Married or unmarried lovers?

[double16in]

If you're a married person, which do you prefer? A lover who is married (and theoretically, as as much to lose as you do) or someone who is single. For you single people, does it matter? Or does it not matter in either case (love being blind, after all!) Just curious.....

 

[Czarina]

My preference is for single.

 

[Elvenspell]

A different preference...

My preference is for an HONEST lover, just as I am open and honest with my partner. Using my relationship as an example, I'm attached to a lovely lady named Aurora. I am honest with her about all my activities with others, on and offline. In return, she allows me to do what I wish, trusting my judgement and not being at all possessive or jealous of me. I am the same with her. Thus, we both have had lovers other than each other, and that's fine by us.

So, when you ask if I prefer a married or unmarried lover, I really don't care about that, so long as they are honest with whoever they hold themselves accountable to. I'm not into having sex with someone, only to find out that doing so has hurt their partner or their relationship with them. I want to share pleasure and nurturing sensuality, not harm.

 

[pleasingsue]

Married, but...

....I could see having a single woman as a lover. I would probably develop things a bit more slowly with a single woman, I imagine.

 

[Max27]

as a married person, I would much prefer a married lover.

no attachments, no committment- just using each other for sex and that is okay!

 

[talulah]

I completely agree with Elvenspell.. I'm completely honest with my partner, so I guess the whole "having something to lose" doesn't enter in that. I guess either married or single is fine with me... however, I'd rather everyone involved be honest with their partners, just so I don't get stalked or anything. *laughs*

 

[mjp351]

I would prefer a married one too but also an honest one also. I would like to know what they expect from me in the relationship and I would want them to know what i would expect too.

 

[SexyChele]

Single here, and only interested in single partners. Did the married thing once, was thankful to survive, and have no desire to repeat the mistake.

 

[badmatt]

well, I'm single...and I've done both....don't particularly think it much matters to me one way or the other....

 

[Meow]

I prefer married lovers

Married lovers have worked out the best for me if they are not unhappy in their relationship and just looking for some fun and sex. Recently I had two lovers, one going through a divorce and the other one, who I still see, married. The separated one was much easier to get together with but he eventually moved on because he found a girlfriend. The other one is harder to get together with because he has a wife and kids.
I still say married though, because of the openess we share because we are both married.

 

[Shiny]

I enjoy sex as much as the next person. I think the status is not important. I'm more concerned that I have some connection with the other person. It doesn't have to be "love" but may be a common attribute like humor.

 

[anneski]

I'd like to say honest, or maybe married, but really I don't think preference comes into it for me. If I meet someone, and we have that connection, and both want to go for it, then... well, it happens.

I don't go out looking anyway, but sometimes you meet someone who makes sparks fly and it doesn't matter what their or your partnership status is.
Maybe it should, but it doesn't... <sigh> guess I'm either weak willed, or just a "wantwantwant" kind of girl.....

 

[Shiny]

agree

I'd like to say honest, or maybe married, but really I don't think preference comes into it for me. If I meet someone, and we have that connection, and both want to go for it, then... well, it happens.

I don't go out looking anyway, but sometimes you meet someone who makes sparks fly and it doesn't matter what their or your partnership status is.
Maybe it should, but it doesn't... <sigh> guess I'm either weak willed, or just a "wantwantwant" kind of girl.....

You said it better. Sex / relationships are best when spontaneous. Everyone is looking for that moment / person that brings you out of the dull mundane existance.

 

[greybeard]

married or single?

For me, it would depend on the motivation at the time. If it were just a physical thing, well then being married probably wouldn't get in the way. But I prefer something with a little more depth, and then single is the only way. Life is way too complicated as it is.

 

[adrewboy]

Ok

Personally either way is good for me, or is that hormones talking? as long as we can both be happy i don't care

 

[badmatt]

I'd like to say honest, or maybe married, but really I don't think preference comes into it for me. If I meet someone, and we have that connection, and both want to go for it, then... well, it happens.

I don't go out looking anyway, but sometimes you meet someone who makes sparks fly and it doesn't matter what their or your partnership status is.
Maybe it should, but it doesn't... <sigh> guess I'm either weak willed, or just a "wantwantwant" kind of girl.....

*Grins* and what do you think of "wantwantwant" kinds of boys?

 

[1sexylady]

I think I am safer with ........

a married lover.....I am not looking for any strings or loose threads ...... but if a single guy could handle it ..... lets go......


1sexylady.........

 

[badmatt]

Re: I think I am safer with ........

a married lover.....I am not looking for any strings or loose threads ...... but if a single guy could handle it ..... lets go......


1sexylady.........

This one can handle...

 

[Chazzs]

Honesty and discretion are the key for me whether married or single. They know the situation for me; I know their situation. Now we can decide to get naked or not.

 

[Olgentleman]

single or married ?

I think being honest up front is really important. I have had difficult situations arise with both and each have their advantages and disavantages, no question I'll take honesty above either.

 

[anneski]

*Grins* and what do you think of "wantwantwant" kinds of boys?

I think they should get what they want, how they want, where they want and when they want...

 

[badmatt]

I think they should get what they want, how they want, where they want and when they want...

is that so???
cause I think I'd really like to show you exactly what I want...

 

[anneski]

so, tell me what you want, what you really, really want..<g>

is that so???
cause I think I'd really like to show you exactly what I want...

Mmm, sounds ... intriguing.. Nothing quite like a man who knows exactly what he wants.. How much practice do I get to make perfect? <g>

 

[badmatt]

Re: so, tell me what you want, what you really, really want..<g>

Mmm, sounds ... intriguing.. Nothing quite like a man who knows exactly what he wants.. How much practice do I get to make perfect? <g>

hmmm...you get....as much practice as you feel you need...we should both think it's perfect.

 

[Angelofsex]

Married lover!!!!!!!!!!

It makes it very exciting if he is marry.......It is like playing with fire......It builts up the heat.......now the single guys are good, don't get me wrong.......but you get fire with the married ones.