Married women curiosity...

[Expat]

Even after 7 years, my wife is still not as openned about her sexuality and fantasies as I would like. OK, so I'm a bit on the horny side.

My question is...What do you married women often fantasize about? Sorry, no replies from single females please.

I have some ideas but would like to get real replies from real married women. Basically, I'd like to suprise my wife with your advices so we can have a better sex life.

 

[HotKitty4u]

As married go we fantasize of many things... One would be to br with another women..... Just the two of us then have that other women come join the hubby as well...... Just start talking with her one day maybe she'll open with you about it.. or you may even find her getting excited if you start the talking of how you'd like to see another women touch her all over to kiss her body gently and touch you... Tell her how much you like to watch the two of them together exploring each other's body.....

 

[Expat]

Well actually, I have brought up the subject of bringing on another woman or another man on many different occasions. Unfortunately, it's only worked very few times to get her juices flowing. I must not being saying it right.

OK, if I bring up the fantasy of another women, what is the fantasy setting? How do they meet? How do they go home, take off their cloths, etc. ? What area of the story telling do I focus on - the detail sex acts, the seduction part, etc.?

Do many women out there like the fantasy of sex with 2 guys at the same time?

 

[RedHotAss]

I have been marrried for 5 years, been with hubby for almost 9 years total.. I have alot of sexual fantasies he does not know about. The fantasy of two men is one of my favorite.. to be controlled by two strong men.. while they are inside my ass and pussy at the same time is a HUGE turn on for me. I also have fantasies of bondage, and spanking and it is all so erotic. I have tried to mention them to hubby but he is not interested in them. I did get him to try fisting me one time, he did not like it because i started to feel pain and he did not want to hurt me anymore. I am welcome to email and talk with you some time. Feel freeto email me when you want.. .

Hopefully we can help each other..
: ) -- RedHot Ass

 

[ranajja]

Get a book of good erotic stories--or look in the story index here at Literotica (yes, Ambrosious, we do have stories). Find one that turns you on and ask her to read it out loud to you. Better yet, give her the book and have her find a story that turns her on and ask her to read it to you. Fondling and pleasuring her while she is doing so is encouraged!!!

Have fun....

 

[Expat]

Oops. Sorry it took a while to respond. Been on the road...

RHA - Thanks for the great feedback. Hope you got my private response.

Ranajja - Thanks for your advice. I've actually beaten you to the punch and regrettably the idea has a very small success percentage. I have a collection of Penthouse letters and many miscellaneous stories at my disposal. She often likes to read it but always refuse to share her favorite stories with me. After she reads it, we'll go into the standard missionary sex-mode (yawn...). She still has a very difficult time opening up while at the same time I'm opening up and giving her my fantasies.

I think I'm better off just finding a sexually compatible partner on the side...

 

[ShyOlderGuy]

New partner? Bah Humbug!

Been married for 25 years....it took at least 15 for her to open up with her fantasies! They were the things previously described, multiple partners (Male or female), as well as outdoor sex, etc.

Hang in there (no pun intended!)...why risk your marriage for a new position?

I used the stories in Penthouse "Variations", she never admitted to any of the fantasies in particular, but I could tell which she enjoyed. She's a MUCH more passionate lover at 44 than she was at 35!

(Oh, was this post for WOMEN ONLY?)

 

[SweetSlut6969]

Maybe your wife really does share your fantasies and your desire to try new things. She may just be afraid to let you know what she really wants. I think being with another woman is a big fantasy for most women. Perhaps if she felt secure that your main interest was in seeing her with someone else....not that you wanted to be with another woman?
And maybe present it to her as a fantasy of yours is to come home unexpectedly and "catch" her with someone and how much it would turn you on just to watch her getting so much pleasure from a woman? Just a thought.

Anyway...very jealous! Wish my husband were as open minded.

 

[Abacab89]

My wife actualy has discussed that one with me - it started out as a discussion after she was appraoched by another couple - she didn't do it, but then told me that she had been approached, and asked how I would feel if i came home and caught her in bed with anohter woman. I said shocked at first and then incredibly turned on.

We have had a couple of intense sexual sessions discussing this - 3somes with another woman and even a 4some - but the next day she seems more timid and she says its just fantasy talk. The night before she is all for it - I even ask if she is serious about doing it and she says yes.

So - I dunno if she really wants to try - or she just loves driving me mad - women - gotta love em.

 

[rambling man]

The odd thing that I have noticed reading posts and talking to people here is that so many people are sexually mismatched....lots of wild and passionate people on one hand married to shy and inhibited spouses. I wonder if this happened as the marriage progressed with most people or was it like that from the start.

Everyone in this thread sounds like fun....everyone here should get together all at once and have a good time,hehe.

 

[SexxyLady]

Expat, I've been married 6 years and together 8 or 9 I've lost track. I could anwer your question about what I fantasize about, but I don't think that would help you. It sounds like you wife really wants to open up (ready the stories and all) but she's afraid, or shy. A major turn on for most women is not having control. Go easy at first. Get her very excited...women will do anything when there excited. Maybe try tying her down and blindfold her. Then when she at the peak. Get right next to her ear and tell her what you want. Tell her you only untie her if she will do what you tell her. Believe me if she at the point of almost cumming for the third time with nothing inside her she'll do pretty much what you want. This will get you all the "positions" you desire, and will turn her on to no end. Believe it or not I'm exceptionally shy in the bed room and would love my husband to do this to me. I will give him anything, but I have a hard time telling him what I want, and we always have sex in the missionary position, after I have sucked him to the point of no return. I would love to lose control just once.

SL

 

[Expat]

Great advices!!!

Thanks for all the great advices.

Shy-older guy:
8 more years is a hell of a long time. My dick might wither away I'm glad to hear there's hope. However, I always thought women usually start peaking in their low 30's and stay peaked for at least a decade or more. Goes to show everyone's different.

SW6969:
I think I've worn out the "surprised voyeur" by now. I don't know how many times I've suggested spying on her and another man or women. One of my favorite fantasies actually...

Rambling Man:
That sounds like fun actually. If anyone of you ever think of coming over to Western Europe (especially France or Germany), send me an email...

Sexxxy Lady:
It's been a while since I've tried the "bondage and submission" thing. Maybe I'll need to do it again to spice things up.

Thanks, everyone...

 

[rambling man]

Think your wife would go for that?

 

[ShyOlderGuy]

There've been LOT'S of good tips here...there's NO WAY I'd recommend waiting, and hoping...try some of this stuff! Maybe with all this advice you'll be more effective at bringing her around more quickly than I was with my wife.

Good luck!

 

[SweetSlut6969]

Expat,
May I ask where in Germany you live? I live in DE as well. Just curious.

 

[Expat]

Deutschland...Ya!

SS6969 - Hope you got my private email. Still new to the navigation on this site...

Rambling Man - I hope she'll go for it cause I'm getting more frustrated each day. Just having a difficult time getting excited when the partner's not attentive.

 

[rambling man]

That is bad because Id figure even if you wante dto have sex, her inattention is so much of a turn off

I dont envy your problem and I hope she does turn around

Before you leave, though, fire all the big guns, see if talking about a 3some or an orgy will spark her, do everything you can, leave no stone unturned...doubt I could personally help you, hehe, not going to germany any time soon but i do wish you lots of luck...try some of these ideas this week and let us know how you do