine. Co-workers, neighbors, my wife's best friend, TV, movie and of course PORN stars.

I have used masturbation to 'safely' explore aspects of sexuality that I might otherwise reject for 'social' reasons. Take them for a 'test drive' in my mind to see how I feel about them. In doing so I discovered my 'cock curiosity' that has become a hunger.

I've even fantasized about being 'trapped' by a trans woman. In the fantasy I find what I think is some drop dead gorgeous woman, lure her to my bedroom only to find out 'she' has extra external plumbing. And instead of being pissed off, I loved it!

And I LOVE edging!
I'm a sexual "omnivore." I love cock but I'm bi and I'm very satisfied with girl-girl.

My sex life is pretty active and adventurous (see my threads) and multiple-partner sex is very much on the menu.

But I am also quite orgasm dependent (addicted I guess) and things get weird for me when I DON'T get enough.

So yeah, I masturbate a lot, just because, as you pointed out, sex with partners requires effort and luck and logistics. Sometimes you gotta fill in the gaps.

AND I often find that self-love is kinda more what I need at a certain moment.

And sometimes i spice it up by doing it here as I post 😈
 
All things considered, I have come to prefer masturbating to the unpredictable, labor intensive process of luring a woman into bed with me. Call me lazy and maybe crazy, but the latter is too much like work.

I got divorced when I turned thirty years old, and to my surprise I began to find out what other young guys claimed, that being how easy it was to 'get laid'. I had gotten married at age nineteen and never had that period of life where a guy 'sows his wild oats' and I thought they were just exaggerating. Locker room bragging.

I didn't see myself as some talented lover boy, but still had pretty good success at it. This was in the early 1980s before things like AIDS crept in to spoil the fun. In 1980 alone I bedded twelve young women/girls, literally like the 'Playmate of the Month'. Of the twelve, eight were 'one and done' situations. For little old me it was stunning and so unexpected, but it was just the way of things at the time. I think about it now and feel more lucky that I didn't knock one of them up or catch some form of STD from them.

In between these 'scores' I became a World Class Masturbation Addict. After a stressful day at work, coming 'home' to my little apartment, throwing the deadbolt on the door, dispensing with my clothes and stroking myself became an everyday thing. If I ended up alone for the weekend it was a regular cumfest. At least three, sometimes four times a day on Saturday and Sunday.

The only thing that brought this to a screeching halt was woman/girl #13... I ended up marrying her. Lucky 13... Go figure. Did I stop masturbating? Hell no! I was AdDICKted to it!

After a while I began to think that beating off was all I needed most of the time. I realized how convenient it could be to get the needed relief just about anytime and anywhere.

If I have sex on my mind at work, a visit to the bathroom takes care of the situation so I can get my mind back on work.

Long, boring drives get my horny little mind thinking about sex, creating a need for relief. So I'll pull off into a rest stop or roadside picnic area, find a quiet spot there and splatter the steering wheel with my load. I just love the sight of my creamy white cum trickling down the horn button! For a real thrill I'd sometimes masturbate even while still on the road at 70 MPH.

The very sound of the word 'masturbate' has a certain stimulating effect on me. It has this wonderfully selfish ring to it. It dares me to find some place to do it that has the risk of being seen, but rarely will I take the risk.

Through masturbation I can 'have sex' with just about any woman my mind could imagine. Co-workers, neighbors, my wife's best friend, TV, movie and of course PORN stars.

I have used masturbation to 'safely' explore aspects of sexuality that I might otherwise reject for 'social' reasons. Take them for a 'test drive' in my mind to see how I feel about them. In doing so I discovered my 'cock curiosity' that has become a hunger.

I've even fantasized about being 'trapped' by a trans woman. In the fantasy I find what I think is some drop dead gorgeous woman, lure her to my bedroom only to find out 'she' has extra external plumbing. And instead of being pissed off, I loved it!

And I LOVE edging!
OK "luring a woman into bed" Maybe thats your problem. Women either want you or don't. Maybe you need to work on your woman skills
 
Kƶnnen Sie den genauen Moment bestimmen, in dem Ihr Mund und Ihr Arschloch die Kƶrperfunktionen getauscht haben?

I can see right through guys like you.
Kƶnnen Sie den genauen Moment bestimmen, in dem Ihr Mund und Ihr Arschloch die Kƶrperfunktionen getauscht haben?

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I am older than average. At my age even sex is basically masturbation on the presence of someone else. I love it and am also very addicted to masturbation.
 
I am older than average. At my age even sex is basically masturbation on the presence of someone else. I love it and am also very addicted to masturbation.
Masturbation in the presence of someone else is the most intense experience. It's my favorite way to cum.
 
All things considered, I have come to prefer masturbating to the unpredictable, labor intensive process of luring a woman into bed with me. Call me lazy and maybe crazy, but the latter is too much like work.

I got divorced when I turned thirty years old, and to my surprise I began to find out what other young guys claimed, that being how easy it was to 'get laid'. I had gotten married at age nineteen and never had that period of life where a guy 'sows his wild oats' and I thought they were just exaggerating. Locker room bragging.

I didn't see myself as some talented lover boy, but still had pretty good success at it. This was in the early 1980s before things like AIDS crept in to spoil the fun. In 1980 alone I bedded twelve young women/girls, literally like the 'Playmate of the Month'. Of the twelve, eight were 'one and done' situations. For little old me it was stunning and so unexpected, but it was just the way of things at the time. I think about it now and feel more lucky that I didn't knock one of them up or catch some form of STD from them.

In between these 'scores' I became a World Class Masturbation Addict. After a stressful day at work, coming 'home' to my little apartment, throwing the deadbolt on the door, dispensing with my clothes and stroking myself became an everyday thing. If I ended up alone for the weekend it was a regular cumfest. At least three, sometimes four times a day on Saturday and Sunday.

The only thing that brought this to a screeching halt was woman/girl #13... I ended up marrying her. Lucky 13... Go figure. Did I stop masturbating? Hell no! I was AdDICKted to it!

After a while I began to think that beating off was all I needed most of the time. I realized how convenient it could be to get the needed relief just about anytime and anywhere.

If I have sex on my mind at work, a visit to the bathroom takes care of the situation so I can get my mind back on work.

Long, boring drives get my horny little mind thinking about sex, creating a need for relief. So I'll pull off into a rest stop or roadside picnic area, find a quiet spot there and splatter the steering wheel with my load. I just love the sight of my creamy white cum trickling down the horn button! For a real thrill I'd sometimes masturbate even while still on the road at 70 MPH.

The very sound of the word 'masturbate' has a certain stimulating effect on me. It has this wonderfully selfish ring to it. It dares me to find some place to do it that has the risk of being seen, but rarely will I take the risk.

Through masturbation I can 'have sex' with just about any woman my mind could imagine. Co-workers, neighbors, my wife's best friend, TV, movie and of course PORN stars.

I have used masturbation to 'safely' explore aspects of sexuality that I might otherwise reject for 'social' reasons. Take them for a 'test drive' in my mind to see how I feel about them. In doing so I discovered my 'cock curiosity' that has become a hunger.

I've even fantasized about being 'trapped' by a trans woman. In the fantasy I find what I think is some drop dead gorgeous woman, lure her to my bedroom only to find out 'she' has extra external plumbing. And instead of being pissed off, I loved it!

And I LOVE edging!
I started a forum topic…Best Edging Techniques…you should check it out…lot of good discussion if you enjoy edging
 
I have to respectfully disagree. A toy or my own fingers could never satisfy me the way a cock in my wet, tight pussy does. Sorry that you’ve come to see sex with a woman as work. Maybe you need to find one that gives as well as receives….thanks for the lovely imagery though. I will never look at my steering wheel in the same way!
 
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So this is an interesting one for me. Over time I feel like some anxiety/expectation/not being satisfied with my sex life (I'm 15 years married) has lead to sex having some heaviness around it. And while my partner and I are working on it masturbation feels different.

With masturbation I am in control I know what I want and how I want it. I REALLY enjoying edging and denial so that's something I enjoy.

I do feel it important to connect sexually but I also feel talking/sharing online helps fill the gap in connection until/if/when my partner and I figure it out.
 
I used to jerk off almost every day but I find that I have less and less interest in it. I still desire sex but the kind of sex I have with my girlfriend. I could play with my dildo but that's not the same either.
 
What is this sex of which you speak?

I miss the visual and tactile elements of the real deal, (and those feelings things people talk about . . . ) but the fine control you have over timing, availability, method, the whole nine that comes with hands on cannot be beat. (Hand to God, my subconscious does those type of puns all the time). If you've got a free hour and are a classically trained edger the skies the limit.
 
I think that a statement from the military during World War II sums it up:

"Although a childish habit, it does no real harm and does not lead to insanity. If you have this unfortunate habit, try to control it as a matter of pride."

As such, I think that I will be forever young, healthy, and sane. And so, as someone who has never been able to control this unfortunate habit, may I say, as a matter of pride, that old habits ā€Šdie "hard" as do most masturbators.
 
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