Married?

[DayDreamerZN]

Searching for a married man who is passionate, kinky and professional.

Someone who isn't getting everything he needs out of his marriage and wants to fill that void in his life.

I'm 36 and a mom of two. I'm no longer really committed to making my marriage work but leaving isn't an option because of our young kids.

Please no criticism. My kids are priority and they are not in any way affected by my marital status.
Their mom and dad staying together, that's in their best interest at this stage.

I'm merely looking for someone who would want to converse and get to know each other. Perhaps offer each other that emotional support but also the kink aspect.

I'm optimistic... Who knows

 

[sinfulpleasure67]

Searching for a married man who is passionate, kinky and professional.

Someone who isn't getting everything he needs out of his marriage and wants to fill that void in his life.

I'm 36 and a mom of two. I'm no longer really committed to making my marriage work but leaving isn't an option because of our young kids.

Please no criticism. My kids are priority and they are not in any way affected by my marital status.
Their mom and dad staying together, that's in their best interest at this stage.

I'm merely looking for someone who would want to converse and get to know each other. Perhaps offer each other that emotional support but also the kink aspect.

I'm optimistic... Who knows

Hi and welcome. Sent a PM. I think we have a lot in common

 

[bbwAlexa]

I'm pretty sure you just wrote about my life. I get where you're coming from. Never thought I'd be wasting my dirty thirties on vanilla sex and a marriage that's barely hanging on.

 

[fakingadulthood]

I'm pretty sure you just wrote about my life. I get where you're coming from. Never thought I'd be wasting my dirty thirties on vanilla sex and a marriage that's barely hanging on.

It’s weird how you can go from bringing out things in each other that are new and exciting and then all of a sudden it becomes more and more of an effort to get them out of their comfort zone. Doing something new together goes from being something mutually exciting that brings you together and turns into an effort that pushes you apart whether you can drag them along and they resent it or they shut it down and you’re left still wanting something new

 

[DayDreamerZN]

It’s weird how you can go from bringing out things in each other that are new and exciting and then all of a sudden it becomes more and more of an effort to get them out of their comfort zone. Doing something new together goes from being something mutually exciting that brings you together and turns into an effort that pushes you apart whether you can drag them along and they resent it or they shut it down and you’re left still wanting something new

That is so true! Sadly...

 

[spawnofdavey]

That is so true! Sadly...

Seconded.. it's like they get offended that you want something a little different.

 

[30bandits]

Seconded.. it's like they get offended that you want something a little different.

that's when you get accused of having sex with someone else...when all you really want is some friggan variety and a little spice...

 

[seth6138]

Searching for a married man who is passionate, kinky and professional.

Someone who isn't getting everything he needs out of his marriage and wants to fill that void in his life.

I'm 36 and a mom of two. I'm no longer really committed to making my marriage work but leaving isn't an option because of our young kids.

Please no criticism. My kids are priority and they are not in any way affected by my marital status.
Their mom and dad staying together, that's in their best interest at this stage.

I'm merely looking for someone who would want to converse and get to know each other. Perhaps offer each other that emotional support but also the kink aspect.

I'm optimistic... Who knows

Don't give up hope, it is possible3 to find just what you need in here.

 

[spawnofdavey]

that's when you get accused of having sex with someone else...when all you really want is some friggan variety and a little spice...

Been there too.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

So sorry to hear about your situation! Sadly, it is more prevalent than it should be - there are quite a few of us on Lit in similar boats. Some find their escape here, some look for something more irl. I hope you find what you are seeking - you seem so passionate and expressive. And you too Alexa.

If only there was a way to exchange spouses and put those uninterested in sex together...

 

[oneblueye]

Hey...

Don't give up hope, it is possible3 to find just what you need in here.

While I disagree that you will find who you need HERE, in this place; I do agree that the someone that you need can be found.

 

[Meritts]

Nothing wrong with what you are trying to achieve.

Reading your post, I thought I had found you.... Along with thousands of others I'm sure.
I feel trapped in my relationship. I have so much affection to give though it's not being recieved by my significant other. We get along and share intimacy though it's too routine. Vanilla. What you are searching for is exactly what I've had in the past. Though only ever online. It certainly filled a void of what I was missing.. And to this day I still miss that secret connection we shared years ago. It revived me. Though left me wanting to cross that line and be unfaithful in the end. Life is too short. Please yourself.

 

[kymusicguy]

Monday

Hi there, I liked your post and would enjoy chatting sometime. Let me know how you would like to chat.

 

[ForeverLone]

Wow! Well, I think you might have quite a few responses on here, but hey, I am optimistic too! Maybe pragmatic, but anyhow, I am 40, kids too (#1) and married, but stuck. If you want, we can msg and see where it goes, I am not trying to blast out everything about me publicly. Hope to hear from you.

 

[baseballGeek]

Response

Searching for a married man who is passionate, kinky and professional.

Someone who isn't getting everything he needs out of his marriage and wants to fill that void in his life.

I'm 36 and a mom of two. I'm no longer really committed to making my marriage work but leaving isn't an option because of our young kids.

Please no criticism. My kids are priority and they are not in any way affected by my marital status.
Their mom and dad staying together, that's in their best interest at this stage.

I'm merely looking for someone who would want to converse and get to know each other. Perhaps offer each other that emotional support but also the kink aspect.

I'm optimistic... Who knows

Hey DD I sent you a PM

 

[baseballGeek]

Nailed it

So sorry to hear about your situation! Sadly, it is more prevalent than it should be - there are quite a few of us on Lit in similar boats. Some find their escape here, some look for something more irl. I hope you find what you are seeking - you seem so passionate and expressive. And you too Alexa.

If only there was a way to exchange spouses and put those uninterested in sex together...

You nailed that one Lost Yonder

 

[sammybuoy]

So sorry to hear about your situation! Sadly, it is more prevalent than it should be - there are quite a few of us on Lit in similar boats. Some find their escape here, some look for something more irl. I hope you find what you are seeking - you seem so passionate and expressive. And you too Alexa.

If only there was a way to exchange spouses and put those uninterested in sex together...

the last part made me chuckle. if only, till then LIT should keep you interested

 

[Autrefois]

Ive listened

I was in your exact situation several years ago. I'm a married man, older than you, but no less passionate than you've described. We (my ex and I) originally tried to stay together, but there were circumstances I don't believe any married couple could withstand. I admire your choice. Your priorities are exactly in the right place. I'd like to chat more if you like.

Autrefois

 

[DayDreamerZN]

I'm completely amazed at the number of responses I had.

Thank you to everyone that sent me a pm.

I'm no longer looking.

All the best

 

[Yerkiddin]

I'm wondering if you quit looking because you found the right guy(s), or if you quit because you're already sick of the torrent of horny guys available on the internet. ;-)

 

[curiouschattycouple]

Our marriage hit a slump year ago, but we recovered. The key was loads of communication, and working through the issues that came out of it with more communication. For 4 years we have having sex no less than 3 times a week after our 1 year slump. Toys and role play are a big part of our new sex life, and oral: talking. Remember seduction begins every morning when make their coffee, continues when you help her with the dishes or him with the renos. Set aside unwind time for a drink or a walk before before bed. And be patient.

If you tried all that - dont quit just yet - it took months. Its like you are dating again; pay compliments, buy little gifts (roses, beer, chocolates...), go out, prioritize each other over work, kids, etc within reason. And don't stop when you get lucky a few times.