Married women?

[bigjuggsluvr]

Ok I have a question for all those married women out there in Literotica land...If you had the chance to have an affair with another married man would you do it?....It seemes as if only married people have affairs with other married people. Also if you have had an affair where did you meet the person?...As always there is another motive behind my questions...I am trying to find a married woman to have an affair with but dont really know how to go about it. Any suggestions??

 

[SweetieBBW]

my 2 cents

Ok I have a question for all those married women out there in Literotica land...If you had the chance to have an affair with another married man would you do it?....It seemes as if only married people have affairs with other married people. Also if you have had an affair where did you meet the person?...As always there is another motive behind my questions...I am trying to find a married woman to have an affair with but dont really know how to go about it. Any suggestions??

I prefer to only have married lovers...with them, there is a built in discretion, you understand boundaries, you understand scheduling changes...it's just better I think. There is no question about what the relationship is about...no questioning about where it's headed..no one is leaving their spouses...no pressure just pleasure....at least that is how it is for me.

 

[shysub]

Different opinion

I have had a couple affairs with married men when I was single. It was the "no strings" relationship I was looking for at that time. My husband did the same thing. Now that we are married to each other, there isn't anything that would make us cheat on the other. Now, if some woman came along and wanted to join with us....that would be a different thread though.

 

[bbw_lanas]

Yes I have and would again, for me I met them online lol.........

 

[sweetsparkles]

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[sexynsoulful05]

I have been married for almost 20 years. I married fairly young, I was only in my early 20's. We both played around at various stages in our marriages.

The best "relationships" I had were with other married men. There was a better understanding there of what the relationship was about, and where my obligations were.

Where did I meet these men? One I met through my pastor's wife, several were friends or aquaintainces of friends. I even met one in line at the dry cleaners. It just depends on how hard you look. After awhile you recognize the same in other marrieds that are looking for a little action.

There are also plenty of websites out there dedicated to assisting other find discreet hook ups. I would look into one of those services. I have never used one, but have known of those who have.

People can judge as much as they want. Just because someone has an affair does not mean they do not love there partner. Respect may be a bit lacking, but not necessarily love. I love my husband now more then I did when we met. But, I still get the desire now that I am in my mid 40's to look for another younger lusty married man to enjoy. Especially since my lust now outpaces my husbands.

If you know what you want you will find it. You just have to keep your eyes open to see the opportunities. Just be discreet and there is no possibility of any hurt feelings. That is the key.

 

[butterfly_rosen]

Very Married

Ok I have a question for all those married women out there in Literotica land...If you had the chance to have an affair with another married man would you do it?....It seemes as if only married people have affairs with other married people. Also if you have had an affair where did you meet the person?...As always there is another motive behind my questions...I am trying to find a married woman to have an affair with but dont really know how to go about it. Any suggestions??

The reason why most people go for other married people is because both parties have something to loose if the secret gets out, and married people are just a little different than single people, that way the other person has at least one thing in common with you.... A spouse!! lol. I have been married for almost eight years and have been totally faithful the whole time. I am well aware, that he hasn't been at least once. But if I was going to have an affair with someone, I would go to a different town nearby where no one knows you. Then get a room and pay with CASH, and have a hell of a fuckfest!! I would say that I would join ya, but my biggest fantasy is to be with a woman.

Cass

 

[mugshotxxx]

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[Guttergoddess]

When I was married...I had an affair...with *gasp* a married man. We met through work....on the phone...our companies did business together...it started as phone calls, daily at work....just shooting the shit...discussing our days, complaining about our spouses, and their lack of sex drive. Then we met. You could feel the electricity in the air.....that led to hotel rooms....and as someone so kindly put it, wild fuckfests....and then weekends away while the spouses were off somewhere....then cell phones together....so we could talk whenever we had freetime.....then leaving our spouses...and moving in together.....we started our affair 6 years ago....with the intent of "sex for sex sake" We now openly admit we're in love! So much for low expectations.

 

[Sun Tan Guy]

When I was married...I had an affair...with *gasp* a married man. We met through work....on the phone...our companies did business together...it started as phone calls, daily at work....just shooting the shit...discussing our days, complaining about our spouses, and their lack of sex drive. Then we met. You could feel the electricity in the air.....that led to hotel rooms....and as someone so kindly put it, wild fuckfests....and then weekends away while the spouses were off somewhere....then cell phones together....so we could talk whenever we had freetime.....then leaving our spouses...and moving in together.....we started our affair 6 years ago....with the intent of "sex for sex sake" We now openly admit we're in love! So much for low expectations.

Wow.. glad you filled that void in your life and found your sole mate! Congrats
STG

PS.. love your av!!

 

[Guttergoddess]

Thanks...and the great thing is....we both learned from our marriages...we're open and honest with each other about ANYTHING we want...and usually willing to let the other do it....as long as we can watch/get pics

 

[angelsin]

One of the things that I have not seen mentioned is the excitement of the “sneaking” around. The time and effort to coordinate times and places with the “other” person, making sure neither you nor them can be recognized, can be very exciting, almost like living your very own spy story.

One has to remember a large number of these “encounters” are done out of just plain boredom. Not everyone does it from lack of emotional or physical attention. Some do it just because they lack excitement in their lives.

And once everything is coordinated and arranged all the factors that have already been mentioned come in to play. And with all of those other concerns and worries out of the way it leaves all of your attention to be concentrated on one single thing, THE SEX

Where to find it??? Everywhere!! Anywhere there are people you can find them. Hell the cute driver stuck in traffic next to you!! You might want to take a renewed interest in the school PTA meetings.
And I may go to hell for this but, yes even at church.
Right sexynsoulful05?

Now some say the bigger the risk the better excitement. For this some even look at neighbors, friends, even family. (as in relatives by marriage ok? Incest is a whole other thing)

If you take a little time to study people and their reactions, one can even learn to tell who is in “Need” by simple conversation.

And if you end up in a situation like goddess’s, I agree you can end up in a more open and even healthier relationship.

 

[sexynsoulful05]

One of the things that I have not seen mentioned is the excitement of the “sneaking” around. The time and effort to coordinate times and places with the “other” person, making sure neither you nor them can be recognized, can be very exciting, almost like living your very own spy story.

One has to remember a large number of these “encounters” are done out of just plain boredom. Not everyone does it from lack of emotional or physical attention. Some do it just because they lack excitement in their lives.

And once everything is coordinated and arranged all the factors that have already been mentioned come in to play. And with all of those other concerns and worries out of the way it leaves all of your attention to be concentrated on one single thing, THE SEX

Where to find it??? Everywhere!! Anywhere there are people you can find them. Hell the cute driver stuck in traffic next to you!! You might want to take a renewed interest in the school PTA meetings.
And I may go to hell for this but, yes even at church.
Right sexynsoulful05?

Now some say the bigger the risk the better excitement. For this some even look at neighbors, friends, even family. (as in relatives by marriage ok? Incest is a whole other thing)

If you take a little time to study people and their reactions, one can even learn to tell who is in “Need” by simple conversation.

And if you end up in a situation like goddess’s, I agree you can end up in a more open and even healthier relationship.

I agree with everything you said angelsin! My expereinces had a direct corellation to a very dull time in my marriage. "K" and I lost each other in the daily rountine of work, and at home more work, cooking, laundry, homework.

When all was said and done, we had a renewed excitement in our intimate contact with each other. We do not talk about our time with others. He would never want to see me with any other man. The thought of another woman and "K" does not turn me on. It is in the open but not really. It works for our relationship.

 

[sexynsoulful05]

Thanks...and the great thing is....we both learned from our marriages...we're open and honest with each other about ANYTHING we want...and usually willing to let the other do it....as long as we can watch/get pics

It is wonderful that you and your other half can be so open with each other. My husband does not begrudge me my lovers and I do not begrudge him his experiences. There is just a barrier there, and we cannot talk about it with each other. For a long time it was a hurtful thing in our relationship. We learned and moved on. We still love each other and I have no intention of ever leaving him. I know for some individuals that is not the case. Take care of each other and I am sure you two will be going strong for many years to cum.

 

[Sun Tan Guy]

Thanks...and the great thing is....we both learned from our marriages...we're open and honest with each other about ANYTHING we want...and usually willing to let the other do it....as long as we can watch/get pics

hmmm.. I'm envious... and intrigued..
STG

 

[angelsin]

I agree with everything you said angelsin! My expereinces had a direct corellation to a very dull time in my marriage. "K" and I lost each other in the daily rountine of work, and at home more work, cooking, laundry, homework.

When all was said and done, we had a renewed excitement in our intimate contact with each other. We do not talk about our time with others. He would never want to see me with any other man. The thought of another woman and "K" does not turn me on. It is in the open but not really. It works for our relationship.

Well then we see eye to eye on this. It’s what I jokingly refer to as the “Don’t ask, Don’t tell” marriage. You don’t tell each other about your affairs nor do you ask about each others affairs. But you both know they are happening and that they are not being done to hurt each other. It’s a great way to live, granted not for everyone but for two people that are adult enough, open minded enough and trusting enough, it can be the best of everything in life.

 

[whatageek]

Well then we see eye to eye on this. It’s what I jokingly refer to as the “Don’t ask, Don’t tell” marriage. You don’t tell each other about your affairs nor do you ask about each others affairs. But you both know they are happening and that they are not being done to hurt each other. It’s a great way to live, granted not for everyone but for two people that are adult enough, open minded enough and trusting enough, it can be the best of everything in life.

Question: "did you have 'fun' on your date hon?"
Answer: "ohhhh yes I sure did!"

End of discussion both with big grins.

That's how it is for us. All that matters to me is that she had a good time...if she wants to tell more fine, if not that's fine too.

 

[nikkiblue]

when i was married,I did prefer married men.NOW,i think single ones are just as fun,maybe better.A lot of married men have been all fucked up by their wives and their schedules suck anyway.

 

[sexynsoulful05]

Well then we see eye to eye on this. It’s what I jokingly refer to as the “Don’t ask, Don’t tell” marriage. You don’t tell each other about your affairs nor do you ask about each others affairs. But you both know they are happening and that they are not being done to hurt each other. It’s a great way to live, granted not for everyone but for two people that are adult enough, open minded enough and trusting enough, it can be the best of everything in life.

We do see eye to eye. My husband was not always agreeable to being like that. When he had his first few affairs, there were many tears and late nights. Then for several more years he tried to hide his behavior, but I knew what was going on. I did not want the details. Just him to be honest enought to say"I love you very much, but I just need someone else in my bed sometimes." Once he admitted that, things have been so much better. It is definitely the best thing that happened to us as lovers, spouses and friends.

 

[angelsin]

We do see eye to eye. My husband was not always agreeable to being like that. When he had his first few affairs, there were many tears and late nights. Then for several more years he tried to hide his behavior, but I knew what was going on. I did not want the details. Just him to be honest enought to say"I love you very much, but I just need someone else in my bed sometimes." Once he admitted that, things have been so much better. It is definitely the best thing that happened to us as lovers, spouses and friends.

Well that is great to hear hun.

 

[nikkiblue]

Sooner or later,They will cheat on you,All of you women soo much in love,think it wont happen because you are giving him a lot of sex?Wrong sugar!Hate me all you want,I dont care,Just trying to save a few broken hearts.Who knows/?maybe I am the one fucking your man!

 

[richvir1]

wrong

Sooner or later,They will cheat on you,All of you women soo much in love,think it wont happen because you are giving him a lot of sex?Wrong sugar!Hate me all you want,I dont care,Just trying to save a few broken hearts.Who knows/?maybe I am the one fucking your man!

wow. I don't and all of my friends don't because we don't want to hurt our partners or family or friends (I guess we are just strange) I remember when my father cheated. I would never do that to my kids and my wife. To have that lost feeling when I was a child is not worth the sex.

 

[sexynsoulful05]

wow. I don't and all of my friends don't because we don't want to hurt our partners or family or friends (I guess we are just strange) I remember when my father cheated. I would never do that to my kids and my wife. To have that lost feeling when I was a child is not worth the sex.

It is not for everyone. My H and I have gone to great lengths to ensure that our kids do not and did not find out. H is the product of a broken home, and can understand the pain it would have caused them. We are out in the "open" so to speak to save our marriage, and avoid any nasty seens. It is hard for some to understand. Thanks for you POV.

 

[sinnamongyrl]

Sooner or later,They will cheat on you,All of you women soo much in love,think it wont happen because you are giving him a lot of sex?Wrong sugar!Hate me all you want,I dont care,Just trying to save a few broken hearts.Who knows/?maybe I am the one fucking your man!

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[shadowrnr]

she can fuck mine, I need the time off, is what my wife said