Updated: With rules for newbies at the bottom..
They say the mind is the largest sex organ of your body, and that communications are what feeds the mind. So let me feed your mind, and see if your body will follow
If not your body, atleast an email saying hi
New to a different loving, but you want to know how it will be? From the beginning of the leather cuffs to the end When I talk to someone I try to get to know them mentally, as I feel when you have captured the mind the body will follow. Get to know someone's curiosities, their desires, their limits, and their likes, that is the key to a good beginning; This beginning is good for one time meetings, or to meaningful relationships; Though one time meetings often lead to life time friendships; This is true because you have built a trust with that person, and they will open up to you to explore with safely, sanely, and consensually; Sometimes, you might ask, what should I expect from you (realizing that my style is unique to myself, and we all are different); So I thought I would write a story on what I might do to a new person I am with over the first few times I am with them; As each individual is different an unique, I would mix things up a little to center on them, but you will get the general idea. While you may or may not like some of these activities, you hopefully will like most. With each friendship we discuss and throw out things you are not interested in exploring (these often times are called limits—for example, I am not into animals, kids, drugs, blood play, scat, and extreme pain). We plan to get together for lunch or dinner, and chat and get to know one another, I discuss things we have emailed about and we jointly decide if we want to go further.
The story:
So you decide to meet me. You will be given me personal information on me beforehand, and I will even give you an email address of a woman that I have been with before as a reference (most good Dominants will have this). You know I will be safe, you have my name, cell numbers, and I will be registered at the hotel too; You figure, ok, I will trust enough to meet me for dinner, and see what feelings you have. I tell you that we are to meet at a local restaurant; I tell you what I am driving and you do the same; I tell you that I will meet you at your car and we will walk in together; You spend half the afternoon trying to figure out what to wear, you want to dress to impress, but you also want to be some eye candy for me, ie, show some legs, or cleavage; You have picked out a deep blue type dress (blue being my favorite, or green my 2nd) and it is just above the knees, and you have a low cleavage, which you know I will smile at; I meet you at your car, and give you a long hug and a kiss; You see that yes I am a big man, that I have a wonderful mischievous smile, and I make you feel at ease by holding on to your hand, and walking to the restaurant; You immediately feel at ease with me, you sense that I am completely paying attention to you, watching you, and making good eye contact with you; You are smiling, and very happy that I have come, and you feel a genuine sense of compatibility with me, your gut is telling you, yes, he is a good person, and my friend, and yes I do want to explore with him; We have a good meal, we talk about different things, to include D/s, life, jobs, etc; You are enjoying our time together; We finish dinner, and I walk you out to your car, there I give you a long hug and pull your hair back, and give you a long deep kiss, which you really enjoy, and start feeling a bit weak kneed; I help you in your car, and even put your seat belt on, as my hand retreats, I pass my hands over your nipples, which for some reason are hard and standing, and you have a big smile on your face; I tell you, thank you for a wonderful meeting, and that if you want to take this further, you know where I am staying, and what room I am in. This ends our date, the next move is up to you; When I get back to my hotel room, there is a msg from you on the phone, you have called via your cell phone, saying you will be there at 9pm if it is ok with me; I call you back and say sure, come on up, and bring your bathing suit. You arrive, all nervous, but terribly excited, you know you trust me, but you are not sure what quite to expect, you have shared with me a lot of desires, and you are anticipating a lot; When you get to the room and knock on the door, I open it, and I am in shorts, and a shirt, I invite you in; You bring your nite bag with you, and when you enter, you feel my hands on your waist, I pull you to me, kiss you deeply, and you drop your bag and put your arms around me; I ask, are you ready for some fun?, you kiss me back and say, Yes Sir, I am yours; I turn you around slowly, and move my hands to your breasts, where I cup them, and kiss you on the back of your neck; You feel weak again as I kiss your neck more, and fondle your breasts and nipples, and whisper, you are mine slave; I hold you there for a while, and you feel the wetness starting just from me holding and fondling you; I instruct you to sit on the edge of the bed, and you notice a large brown suitcase sitting next to you; I smile, and ask you to disrobe down to your panties, and you shyly smile at me, and say yes Sir; Off goes the dress, and your bra, and I see your lovely breasts and nipples; I have already turned up the heat, so you don't feel cold, but warm and excited, even your nipples are standing at attention. I reach down and kiss you again, and kiss each nipple, then I nibble on them, and twist them at bit; This causes a bit of minor pain, but it also feels good, and you get even more wet, you think to yourself, oh, this is going to be a long nite and you smile. I then open up my toy bag and you are amazed that it is full with various things you have never seen; I slowly start taking these items out, and start to explain what they do; I first start with the blindfold, I know you might not like it, but you now trust me more, and know I wont hurt you, I start to put them on, and you say please, Sir, don't, not yet, and I see the look in your eyes, I put them back and say ok, we can do it this way; I pull out something you don't see, and I say close your eyes, which you do, and you feel a light pricking type sensation on your skin, it doesn't hurt, but feels like a thousand needles touching your skin at the same time, you feel me put this on your back, and shoulders, then I move it to your breasts. I say open your eyes, and you see that I have some leather gloves on, they have small pricks out of the hand area, and I explain that these are vampire gloves; You love the feel of them, they feel like someone massaging your skin, while at the same time making your skin very tingly; You smile and say thank you Sir, I reach down and give you a long kiss as I caress your nipples. I then reach in my bag, and I pull out some leather type cuffs, ones that I explain and show that can be gotten out of if you really try hard; That makes you feel safer, I go and put them on you; I then tell you to close your eyes again, which you do; You hear me fumble with stuff, and then you feel a sensation around your nipples, you can't figure it out, but you feel a round shape touch your breast around your nipple, then all of the sudden you feel your nipple being sucked on, and open your eyes to see a suction cup has been placed on your nipple, it is made of plastic so you see your nipple is stretched, it doesn't hurt much, but you feel the sensation of your nipple being pulled on; It gets you excited , and you feel your juices starting t flow; At this time, you think to yourself, oh man, please fuck me, take me, but alas I have other thoughts in mind for you, on this first time of exploration; I then show you some other toys, like some paddles which I demonstrate on you, and you feel both the furry side of the paddle and the leather side, which makes your butt sting and red; I also show you some wax that I will play with you later, I show you a cane, a flogger, some rope, and a crop. You see that I am also safe as I have a safety medical kit, and scissors for any rope I may use; At this time, I instruct you to lift your arms, which you do; I pull some rope from my bag, that has been cut to certain length, and I proceed to tie your boobs in a rope bra; This sensation feels wonderful to you, and your breasts are sticking straight out; The nipples are sticking straight up, and I proceed to suck on them more; You enjoy this, as I show you other toys, while you are still tied up; Eventually I untie you, and you are smiling, wondering what is next. I tell you to lie on the bed, with your arms stretched out, and I connect your wrists to the headboard with a rope so you cant move your arms much, this excites you even more; I tell you to close your eyes again, and you feel something hit your breasts, it feels like a thousand strands of soft cotton and you open your eyes to see a white rope cotton flogger, it doesn't hurt, but you can feel some sting, I explain this is light, and there are heavier ones, as I proceed to show you; Each flogger is a bit heavier, with the last one creating a thud on your breasts, your nipples are now a bit sore, but standing straight up for me; You are still extremely wet, and I am enjoying my self as you can see my hard on growing in my shorts; I then pull out something from the bag, and have to open up a box, it seems the item is new, and I explain that the vibrator is new; It is small, but very powerful, and I put it on your clit, this gets you to shutter almost immediately, as you have been wet for a while now, you feel this intense rush come over you from the sensations that I am giving you and your clit, you notice that I have found that little spot on your clit, and I am going over it often, this drives you wild, and shortly you are starting to moan and groan, I whisper to you, you want me to fuck you slut, don't you? You pant, yes Sir, please fuck me, please; I continue playing with your clit, and you cum hard, I then reach in the bag and produce a longer dildo like vibrator that looks like a med size cock; I turn it on, and put it in your pussy slowly; You start to moan more, now having two vibrators on your body, one on your clit, and one inside you; You cant believe the sensations, and you can feel your body getting ready for another climax, at this time I reach up and twist your nipples, and the small pain shoots down to your pussy and you explode again, this time moaning loudly, and often as you cum hard again; You want me to stop as your pussy is very excited, and you try to close your legs, but I wont let you and I continue, this drives you wild and you find yourself Cumming again, in such a short time period, you have never had this happen before. I let you rest for a bit, kissing you, and you are now begging me to fuck you, and I say no, my slut, tonight is your pleasure nite, tomorrow you can be my pleasure, but tonight, lay back and relax; You smile and say yes Sir
Additional Info. A recent new person to the scene asked me about first meeting someone. Here was my response, I hope this helps educate others, if you have questions, feel free to email me.
Rules to meeting, (even though these are common sense to some, it is good to follow)
1. Get their first and last name
2. Get a home or work number and call to verify (work if they are married for example)
3. Ask for an email reference of a sub they have played with, when you make contact, ask her if you can talk on the phone, most good Doms do have a reference, and the subs most of the time are only too happy to provide one.
4. Meet in a public place, restaurant and have a safe call.
5. No sex on first meeting Period
6. Make them tell you their desires, limits, and other info, dont freely give them all the info, and let them not tell you theirs.
If a Dom/Master balks at this, then there is a REASON, and you need to find out why before meeting them.
Now more general info (of my own style, some will disagree, but it is my style, not theirs).
Welcome to the wonderful, jaded, wild life of BDSM. The place where everyone will have an opinion, and all have a form of kink in their desires! The lifestyle, or the fantasies offer a very powerful and eluring draw to many people, a recent survey found over 35% of middle to upper class americans have in the past, or currently practice some form of BDSM, so believe me you aren't the only one for sure, but we still have the taboo where we can't come up to a person in a bar, and say, so, flogged anyone lately? Some people think of it as a "Dark" side, I look at it as an open side, a side where communications are more open, more honest, and they give a fresh insight into what the kink of the person really is. As an example, when was the last time you were sexual with someone, who was soooo gentle with your nipples, that he licked them, when inside your mind, you were saying, PLEASE twist them, nibble them, etc? In D/s if done right your Dominant will be creative, open to discussion, respectful of your limits, and if he is good, he will get to know your turn ons and offs (though they will change in any good D/s relationship as trust is built, and a good friendhsip develops).
Seriously, A good Dominant will allow you to follow the guidelines I posted, a better one will also tell you what they like, what thier turn ons are and what their turn offs are, they will ask you about your BDSM checklist so they have a feeling for the areas you really are excited about, they will NOT demand anything, they will ask, but they will not demand to call them sirs, or masters (even worse), if you want to call them that out of respect, or common curtesy, great, but if they are hung up on that then they are newbies, or worse yet, to full of themselves for you to bother with. Find one that takes the time to get to know you first, and yes, if they pass the checklist, go meet them (it won't hurt as you have the info needed if they turn out bad), but more importantly, send them a recent picture, and ask for one of theirs in return, if you are ok with what you see (I know, NO ONE is shallow and only looks at the outside---Bull, we all do to an extent). If you are ok, meet him at a public place, and see how you interact, at this point it is a gut feeling you will have to go by. How does he interact, how does he communicate with you, do you feel a warmth, and a general comfort, does he smell ok, do you sense he is lying about anything, all of these come in to play before you agree to meet for anything else.
For people I meet for the first time, and if they are realitively new, I usually tell them (after we have met and agreed to move forward) that the first time meeting, we will get to know each others body, I use the old phrase, You got to know the curves in the road before you take a drive on it, ie. I want to know how your body reacts when I kiss your nipples, or twist them, do they get hard? does your breathing slow, if i stroke your clit, do you get wet, do you moan, etc. Once I know your body sexually, and I combine that with your BDSM checklist desires, then I create our experiences together.
Hope this helps, let me know your thoughts
They say the mind is the largest sex organ of your body, and that communications are what feeds the mind. So let me feed your mind, and see if your body will follow
If not your body, atleast an email saying hi New to a different loving, but you want to know how it will be? From the beginning of the leather cuffs to the end
When I talk to someone I try to get to know them mentally, as I feel when you have captured the mind the body will follow. Get to know someone's curiosities, their desires, their limits, and their likes, that is the key to a good beginning; This beginning is good for one time meetings, or to meaningful relationships; Though one time meetings often lead to life time friendships; This is true because you have built a trust with that person, and they will open up to you to explore with safely, sanely, and consensually; Sometimes, you might ask, what should I expect from you (realizing that my style is unique to myself, and we all are different); So I thought I would write a story on what I might do to a new person I am with over the first few times I am with them; As each individual is different an unique, I would mix things up a little to center on them, but you will get the general idea. While you may or may not like some of these activities, you hopefully will like most. With each friendship we discuss and throw out things you are not interested in exploring (these often times are called limits—for example, I am not into animals, kids, drugs, blood play, scat, and extreme pain). We plan to get together for lunch or dinner, and chat and get to know one another, I discuss things we have emailed about and we jointly decide if we want to go further. The story:
So you decide to meet me. You will be given me personal information on me beforehand, and I will even give you an email address of a woman that I have been with before as a reference (most good Dominants will have this). You know I will be safe, you have my name, cell numbers, and I will be registered at the hotel too; You figure, ok, I will trust enough to meet me for dinner, and see what feelings you have. I tell you that we are to meet at a local restaurant; I tell you what I am driving and you do the same; I tell you that I will meet you at your car and we will walk in together; You spend half the afternoon trying to figure out what to wear, you want to dress to impress, but you also want to be some eye candy for me, ie, show some legs, or cleavage; You have picked out a deep blue type dress (blue being my favorite, or green my 2nd) and it is just above the knees, and you have a low cleavage, which you know I will smile at; I meet you at your car, and give you a long hug and a kiss; You see that yes I am a big man, that I have a wonderful mischievous smile, and I make you feel at ease by holding on to your hand, and walking to the restaurant; You immediately feel at ease with me, you sense that I am completely paying attention to you, watching you, and making good eye contact with you; You are smiling, and very happy that I have come, and you feel a genuine sense of compatibility with me, your gut is telling you, yes, he is a good person, and my friend, and yes I do want to explore with him; We have a good meal, we talk about different things, to include D/s, life, jobs, etc; You are enjoying our time together; We finish dinner, and I walk you out to your car, there I give you a long hug and pull your hair back, and give you a long deep kiss, which you really enjoy, and start feeling a bit weak kneed; I help you in your car, and even put your seat belt on, as my hand retreats, I pass my hands over your nipples, which for some reason are hard and standing, and you have a big smile on your face; I tell you, thank you for a wonderful meeting, and that if you want to take this further, you know where I am staying, and what room I am in. This ends our date, the next move is up to you; When I get back to my hotel room, there is a msg from you on the phone, you have called via your cell phone, saying you will be there at 9pm if it is ok with me; I call you back and say sure, come on up, and bring your bathing suit
. You arrive, all nervous, but terribly excited, you know you trust me, but you are not sure what quite to expect, you have shared with me a lot of desires, and you are anticipating a lot; When you get to the room and knock on the door, I open it, and I am in shorts, and a shirt, I invite you in; You bring your nite bag with you, and when you enter, you feel my hands on your waist, I pull you to me, kiss you deeply, and you drop your bag and put your arms around me; I ask, are you ready for some fun?, you kiss me back and say, Yes Sir, I am yours; I turn you around slowly, and move my hands to your breasts, where I cup them, and kiss you on the back of your neck; You feel weak again as I kiss your neck more, and fondle your breasts and nipples, and whisper, you are mine slave; I hold you there for a while, and you feel the wetness starting just from me holding and fondling you; I instruct you to sit on the edge of the bed, and you notice a large brown suitcase sitting next to you; I smile, and ask you to disrobe down to your panties, and you shyly smile at me, and say yes Sir; Off goes the dress, and your bra, and I see your lovely breasts and nipples; I have already turned up the heat, so you don't feel cold, but warm and excited, even your nipples are standing at attention. I reach down and kiss you again, and kiss each nipple, then I nibble on them, and twist them at bit; This causes a bit of minor pain, but it also feels good, and you get even more wet, you think to yourself, oh, this is going to be a long nite and you smile. I then open up my toy bag and you are amazed that it is full with various things you have never seen; I slowly start taking these items out, and start to explain what they do; I first start with the blindfold, I know you might not like it, but you now trust me more, and know I wont hurt you, I start to put them on, and you say please, Sir, don't, not yet, and I see the look in your eyes, I put them back and say ok, we can do it this way; I pull out something you don't see, and I say close your eyes, which you do, and you feel a light pricking type sensation on your skin, it doesn't hurt, but feels like a thousand needles touching your skin at the same time, you feel me put this on your back, and shoulders, then I move it to your breasts. I say open your eyes, and you see that I have some leather gloves on, they have small pricks out of the hand area, and I explain that these are vampire gloves; You love the feel of them, they feel like someone massaging your skin, while at the same time making your skin very tingly; You smile and say thank you Sir, I reach down and give you a long kiss as I caress your nipples. I then reach in my bag, and I pull out some leather type cuffs, ones that I explain and show that can be gotten out of if you really try hard; That makes you feel safer, I go and put them on you; I then tell you to close your eyes again, which you do; You hear me fumble with stuff, and then you feel a sensation around your nipples, you can't figure it out, but you feel a round shape touch your breast around your nipple, then all of the sudden you feel your nipple being sucked on, and open your eyes to see a suction cup has been placed on your nipple, it is made of plastic so you see your nipple is stretched, it doesn't hurt much, but you feel the sensation of your nipple being pulled on; It gets you excited , and you feel your juices starting t flow; At this time, you think to yourself, oh man, please fuck me, take me, but alas I have other thoughts in mind for you, on this first time of exploration; I then show you some other toys, like some paddles which I demonstrate on you, and you feel both the furry side of the paddle and the leather side, which makes your butt sting and red; I also show you some wax that I will play with you later, I show you a cane, a flogger, some rope, and a crop. You see that I am also safe as I have a safety medical kit, and scissors for any rope I may use; At this time, I instruct you to lift your arms, which you do; I pull some rope from my bag, that has been cut to certain length, and I proceed to tie your boobs in a rope bra; This sensation feels wonderful to you, and your breasts are sticking straight out; The nipples are sticking straight up, and I proceed to suck on them more; You enjoy this, as I show you other toys, while you are still tied up; Eventually I untie you, and you are smiling, wondering what is next. I tell you to lie on the bed, with your arms stretched out, and I connect your wrists to the headboard with a rope so you cant move your arms much, this excites you even more; I tell you to close your eyes again, and you feel something hit your breasts, it feels like a thousand strands of soft cotton and you open your eyes to see a white rope cotton flogger, it doesn't hurt, but you can feel some sting, I explain this is light, and there are heavier ones, as I proceed to show you; Each flogger is a bit heavier, with the last one creating a thud on your breasts, your nipples are now a bit sore, but standing straight up for me; You are still extremely wet, and I am enjoying my self as you can see my hard on growing in my shorts; I then pull out something from the bag, and have to open up a box, it seems the item is new, and I explain that the vibrator is new; It is small, but very powerful, and I put it on your clit, this gets you to shutter almost immediately, as you have been wet for a while now, you feel this intense rush come over you from the sensations that I am giving you and your clit, you notice that I have found that little spot on your clit, and I am going over it often, this drives you wild, and shortly you are starting to moan and groan, I whisper to you, you want me to fuck you slut, don't you? You pant, yes Sir, please fuck me, please; I continue playing with your clit, and you cum hard, I then reach in the bag and produce a longer dildo like vibrator that looks like a med size cock; I turn it on, and put it in your pussy slowly; You start to moan more, now having two vibrators on your body, one on your clit, and one inside you; You cant believe the sensations, and you can feel your body getting ready for another climax, at this time I reach up and twist your nipples, and the small pain shoots down to your pussy and you explode again, this time moaning loudly, and often as you cum hard again; You want me to stop as your pussy is very excited, and you try to close your legs, but I wont let you and I continue, this drives you wild and you find yourself Cumming again, in such a short time period, you have never had this happen before. I let you rest for a bit, kissing you, and you are now begging me to fuck you, and I say no, my slut, tonight is your pleasure nite, tomorrow you can be my pleasure, but tonight, lay back and relax; You smile and say yes Sir Additional Info. A recent new person to the scene asked me about first meeting someone. Here was my response, I hope this helps educate others, if you have questions, feel free to email me.
Rules to meeting, (even though these are common sense to some, it is good to follow)
1. Get their first and last name
2. Get a home or work number and call to verify (work if they are married for example)
3. Ask for an email reference of a sub they have played with, when you make contact, ask her if you can talk on the phone, most good Doms do have a reference, and the subs most of the time are only too happy to provide one.
4. Meet in a public place, restaurant and have a safe call.
5. No sex on first meeting Period
6. Make them tell you their desires, limits, and other info, dont freely give them all the info, and let them not tell you theirs.
If a Dom/Master balks at this, then there is a REASON, and you need to find out why before meeting them.
Now more general info (of my own style, some will disagree, but it is my style, not theirs).
Welcome to the wonderful, jaded, wild life of BDSM. The place where everyone will have an opinion, and all have a form of kink in their desires! The lifestyle, or the fantasies offer a very powerful and eluring draw to many people, a recent survey found over 35% of middle to upper class americans have in the past, or currently practice some form of BDSM, so believe me you aren't the only one for sure, but we still have the taboo where we can't come up to a person in a bar, and say, so, flogged anyone lately? Some people think of it as a "Dark" side, I look at it as an open side, a side where communications are more open, more honest, and they give a fresh insight into what the kink of the person really is. As an example, when was the last time you were sexual with someone, who was soooo gentle with your nipples, that he licked them, when inside your mind, you were saying, PLEASE twist them, nibble them, etc? In D/s if done right your Dominant will be creative, open to discussion, respectful of your limits, and if he is good, he will get to know your turn ons and offs (though they will change in any good D/s relationship as trust is built, and a good friendhsip develops).
Seriously, A good Dominant will allow you to follow the guidelines I posted, a better one will also tell you what they like, what thier turn ons are and what their turn offs are, they will ask you about your BDSM checklist so they have a feeling for the areas you really are excited about, they will NOT demand anything, they will ask, but they will not demand to call them sirs, or masters (even worse), if you want to call them that out of respect, or common curtesy, great, but if they are hung up on that then they are newbies, or worse yet, to full of themselves for you to bother with. Find one that takes the time to get to know you first, and yes, if they pass the checklist, go meet them (it won't hurt as you have the info needed if they turn out bad), but more importantly, send them a recent picture, and ask for one of theirs in return, if you are ok with what you see (I know, NO ONE is shallow and only looks at the outside---Bull, we all do to an extent). If you are ok, meet him at a public place, and see how you interact, at this point it is a gut feeling you will have to go by. How does he interact, how does he communicate with you, do you feel a warmth, and a general comfort, does he smell ok, do you sense he is lying about anything, all of these come in to play before you agree to meet for anything else.
For people I meet for the first time, and if they are realitively new, I usually tell them (after we have met and agreed to move forward) that the first time meeting, we will get to know each others body, I use the old phrase, You got to know the curves in the road before you take a drive on it, ie. I want to know how your body reacts when I kiss your nipples, or twist them, do they get hard? does your breathing slow, if i stroke your clit, do you get wet, do you moan, etc. Once I know your body sexually, and I combine that with your BDSM checklist desires, then I create our experiences together.
Hope this helps, let me know your thoughts
