Married and Flirting

[michaelmt1]

My Rant,

There was a post the other day that went some thing like “Your Married You bastard”

Let me state right from the start that I have never hidden the fact that I am in a committed relationship I make constant references to my SO. I also have never hidden the fact that I am an outrageous flirt. I like to flirt for the record I do not consider cyber sex to be cheating. Cheating is doing some thing YOU KNOW will be hurtful to your SO.

So why is it fine for women to flirt and not men and why do so many women consider a man flirting to be cheating bastards. I’m a bit of pussy tease I suppose.

Does it really matter if a guy is in a relationship and he is chatting away in the boards flirting having fun, giving other people some fun as well. If he has no intention of doing anything in real life what does it matter that he is in a committed relationship.

I don’t think it matter where you get your appetite when you always eat at home.

So if you pm me remember I’m a tease !!! I am in a committed relationship !!! It doesn’t mean we cant be friends, It doesn’t mean we cant have a little fun, it does mean that in RL I would never ever do any of the thing I let my imagination run wild with on these boards.

OK that’s it now crucify me.

Mike

 

[bluntforcemama]

I'm getting married (no secret there), and I flirt once in a while. Usually only with females, though. You've been warned.

 

[penguindance]

 

[nasty]

I'm getting married (no secret there)

That's news to me. Congrats, Mysty. As for the question, go ahead and flirt. If people don't take it in good fun, oh well.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[penguindance]

 

[berkley2955]

I don't flirt...

much.

My Hairy Ass You Don't! (but remember, I'm "the Quiet One"

 

[Guest]

Sorry, but I'm married and like to flirt with pussy.

Bitches and Bastards!

 

[mistressastra]

Yeah I met a guy who was married, had 2 girls, and said even though he wasn't happy right then, he wouldn't leave his wife. I told him I wouldn't want him to. We met online alot, talked, cybered and just made each other laugh and feel good. I only became upset when he just quit emailing and chatting. No reason like wifey and I are doing better. Just gone. ~~~

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

It's easiest to take a negative moral stance when judging others.

 

[lickerish]

just cuz i feel like it, here's my $.02

In my own OPINION, I think if two people have taken vows to remain faithful to each other 'til death do they part.. and one/both feel that they need to seek attention, or whatnot, from outside of the marriage.. then they shouldn't have married in the first place.

Innocent flirting is one thing.. non-innocent flirting is another and if it makes the other person in that union uncomfortable, then it should stop. If you hide the flirting from the other person, then it's wrong.

I know personally, if I found out my SO was flirting (of the non-innocent sort), or cybering with someone, I would be devestated (but I have past history that explains that).

If it's mutually agreed upon that it's okay, then it's okay.

 

[Ladybird]

There's fantasy and reality.

Sometimes reality needs a little fantasy to make it fun, or to take away the pain of disappointment.

I see now harm at all in flirting and cybering when it's all fantasy and fun.

It's only when it becomes reality and there are other people involved, such as a SO, that it's wrong.

FYI... I love to flirt, and I'm single.

 

[Randy]

Flirt

I love to flirt. No harm no foul.
Rand

 

[trixiefirecracker]

'Flirtation'
Attention without intention.......

Stick to that and where the problem???
I LOVE to flirt......with guys...gals...whatever!

Trix xx

 

[brokenbrainwave]

there is not a thing wrong with flirting, I am a huge flirt, just not online very much. Out in public it's a different matter, I flirt, pick, and generally am an attention whore. My wife loves it when I do, as do I when she's flirting. It gets our juices flowing and the bottom line is it makes us proud when the other can attract the attention of someone. That is as far as it goes, just flirting. Finding out that you can still make someone, other than the person you have been faithful to for over a decade, heart go pitter patter. Is it a mind game, of course, but it's also very fun.

 

[WickedAsianBabe]

I flirt and it's second nature to me. I've had my lover tell me to stop in his presence. I don't even realize I'm doing it.

I worked in an office with this gal who was chatting online with somebody and was making plans to meet him. All the staff knew about it and tried to dissuade her, but she made it be known that if she liked the guy, she would leave her husband! I left before the outcome!

 

[Aphrodisiac]

I admit I flirt on Lit. and I have an S/O ... but that is simply what I do ... some innocent flirting.

The cybersex/ phonesex/role playing ... etc... I do not engage in ... some how that does not appeal to me.

It does not appeal to me because I like my SO very much and doing that is not my thing , its stepping over the line , in my opinion.

 

[penguindance]

 

[trixiefirecracker]

I flirt all day....every day.....i flirt on Lit.....i flirt at work....i flirt wherever!!
Flirting is something i do without really knowing im doing it.....my friends all say im the biggest flirt they know.......but to me its all just good fun!

Trix xx

 

[Daddyslilpet]

I'm a big flirt myself. Thank goodness hubby doesn't mind!!!!

 

[JerseyBoy]

Been to the extreme and back again...

sorry mistressastra for what happened to you. He should have said something if at least to tlet you know he was still alive (that tragedy is always a possibility)

You never realize how quickly you can get in over your head...

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Flirting can be fun

I enjoy "open" flirting on boards or chat. This can backfire a little if my "connection" time with my SO is interfered with.

Since I am involved now, there is absolutely no need for me to PM or cyber anymore, and I really don't miss it!

 

[marksgirl]

My husband and I are both big flirts, we both love it and have fun with it. It's a game we play together, and neither would hurt the other by doing something stupid like crossing over the line with out the concent of the other.

 

[Suzi]

Ahem...

BUMP

 

[Ezarc]

I have been a big flirt for most of my life. I don't reallize that I am doing it anymore until either someone points it out to me or that the flirting becomes more involved. I will be honest that my soon to be ex wasn't really comfortable with my flirting. That in itself can cause tensions and problems. I have also been hurt some of my women friends with my flirting without meaning to because they got attached to me because of the flirting. I flirt so much and most of it without thought. It just is. For those around you that can hurt. So chose wisely in a mate those with the extra big flirting genetics for most will end up being hurt by your actions. With or without you even realizing that you caused them pain.
Take Care and Be Good to Your SOs Heart,
Ezarc