Married Men...

[MarriedMedic]

Are there any women out there who would not fool around with a guy because he is married?

Are there any women out there who are MORE turned on by a married man?

Discuss.

 

[sirgary]

Are there any women out there who would not fool around with a guy because he is married?

Are there any women out there who are MORE turned on by a married man?

Discuss.

..interesting topic....in my experiance, single women tend to shy away from married men because they don't want to be "the other woman"...Married women, who rarely stray, tend to not care whether the guy is married or not...

...I hope some women get thier insights on this, it would prove to be interesting...

 

[idnas71]

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[ShyGuy68]

And this is a personal in what way??

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[Lurnk]

<snippers> And darn if there wasn't a thread here recently that I so wanted to PM the poster out of curiosity, but after reading the whole thing it revealed he was married.

Don'tcha just hate that?

Nope, no married men for me. When I meet someone I really dig and it's mutual, our communication should be open and unrestrained.

I don't want limits on when and how we should interact and I definitely don't want the marriage whine--that gets no sympathy from me.

 

[SecretLove69]

Are there any women out there who would not fool around with a guy because he is married?

Are there any women out there who are MORE turned on by a married man?

Discuss.

Well, now that we've got the hostility out of the way........ (had no idea this would be such a touchy subject did ya MM? )

I tend to talk to a man - get to know his likes, dislikes, commanalities with me and then take a look at a his physical features - never have I looked at his ring finger first. Talking here on Lit is a great way to get to know someone (providing the person you are chatting with is upfront and honest) without the pressures of having to make a first impression based solely on looks.

I get turned on by all the interesting and sensual things about a man not his marital status. I am and have been friends and lovers with some married guys. Never felt like "the other woman" because we were always very clear about our roles and expectations within the relationship.

I'm married on paper only and have sought sexual satisfaction and companionship outside my marriage.
I don't judge others by their actions and don't expect to be judged for mine.

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[sirgary]

Don'tcha just hate that?

Nope, no married men for me. When I meet someone I really dig and it's mutual, our communication should be open and unrestrained.

I don't want limits on when and how we should interact and I definitely don't want the marriage whine--that gets no sympathy from me.

..you have the idealist trappings of youth...<smile>...refreshing in a perverted way...

 

[WantonWitch]

..you have the idealist trappings of youth...<smile>...refreshing in a perverted way...

Interesting... so... what do I have then ?

Far as I'm concerned married males are untouchable... talk... mild flirtation and that's it. I'm definitely not young

 

[Lurnk]

..you have the idealist trappings of youth...<smile>...refreshing in a perverted way...

Hmm, maybe so. Something to take advantage of, I reckon.

Perhaps one day I'll be stripped of those trappings, but is the whining intrinsic?

 

[ima6uldv8]

I've had my fun with a few MM in my time. But it wasn't strictly because they were married (though it was a plus. I love being extra naughty) it's because I was very attracted to them.

 

[MsTexas]

Off limits or else why be married

 

[sirgary]

I've had my fun with a few MM in my time. But it wasn't strictly because they were married (though it was a plus. I love being extra naughty) it's because I was very attracted to them.

I think that way also...but most single women who haven't been married, still have Mr. Right in mind...

I think folks think more about an auto purchase than who they are marring...good thing a divorce is about as easy as a marriage licence is to get...

 

[Guest]

Are there any women out there who would not fool around with a guy because he is married?

Are there any women out there who are MORE turned on by a married man?

Discuss.

Marriage should be a sacred thing. Too many times have I seen people who are married and unhappy cheat on their spouses.

Get a divorce and then fuck around.

Married men are a huge turn off for me as I want a long-term relationship and I want someone who will have time for me. Having to wait around until he's 'available' seems so fucking stupid.

 

[Lurnk]

I think that way also...but most single women who haven't been married, still have Mr. Right in mind...

I think folks think more about an auto purchase than who they are marring...good thing a divorce is about as easy as a marriage licence is to get...

I like to think that I don't have a fairy tale prince in mind as a mate.

So, I don't see why being sensible, practical, and wise should equate or include being open to married men.

 

[TheDivineMsM]

Are there any women out there who would not fool around with a guy because he is married?

Are there any women out there who are MORE turned on by a married man?

Discuss.

I dont do married.....
only exception to that is IF the wife knows and i confirm that with a conversation.
Cheating is morally repugnant

 

[SecretLove69]

Get a divorce and then fuck around.

Walk a mile in anyone’s shoes that has tried to make it work and is now trying to make a break with the least collateral damage as possible.

only exception to that is IF the wife knows and i confirm that with a conversation.
Cheating is morally repugnant

SO it’s ok to cheat if you have permission? And, throwing stones is always a good idea. Excellent choice for a Lit name – Divine obviously suits you well.

 

[celticlass]

I have certainly played online with my share of married men, and I've met a couple, though I haven't had intercourse with either of them. That, however, was more because I couldn't cheat on my husband, not so much that they didn't want to cheat on their wives or that I really cared that much about the vows they'd taken. May sound callous or cold, but that's what I honestly was thinking and feeling at the time.

That being said, I can certainly understand why someone would feel compelled to cheat. I know what it's like to have a spouse take me for granted, not seeming to give a tinker's damn about my emotional needs. I also know what it is to feel like the most cherished and loved woman on the face of the earth, simply because a man put me above everyone and everything else in his life. Because I have come so close to stepping over that line, I can understand all the many facets that come into play at that time and therefore don't feel like I could ever judge someone for crossing that boundary to have their emotional needs met and to express their love for this other person out of that emotional connection. I have also grappled with the most humane way to leave my husband while still making sure our child's needs are all met.

Here's my question, though. Like the poster above, I've heard the married whine at least a million times before. "My wife doesn't understand me." "I only get sex once a week (or once a month, once every six months, once a year, none in over nine years )." "She doesn't care about my emotional needs." I know what the wives don't do. What don't the husbands do??? I often hear this litany from middle-aged married men, and I just have to wonder what they did to contribute to their wives not wanting to be intimate with them? Do they expect their wives to look like Victoria's Secret models, cook like Paula Deen and keep a clean house while they lounge around in sweats and do nothing to help? I'd wager most men would love their 40-something wives to look as great as they did in their 20s, but how many 40- or 50-something men look like they did in their 20s? My husband isn't even 40, yet, and I can tell ya now that he doesn't look nearly as hot as he did when we met when he was in his 20s. His belly's bigger, his arms aren't as muscular and he's got far less hair. Lucky for me, as long as I'm willing to accept the signs of his aging, he's willing to overlook the changes in my body that come with time and childbirth.

I'd LOVE to hear the wives' sides in all this. How neglected do they feel, yet they stay at home and keep plugging away, cooking and cleaning, loving their husbands the best way they know how while continuously not getting their own emotional needs met? How many men out there who are in relationships actually understand that working 40-80 hours a week to "provide for the family" isn't the be-all and end-all to loving their wives? Some wives actually don't feel the need to put out but every several months or so, nor do they feel couples at the advanced age of 50+/- should still meet each other's emotional needs. But then there are the rest. I can't help but think how many happy wives there'd be out there if their husbands gave them the same words and the same affection that they give their online or r/l lovers.

One final word. I was recently reminded of this advice I gave to a lady I met in a chat room a couple of years ago. She'd been giving me the recitation of her online lover's marriage whine, and at this time, I was involved online with a wonderful married man (now a very dear friend) who in over 18 months has maybe said one negative thing about his wife. I told her, "The best men will never disrespect or put down their wives to other people." Suffice it to say, he, like so many other men, stayed with his wife.

OK. Stepping off my soapbox now.

 

[SecretLove69]

Check out the Happily Married, Sexually Unfullfilled thread and you will get a very good cross reference of men and women suffering in and for their relationships. It's never one sided and hardly ever easily explained or dismissed.

For me, going outside my marriage vows was not a choice I made easily but a necessity to save my sanity and my self-worth. I had to feel like a woman again - not a housewife or handmaid - I had to feel again.

 

[sirgary]

Check out the Happily Married, Sexually Unfullfilled thread and you will get a very good cross reference of men and women suffering in and for their relationships. It's never one sided and hardly ever easily explained or dismissed.

For me, going outside my marriage vows was not a choice I made easily but a necessity to save my sanity and my self-worth. I had to feel like a woman again - not a housewife or handmaid - I had to feel again.

...very sound advice Secret, the HMSU thread has something for the mmarried and the hope to be married people outt here..

I know of a woman who never considered sex outside of marriage. Even when the cancer ws removed from her husband and she learned he will never be able to funtion sexually again, she thought she could handle that part of her life ending...three years later I discreetly gave her something she didn't miss until it was gone.
Another woman, after thirty years of a good marriage and seven without being able to excite desire from her husband, decided she wasn't dead yet and also approached me for a discreet scratching of the itch.

The morality of it isn't for others to judge. The Victorian attittudes this country imbraced a century ago hasn't eased up enough for this subject to be mainstreamed but few women or men marry with the intent to cheat...they think they will be faithful and loyal all their lives. Things change, people change, voids develop, needs get ignored, needs get satisfied through unconventional means...and there is nothing new under the sun...

 

[Missingmeds]

...very sound advice Secret, the HMSU thread has something for the mmarried and the hope to be married people outt here..

I know of a woman who never considered sex outside of marriage. Even when the cancer ws removed from her husband and she learned he will never be able to funtion sexually again, she thought she could handle that part of her life ending...three years later I discreetly gave her something she didn't miss until it was gone.
Another woman, after thirty years of a good marriage and seven without being able to excite desire from her husband, decided she wasn't dead yet and also approached me for a discreet scratching of the itch.

The morality of it isn't for others to judge. The Victorian attittudes this country imbraced a century ago hasn't eased up enough for this subject to be mainstreamed but few women or men marry with the intent to cheat...they think they will be faithful and loyal all their lives. Things change, people change, voids develop, needs get ignored, needs get satisfied through unconventional means...and there is nothing new under the sun...

Very well said.

Then you have others of us who have the best of both worlds. I have someone that cherishes me, loves me, sleeps with me every night. But he also understands that neither of us are really the monogamous type, so we have an open relationship. It works for us, we are very good at communicating with each other, and seen each other thru some very rough times. We put the rules in place, We know what we want out of each other and life, we are the only ones in a position to judge what is going on inside ourselves.

I have done married men, both with and without the wife's permission simply because I am attracted to them. I do so with an understanding. I don't lie, I won't lie, so if I am asked the truth will be told. I find most married men do things to get caught.

 

[sirgary]

Very well said.

Then you have others of us who have the best of both worlds. I have someone that cherishes me, loves me, sleeps with me every night. But he also understands that neither of us are really the monogamous type, so we have an open relationship. It works for us, we are very good at communicating with each other, and seen each other thru some very rough times. We put the rules in place, We know what we want out of each other and life, we are the only ones in a position to judge what is going on inside ourselves.

I have done married men, both with and without the wife's permission simply because I am attracted to them. I do so with an understanding. I don't lie, I won't lie, so if I am asked the truth will be told. I find most married men do things to get caught.

...Bravo...

...and I also know of a situation where the man wanted to get caught, to him it was better to get caught than sit down and talk about sex with his wife...I never quiet understood that line of thinking...<nice bike btw>

 

[ravi64]

I've had my fun with a few MM in my time. But it wasn't strictly because they were married (though it was a plus. I love being extra naughty) it's because I was very attracted to them.

start being nice now