marriage

[sweetfeet]

I am a young wife (will be 20 on the 29th, happy birthday to me). I was married in June to a man I fell in love with six months before that. We have what you would call a good relationship, but I noticed an alarming trend, and I am wondering if all those jokes about being married and not getting any is true.
So what is it about being married that takes sexual encounters of any sort from at least four times a week to once every week and a half, two weeks?

 

[Bonnie Wee Lassie]

I think it all depends on the couple. I know married people that still have sex once a day and some less then that. Don't worry to much about it, if you have those types of concerns when the time comes that sex is less then what it used to be talk to him about it.

 

[Temptress_1960]

I think it depends on what else is going on in your life. It's a cycle, sometimes daily, sometimes not.

It takes a lot of effort to make a relationship work. You need to focus on being together, and try not to let life's little problems get in the way of your intimacy.

 

[OUTSIDER]

Us guy's are dumb....

if you want more sex ask for it, say I want more sex and I want it now, if your partner does not give it to you then he is either gay, dead or stupid.

 

[TonyG]

I think it depends on what else is going on in your life. It's a cycle, sometimes daily, sometimes not.

This is true, however don't let it go on for too long. If you are not being satisfied enough then you must discuss it out before it gets too late.

 

[sweetfeet]

He gets offended when I ask for it, like it threatens his virility, and I don't like asking for it. I would rather have him in control. I used to be an exotic dancer when we got married, but I quit for that reason. But when I was a dancer, we had sex every night. I think because he was worried I would get it elsewhere. I think he is just lazy.

 

[TonyG]

I used to be an exotic dancer when we got married, but I quit for that reason. But when I was a dancer, we had sex every night. I think because he was worried I would get it elsewhere.

Perhaps it was because he enjoys the fantasy of an exotic dancer. Try playing up other fantasy angles or read stories from this site together.

 

[Closet Desire]

hmmmm...

My first marriage was sort of like that. Went on for twenty years. CD-able and I got together about five years ago and it's still two or three times a day. We both have matched appetites...voracious is the word. Sort of surprising since I'm 42 she's 40.

Part of it is that we each feel free to start something. We each think it's important, a vital part of what we share together. We do communicate very openly about our desires, disappointments, and needs. We do notice that sometimes kids, work, friends, and family can start to intrude and we quickly put the brakes on it because what we have is more important that these other issues...yes even the kids. Why? Because when we are happy, fulfilled, and not stressed, life in the household is happy, fulfilled, and not stressed. The children benefit.

Every story is different. No right or wrong to it...just what's comfortable and mutual. If there's a mismatch then maybe some candid communication is called for?

 

[jcgirl]

Well, as someone whose countdown to the plunge is t-minus 15 days. I like to think that it wont go downhill.

 

[R Nitelight]

jcgirl

You're plunging?
Congratulations.

http://cwm.ragesofsanity.com/s/asian2/pconfetti.gif

 

[jcgirl]

LOL

So to speak, thanks. On the 31st

 

[TN_Vixen]

sweetfeet

that's not true for all marriages, but one thing is certain, being as young as you are you may not be too comfortable discussing your sexual needs with your husband and that's natural. It takes a while to grow into yourself and learn what you need and what you want and that it is perfectly fine to ask for those things, however... if you just speculate instead of actually initiating a conversation with him about this, then nothing will get resolved. communication is key.

 

[Ambrosious]

sweetfeet

Love the name. Damn...just damn.

 

[Naked Hunny]

you and your feet dear!! Mine could use some lovin!!

 

[Curious Guy]

sweetfeet

You don't have to ask out loud. I do not know any men that could resist having there own private, exotic, 20 year old dancer. If he is alive, that should work.

Walking out of thread mumbling:
Damn dumb-assed young husbands.