Marriage dilemma..for all you lawyers, married folk...
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Vixandra
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You can legally change your name to "Bob's BigBoy" if that makes you happy.
SSN and DL, everything that makes you you legally.
If I remember right, someone sold thier name on Ebay and renamed themselves after the desires of the highest bidder.
Anyway, if Wendy Wendles doesn't work for you, and T's happy with you taking his mom's maiden name, go for it.
Oh, and congrats too, btw.
SSN and DL, everything that makes you you legally.
If I remember right, someone sold thier name on Ebay and renamed themselves after the desires of the highest bidder.
Anyway, if Wendy Wendles doesn't work for you, and T's happy with you taking his mom's maiden name, go for it.
Oh, and congrats too, btw.
Marquis
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I've often wondered about this too.
My mother never changed her maiden name either, and I admired her for that. On the other hand, I think I would kind of like it for my wife to take on my last name, even though I don't love it myself. If I were to ever make a career in entertainment, I would almost definitely use a different name, might even use Marquis.
Then again, I might never get married, because I'm not sure I'll ever give up on my poly dreams. Although it would please me greatly to have two women both carry my last name. I guess that could be done without marriage.
My mother never changed her maiden name either, and I admired her for that. On the other hand, I think I would kind of like it for my wife to take on my last name, even though I don't love it myself. If I were to ever make a career in entertainment, I would almost definitely use a different name, might even use Marquis.
Then again, I might never get married, because I'm not sure I'll ever give up on my poly dreams. Although it would please me greatly to have two women both carry my last name. I guess that could be done without marriage.
Bandit58
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You can change your name by deed poll to anything you like, and if there's no objection within the family to you doing so, then no problem 
I still have my married name even though I got divorced last year, because that's how I've been known since I was 19 years old. However Master and I plan to marry next year so it'll be a good opportunity to change my now disliked surname. My initials will still be the same though
Just thinking of all the hassle to go through changing my bank accounts/credit cards/drivers licence/passport/medicare card etc etc etc *throws up her hands*
I still have my married name even though I got divorced last year, because that's how I've been known since I was 19 years old. However Master and I plan to marry next year so it'll be a good opportunity to change my now disliked surname. My initials will still be the same though
Just thinking of all the hassle to go through changing my bank accounts/credit cards/drivers licence/passport/medicare card etc etc etc *throws up her hands*
graceanne
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You can change your name to payne if you want, but it's a bit more difficult than if you were just changing your name to your husbands. When you change your name to your hubbies all you have to do is take in your marriage certificate to the misc agencys (SS office, DMV, bank, etc). To tell the truth I have no idea how to change your name otherwise.
As for me I took my maiden name as my middle name. I did this for two reasons. One I HATE my middle name, and two it's a family thing. My mom did that, my grandma did it, etc. On the other hand - I'm glad my sis didn't do that or we'd have had the same initials. It's bad enough that are names are almost exactly the same. (Like naming your children Lisa and Melissa - that type of thing.)
As for me I took my maiden name as my middle name. I did this for two reasons. One I HATE my middle name, and two it's a family thing. My mom did that, my grandma did it, etc. On the other hand - I'm glad my sis didn't do that or we'd have had the same initials. It's bad enough that are names are almost exactly the same. (Like naming your children Lisa and Melissa - that type of thing.)
Netzach
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I kept my name because had I changed it I would have wound up something very much like "Mrs. Smedley."
There's no way in the world that I could be something so Mrs. old lady making jam out of beach plums. Even my sense of irony doesn't stretch that far.
I say run it by your sweetie and go for it if you want.
There's no way in the world that I could be something so Mrs. old lady making jam out of beach plums. Even my sense of irony doesn't stretch that far.
I say run it by your sweetie and go for it if you want.
FurryFury
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Changing your name to something you like is a big pain in the ass but if you want to do it go for it! I don't blame you a bit! I have totally wanted to do that once upon a time.
When I named the kids I figured they could change their names if they didn't like them. Thankfully they do like em so far.
My daughter was adopted by my husband. So we had to change her birth certificate and then her name on everything. Well actually, I am still working on it. She has a crap load of legal stuff for me to deal with.
I changed my name the first time I got married because I didn't like my maiden name.
I changed it the second time I got married because it was only fair to do it for one more deserving and I now considered my first married name toxic.
However if I hadn't liked their names and wanted to keep my maiden name I would have.
Fury
When I named the kids I figured they could change their names if they didn't like them. Thankfully they do like em so far.
My daughter was adopted by my husband. So we had to change her birth certificate and then her name on everything. Well actually, I am still working on it. She has a crap load of legal stuff for me to deal with.
I changed my name the first time I got married because I didn't like my maiden name.
I changed it the second time I got married because it was only fair to do it for one more deserving and I now considered my first married name toxic.
However if I hadn't liked their names and wanted to keep my maiden name I would have.
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You could both change your name to something you agree on together. It could be Payne, a combination of your current last names or something totally different.
As Grace mentioned, changing to your future hubby is very simple, but something else is not quite as. Although it isn't extremely difficult either, almost a "form" type of thing you could find probably anywhere on the net. You would need to appear before a judge, and swear under oath that you are not changing your (or both of your) name(s) to avoid prosecution, debt, etc. A formality really, not like the judge is going to berate you for making the decision.
I would suggest seriously discussing it with T now though so you could make a decision and begin whatever preparations are necessary to complete as close to your wedding as possible.
And by the way, Best wishes!
As Grace mentioned, changing to your future hubby is very simple, but something else is not quite as. Although it isn't extremely difficult either, almost a "form" type of thing you could find probably anywhere on the net. You would need to appear before a judge, and swear under oath that you are not changing your (or both of your) name(s) to avoid prosecution, debt, etc. A formality really, not like the judge is going to berate you for making the decision.
I would suggest seriously discussing it with T now though so you could make a decision and begin whatever preparations are necessary to complete as close to your wedding as possible.
And by the way, Best wishes!
Shadowedge
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I too want to change my name, but since i have no plans on ever getting married. (poly, and the state has nothing to say about it, and my roman catholic grandmother would freak if I didn't do it at her church, and my mother's on 4 now, and that's enough for both of us, and I have some issues, I know.)
Problem is that I have a very common last name, not quite Jones or Smith, but close. I also have most common middle name ever: Ann. My first name is fairly unusual, BUT there are at least three other people with my exact same name in the US alone. I think this could be a problem, expecially since I plan to be published one of these days.
I like my first name, feel a family connection with last name, so was going to change middle name. But I'm an adult with TONS of places my name appers, so it would almost certainly be a pain in the butt.
Is is worth it to help prevent credit fraud and my (soon to be) fame? Anyone changed thier name as an adult? Is it worth the trouble just to do the middle name?
Problem is that I have a very common last name, not quite Jones or Smith, but close. I also have most common middle name ever: Ann. My first name is fairly unusual, BUT there are at least three other people with my exact same name in the US alone. I think this could be a problem, expecially since I plan to be published one of these days.
I like my first name, feel a family connection with last name, so was going to change middle name. But I'm an adult with TONS of places my name appers, so it would almost certainly be a pain in the butt.
Is is worth it to help prevent credit fraud and my (soon to be) fame? Anyone changed thier name as an adult? Is it worth the trouble just to do the middle name?
