Marriage

[Thumper]

The Arkham(sp) Asylum

Any woman that would adore me for all I am...is probably in lockdown at the Hospital for the criminally insane!

Be afraid Jeff..be very afraid..you are bound to get seriously disillusioned when real life hits ya upside yo fool head!

 

[Jeff726]

Don't spoil my fun dammit!

 

[Latina]

Vlad,

You don't say if you love her, and whether you WANT to marry her. You say you feel free being single, I've been single, married, widowed, and married again, and I frankly don't see what the big attraction is in being single! My single years until age 26 involved little sex, and none of it any good. Second time being single (widowed) I had to be a single mom working two jobs to make ends meet, having friends and relaives help me raise my son, all of that really SUCKED!

Why did I remarry? The love, of course. And because neither of us could IMAGINE spending the rest of our lives WITHOUT being together. If you feel that way, you love her completely and can't imagine not being with her, then by all means get married. If you are getting married only because it's what SHE wants, then DON'T, you'll both be miserable.

Has everything been 100% smooth for us through four years of marriage? Of course not! Would those four years have been any better for either of us, had we both remained single? Again, of course not! Do you think you would feel this way (still in love, no regrets) after 4 years of marriage? In 10 years? In 20? Think long and hard abnout that, before you marry or bring kids into the picture. A divorce can leave a lot of hurt and anguish for both of you, and really mess up the lives of any kids involved.

We love each other, and are true soulmates. Having each other's support has made life's rough spots SO much easier! But again, you should feel like that, or don't marry her.

Fringe benefit: waking up every morning with a handsome naked guy's arms (or in your case it would be a beautiful naked girl) wrapped around me! The SAME beautiful naked man each day! The comfort and assurance that this povides, being in same naked guy's arms EVERY morning. We love each other, enjoy the sex--REALLY enjoy it!--know each other's bodies, instinctively know when the other is in the mood, and how to get each other off, which is SO cool (not having to ask him or tell him, both knowing what to do to, for, and with each oher, from past experience, that's just SO great!) And we are comfortable enough with each other to cuddle and NOT have sex if neither of us wants to. And we love each other enough to know how to patiently persuade the one of us who is less horny at that moment. It is all so good, even the bad can be good, you can't imagine unless or until you've been there.

Bottom line: only you and she can decide if marriage is right for YOU. For me, marriage is ten million bazillion times better than being single.

-- Latina (female, age 50)