Married and bored......

[Guest]

I know there are some married/commited couples on here... so I was wondering.... Have you ever just gotten bored and not wanted to have sex at all with your significant other? And how do you keep your marriages alive?

 

[FantasyGoddess]

Every relationship will go through a dry spell. There is no reason why, it's just something that happens. My husband and I go through the same thing once in a while. Then one day everything is back to normal again.

 

[Neale]

On the other hand...

Sometimes it just stops. For years. A marriage can survive without sex, but it isn't easy. Especially for the one whose idea it wasn't. Still, hope springs eternal, and all that. Things change, and love (hopefully) will bring both people back to where they can enjoy each other in all aspects.

 

[Closet Desire]

Bored with CD-able?

Never!

Everytime I see her I want her as much as I did in the early days when I had to travel 7,000 miles to see her. I can't explain it. That's just the way it is. It must be magic or something.

 

[Andra_Jenny]

Buenos Dias,
I am learning that a two year-old can create dry spells. Boy, can she create dry spells.

 

[Countess DeWinter]

There's a difference...

between a dry spell caused by "I can't" - as in the case of kids (I've got 4 so I know all about that!) - and a dry spell caused by "I don't want to."

I've had numerous episodes of the "I cant's" and there was never a question of the relationship being on the rocks. Tense, yes, but stable!
The "I don't want to's" however, almost destroyed my marriage. There is even a verse in the Bible that instructs spouses to give each other their "due" and not to deprive each other. If my husband stopped wanting to, I would probably take it for a while, but not for long.
As for keeping it hot, new places, new positions (yes, that requires reference books after a few years ), new toys and remembering the joy of kissing keeps us from getting bored with the "same old same old."

 

[innocentwife]

experience I guess

It is my 10 year anniversary this month! I am fairly young (not quite 30) and have three children. kids can make it difficult but I feel that variety and new experiences make it better. I have always been very conservative and "plain" for lack of a better word. Lately we read Literotica, and I even posted on red clouds in voyerweb as a suprise to him! Boy was he shocked. things like that make a difference I think! the longer you wait, the easier it gets to not do it! I becomes more of a routine not to have sex than to actually make time. I actually will look forward to it all day! It wasn't until my husband opened up and shared his fantasies that I felt I could do that as well. We haven't acted on any of them but sure get hot thinking about them! I am actually very shy in nature and don't like to talk about that stuff but love it when he does.