Representingmyhotwife
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For married men, how do you keep the intimacy exciting even after marriage?
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It's easy for a married man to become complacent and comfortable in a marriage -- that can lead to a less exciting marriage and less exciting life. The best way to avoid that is to not take things for granted and to be dynamic and proactive about keeping the marriage on its toes. That may mean more dates, more weekend getaways, anything that is out of the ordinary, shows initiative, planning and care.
As for non-monogamy to satisfy a wife's needs -- the first question is why are you not doing that? Non-monogamy should be something extra on top of a healthy marriage, not a substitute for one. The choice of non-monogamy, in and of itself, does not make the one choosing it a "bad person."
As for non-monogamy to satisfy a wife's needs -- the first question is why are you not doing that? Non-monogamy should be something extra on top of a healthy marriage, not a substitute for one. The choice of non-monogamy, in and of itself, does not make the one choosing it a "bad person."
gtnlynn
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My wife had a lot of sex in college, and after we married, I enjoyed hearing those stories. After 10 years of marriage, our sex life was great, but she was getting a lot of sexual attention at work from sales reps and others. I asked her if she missed the variety. She said not really, but she did like being desired and wondered what it would be like to be with the younger men who wanted her. So we decided she could have sex with anyone, one date only per man, with complete openness in telling me about it. She would not agree to let me watch. She had a few dates with sex and decided when she turned 40 to not do it any more. It was fun for both of us, but it may not work for most couples.
Sgts19
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I've been married for 46 years, and it does get ho hum been there done that a 1000 times. We have been with other people since we've been married and it sure spiced things up for both of us, little variety without running around behind each other's back. When we played with other people I couldn't get enough of her for a couple weeks after. The first thing I wanted to do after my wife fucked was to feel her body, I'm into tall thin women. I never saw her not smiling when she had fucked someone else
A nice hard cock always elicits a smile. I know what you mean about desiring to see and feel her body after she has been fucked. She is always a little flushed and I just love seeing the signs that she had had a good orgasm and been well fucked.
The best way to send them home to you all !!
NCWSLvr
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Of course it doesn’t make you a bad person. Having your own little porn starlet, sharing her, letting her feel desired, sexual, and she’s yours? How is it not more common? I’ve watched my wife get fucked, suck several cocks, we are having a threesome with another man next week, we have never been happier and we now have sex three times a week (and have been together for 25 years).
amigayorbi
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Always a big fantasy!
not at all. in fact this weekend at an airbnb my woman told me a sex fantasy she has where we are on vacation with two other couples (we were by ourselves) and the guys move from room to room taking the women. needless to say i fucked her in every room at that airbnb after she shared that, and she came 20+ times over three days. each room or new area (like pool table, kitchen, laundry room, 3rd bedroom) i asked her to think about being taken by one or both of the other guys as i tasted teased and pleased her. after a while i told her now imagine you bringing back your sweet used body and pussy to me as i bent her over and slammed into her doggy style hard and fast until we would both cum. my woman didnt say no to my suggestion of at least trying it in real life.
If they are in the market. Do them good, fill them up and send them home.
Trust me, im always looking to fill, cover and send them home. But im in a long dry spell right now.
As we get older, it helps to diversify and expand your options.
LookN2Talk
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It has become more exciting for the two of us as long as we stay on top of it.
Constantly figuring it out as well. It is a daily quest. We both have to work on it together each and every day otherwise it falls through the crack and goes flat.
I'd say the addition of toys, RP, scenarios, and sex talk, we need the sex talk desperately to keep the mental juices flowing.
remypare
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We've been spicing it up lately by varying our routine, being more verbal with each other, and occasionally introducing novel things like blindfolds, a vibrator, or rope. It all depends how much time and privacy we expect to have. I think we are moving in a good direction and my wife is definitely opening up more about her wants.
If she suggested introducing another man I'd be open to the idea -- I'd actually think that's quite hot, to watch her please another man or work on both of us together. I don't know that we're destined for that, but you never know where life will take you. I don't think fantasizing about or even adding in real life a third person makes you bad at all, just curious, horny, and open minded!
old_hippy_46
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My short answer is she has boyfriends she sees, sometimes our bed, other times his (or her) house
Travler99921
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When I was about 50 I started having gay sexual desires. I resisted them for several years, but before a actually tried it I came out to my wife. Her reaction was very surprising. She said I should try it. She was clearly aroused by thinking about it. When I came home from my first gay encounter she and I had very hot sex. In short, my occasional gay sex encounter revived our marital sex life. It allowed her to express sexual needs she had been repressing. I was happy to satisfy those I could.
wouldloveto
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Very cool! Any details? (said the dirty old man)
Travler99921
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She admitted Cunnilingus excited her more than intercourse. That became our normal way of having sex It was a guaranteed orgasm for her. Often she had multiple orgasme. From time to time she asked to be rimmed. I found that very exciting.
CuriousinPennsylvania
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My wife never admitted that Cunnilingus excited her more than intercourse, but she certainly enjoyed it, and, just like you, it became our routine. I always made sure she had her orgasm before I would fuck her, and many times, she would just finish me off with her mouth as we 69ed.
calmlikeabomb
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Sex has many flavours and we enjoy as many as we can.
Feeling horny? Wild sex.
Feeling bored? Vanilla.
Feeling naughty? Out comes the camera.
Feeling kinky? Spanking and slapping.
Pissed off at each other? Hate fuck followed by make up sex.
Feeling horny? Wild sex.
Feeling bored? Vanilla.
Feeling naughty? Out comes the camera.
Feeling kinky? Spanking and slapping.
Pissed off at each other? Hate fuck followed by make up sex.
Totally agree...
Don't take your wife's attraction to you for granted. ..Continue to earn it. After more than 30 years of marriage (and 5 yrs of dating) I still try to be the most desirable guy in my wife's orbit. I take care of myself, dress nicely, treat her kindly, make her laugh and tell her how wonderful and beautiful she is every damn day - which I find to be very easy to do, because she is. Again, do this every day! ..Not just the days and nights you're hoping for sex.
Basically, I don't want my wife to have sex with me because it's an obligation, I want her to have sex with me because she WANTS to have sex with me. And this seems to work because we still have sex 2-3 times a week, with her initiating more often than I.
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vandelayatx
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My wife is very conservative otherwise but boy does she like to have a tongue in her ass. We like what we like.
