Married and extremely curious

wishin41mi

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:confused: Hey,
Lately I have been spending more time thinking about having an experience with another guy. Problem is that I am married. I don't walk into a room and look at men and think that this one is cute or think that I would like to have sex with that one. Men themselves do not turn me on, but the thought of having sex with them truly truns me on. I came very close to experiencing sex with another male until I started feeling guilty about cheating on my wife.
Any advise?
 
Come clean and tell her how you feel...if she's open-minded. It doesn't sound like you're homosexual, maybe you just like the thought of "sex" with the same sex. I'm exactly the same way. I'm not a lesbian, I could never be in a relationship with a woman, but the thought of having sex with one is a huge turn-on. Don't deny yourself these urges forever...you will eventually begin to resent your situation.

If you'd like to chat, pm me. ;)

Liz
 
that all sounds pretty normal to me... the only thing i can say is if it truly something you want to experience and fantasize about... talk to your partner about it...

i hinted at it until she finally said it.. and her saying it made it so i knew it was okay that i had those thoughts... now it is something we are both comfortable with discussing.... cheating is cheating.. so make sure if you ever do decide to do something your partner is aware and approves of it.. obviously...

but like you said.. i'm not often attracted to guys.. i'm just attracted to the sexual side of it.. I love watching gay porn, bisexual porn (which by the way might be an interesting way to break the ice)... there are different levels of bisexuality as everyone around here will tell you... i myself could never see myself in a relationship with another man, but i could see myself having sex with one...

my 2 cents...

SD
 
wishin41mi said:
Was ther any guys in the same position I am?


This is quite a common situation for both men and women. Wondering about homosexuality is normal for both sexes. I have talked to many men about this kind of urge. Most of them, (probably 80%) never act on it and find it to be a passing fancy, the others give it a run, with or without their spouses knowledge.

I can't tell you where to find a man, whether to tell your wife, or if you should act on your fantasy. You know all of that already and just need to tap the information.

My only advice is:
If guilt is preventing you from doing something, then perhaps you shouldn't do it until you know the cause of the shame and guilt. If you believe it would be wrong then why do it?
 
Same as my situation. Have had oral a few times...it is the erotic sex not a relationshp. Wife knows but is not interested.
 
Been there, done that.

My advice: Tell your wife what your fantasy is. For years I've secrety jerked off to gay porn and cocks, while hiding it from my wife. At the same time, she fantasized about being with another woman and didn't tell me. Finally, one day, we opened up about our deepest fantasies and discovered we both had same-sex curiosity. Now we're encouraging each other to explore this new side of our respective sexualities.

Be open and honest and hope she is open minded about it.
 
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