Male sub thread

[PinkOrchid]

 

[JoseIsWild]

I guess I'll be first. I'm actually a switch--part time sub, part time dom. When I'm in sub mode, I like to be tied, teased, and exhibited. I haven't had the chance to do much of this but one specific time was when I had to do chores around the house while totally naked.

I enjoy this and I hope I have opportunities later to do more.

 

[Shadowsdream]

Good thread idea PinkOrchid

It will be nice to round out the board with more voices with different thoughts. So speak up toy boys!

 

[AvaAdore]

i'm a girl and a switch (so i guess i dont belong here ).

i just wanted to say that there is a huge lack of male sub stories. maybe i should try writing some...i have never written one before, but i will actually have time to give it a go since my finals are done on saturday (they have exams on saturdays. how annoying is that??!!).

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Nightsfire]

bursting my lit cherry here

I really don't see why male subs are such a big deal.

I am a male sub and I am proud, my mistress is harsh yes but fair....

What is there to be ashamed about? I am a sub and damn proud of my mistress! *lol* I guess I need to be

My point remains I am proud to be a sub and I love my mistress to death...

What is so degrading about being a sub? I wrap myself in the mystery and long for more.
just my take peeps

 

[AvaAdore]

Thanks for posting Jose and Shadowsdream!

Ava, I agree about the stories. Do you have any links to some good ones?

not really...i usually just browse through lit stuff till i find something. sorry!

 

[Shadowsdream]

male subs...
I happen to adore them and each one that has stepped through My doorway has been an incredibly strong human being. So whats wrong with them? Not a god damned thing!
Are they kinked differently than female submissives? Generally but not always!
Are they less emotional? Generally but not always!
Do they dress differently? Generally but not always!
Are they more obedient? No!
Are they less obedient? No!
Are they as domestically inclined? Generally yes and often more kinked to the domestic side of the relationship than not, but not always!
One is as horny as the other (male/female)!
Male subs are male..fem subs are female...that pretty much is the only difference I see when I look at the two genders...maybe that is My Bi side speaking!

 

[ChasingShadowsX]

The male sub voice is conspicuously quiet on this board. I know, however, that there are more than a few out there since I have been contacted in PMs by a number of them.

It's because Male Subs aren't considered sexy by the majority of people, they're not as interesting or wanted. It's like most guys will find the idea of lesbians attractive, where as not many girls will find gays attractive.

For anyone who replies to this saying "yes thats bullshti cuz i find such and such a turn on or whatever" I did say the majority.

 

[Shadowsdream]

It's because Male Subs aren't considered sexy by the majority of people, they're not as interesting or wanted. It's like most guys will find the idea of lesbians attractive, where as not many girls will find gays attractive.

For anyone who replies to this saying "yes thats bullshti cuz i find such and such a turn on or whatever" I did say the majority.

The majority of "people?"
It seems to be fairly common in the real world to hear the quote " Good guys finish last"
Perhaps this is where the idea that submissive males are not considered sexy?
It is likely NONE of U/us are considered sexy to the majority!
Outside of O/our BDSM world Dominants can be seen as Bitches or controlling Bastards. Submissives seen as needy children. Both male and female. Neither is attractive to some in the vanilla world.
That having been said...male subs are seen as VERY sexy and if they have any intellect (which most do) they are very interesting. They are wanted in this lifestyle because without them the circle of Domination and submission cannot be completed in a heterosexual relationship as well as in the gay world. (male gay!) arghhh!
The sad reality is that there are more male subs than there are Dommes...I have little doubt that less post in forums as they become disappointed in the search for their magic.

 

[MissTaken]

Welcome to the forum, nitesfire.

Great thread, Pink Orchid.

I would love to see more male subs posting and adding their perspective to our discussions.

Please, hop in here and elsewhere, gentlemen!

 

[wolf2002]

The sad reality is that there are more male subs than there are Dommes...I have little doubt that less post in forums as they become disappointed in the search for their magic.

Lucky for us that most Dommes take more than one sub under their wings

Disappointment may be one reason why male subs post less on fora like this... but I also think that a lot are more interested in the sexual/physical aspects rather than discussing the lifestyle in an intellectual way.
Some months ago a beautiful Dominant female started posting pics on the APF here at Lit. It was amazing how much male subs suddenly popped up stating 'Your wish is my command'...
(I must admit I posted on her thread as well, to show my admiration )

I am a male switch. I am a collared sub to a wonderful Domme. Our relation is strictly online. Not sex but words are our main way of interaction.

 

[Tom Bishop]

I am having fun being a Sub.
The Last time I was with Boss Cock (master I guess) he put some questions to me I would like to answer them here.
Ways My Boss uses me .
As entertainment for him and his Boyfriend
piss play no scat. No Pain
To entertain a Amazone size Women who was working with him and staying at his place She Found great plesure in feeding me his cock Holding it as i sucked it she held his ass cheeks open as I rimmed him She had me tit fuck her then when I came on her chest she feed me my cum Telling me what a cum slut I was talking softly just leting me know what a whore she thought I was . When she got back home to Brazile she sent us a letter telling us how Nieve she was that she had very few date in her life she always felt big and ugly and seeing us two together was the Kinkest thing she ever seen and would ever expiereance . And finding out That Ken (Boss Cock ) had just TURNED me into his suck toy That Before that I was a macho male chovenist Ironworker simply blew her away
Well That letter was one of the most thrilling things that had ever happend to me When I read it It inbarressed me humileated me brought mentle Images to my mind and made me as hard as a rock.
When Boss Hires yes I wrote hires me to entertain and serve him and his Boy Friend it is great I just give all control to the two of them there is no Problem with where we all stand Boss Is the top Boyfriend Is The guest and I am the butler sex toy

I just like the times we spend together as Boss and slut On the street I still am as work and family oreantaded as before but now I have a Special place where I have no responsabilaties or deadlines No presure no angziety Just good feelings and thoughts
Hope this makes sence to you people and the one I wrote it for
Bishop

 

[rick_j21]

Male sub with online and real time experience. Whatcha wanna know from me?

 

[MissTaken]

Male sub with online and real time experience. Whatcha wanna know from me?

Now that is a dangerous opening???




Anyway, just wondering, have any of you, as many fem subs do, gone through periods wherein your question your submission and question why you desire it so much?

Self doubt being the key here....

 

[rick_j21]

Now that is a dangerous opening???




Anyway, just wondering, have any of you, as many fem subs do, gone through periods wherein your question your submission and question why you desire it so much?

Self doubt being the key here....

Right now. I was released from a Domme in August and since then I have had periods of doubt whether I was good enough to be a sub. I think though thats just part of the healing process of losing a long term relationship.

 

[ImmortaleAmante]

As a Domme, i love male subs, most male subs are intelligent, strong men and the fact that they then give themselves so completely is a beautiful gift, in my opinion there is very little difference between a male and female sub, each relationship is unique and developes in its own way.

 

[Guest]

 

[rick_j21]

Agreed. I have wondered whether I should be a switch instead of a Domme after the death of my pet.

PM me if you'd like to chat.

I am sorry to hear of your loss. I have so much to respond off of in that one sentence. I guess I am a male sub with opinions. I just don't know about switches. I think you are what you are. I'd love the chance to chat with you though at any time.

 

[MissTaken]

Right now. I was released from a Domme in August and since then I have had periods of doubt whether I was good enough to be a sub. I think though thats just part of the healing process of losing a long term relationship.

I am sorry to hear this, rick.

Yahoo me if you ever want to talk.

 

[yessmiss]

Ava, I agree about the stories. Do you have any links to some good ones?

The community at the bottom of my sig has plenty of stories. Some good, some not so good; some even world-class. Try any by Peter, his "Amy-nurse's aide" is a wildly & widely celebrated T&D epos.

Thanks for the thread. Saw some other openers of the subject by newbies, unfortunately hacked to pieces...



p.s. Being a yielding and serviant person, forfeiting large portions of control and responsibility; and adoring strongwilled women I suppose I would pass as a sub... BUT I find a happy, dancing subbie the most erotic and rewarding of companies (especially Niteshade ) but I could never consider myself a switch - as Rick said: you are what you are. I am a man who finds relationships with women works out best if I don't try to control too much of it, letting my ego grow bigger than the relationship.

~yess

 

[wolf2002]

I just found a great Domme pick-up line...

“I'm not gonna drain you completely. You're gonna turn for me, you'll be my slave. You'll live for me. You'll eat bugs because I order it. Because I don't think you're worthy of human blood, you'll feed on the blood of stray dogs. You'll be my foot stool. And at my command, you'll lick the dog shit from my boot heel. Since you'll be my dog, your new name will be "Spot". Welcome to slavery.”

I’d sure fall for it....

PS: Anyone can guess which movie this comes from?

 

[yessmiss]

PS: Anyone can guess which movie this comes from?

There are different kind of Slayers...

 

[draig OMalley]

I seldom post anything (just too busy) but, to echo what was already said, this thread is a good idea. I have seldom seen viable places to comment about being a male sub, and when I have, most intelligent comments about the subject seem to come from females--but then, maybe that's the halo effect acting on me, because I definitely tend to think females are way out in front of us males in skilled understanding of the heart. (Hey, did I just define my submissiveness?) I have always had within me (even as a little boy) a sensitivity that experiences an overwhelming awe for the female--I felt it in the presence of my mother, my sisters, and any other female I encountered (even the nuns who taught me at school). The key word there is WITHIN, because I always maintained a stoically assertive male exterior that forbade such awe to be expressed, or even admitted to (except in fantasy). That is, until a few years after my mate and I had "settled" into our relationship. One day, in a moment of male weakness, I told her that I craved the opportunity to submit to her. After a wierd, excruciating quiet, the first of many long discussions followed. In the midst of our busy lives, we experimented. We fouled up a few times, but sometimes we opened new avenues of understanding. We are now middle-aged professional people, slowing down, enjoying our freedom as lovers (our daughters, whom I secretly worship as much as I worship their mother, are both in college now). In almost a quarter century of experimentation, we have arrived at a skill level that allows us to draw on the richness of a Domme/sub dimension to our relationship. (It is not the only dimension, by far, but is an important one.) Within that dimension, we occasionally discover the sweetness of a liberated expression of love for each other. (I have a couple of stories posted that provide examples of how we relate to each other within this domension). As with all dimensions of love, it is very fleeting, but oh so euphoric. In those brief glimpses (of paradise?--we're no longer religious, so I'm not sure of using spiritual language to talk about it), she is the essence of our love and I but its periphery. The metaphor of the moth and the flame is appropriate here: when we are "in our playhouse," I am mesmerized by her flame, continuously flying around it until I finally go right through it and burn up. Two things happen: while I am burning, she, the flame, expands and flares up for just an instant, and I, knowing her brightness is enhanced by consuming me, feel my submission fulfilled. That is the brief glimpse I mentioned. Again, we have many other dimensions to our relationship, but this one is the most intense by far. Because it is something I have never discussed with anyone but her, I find it very hard to describe without using metaphors. Well, my mother has been gone for some time now, I seldom see my sisters, and as for the nuns--are they even still around? Meanwhile, thanks to my understanding mate, I continue to nurture that sensitivity.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

I seldom post anything (just too busy) but, to echo what was already said, this thread is a good idea. I have seldom seen viable places to comment about being a male sub, and when I have, most intelligent comments about the subject seem to come from females--but then, maybe that's the halo effect acting on me, because I definitely tend to think females are way out in front of us males in skilled understanding of the heart. (Hey, did I just define my submissiveness?) I have always had within me (even as a little boy) a sensitivity that experiences an overwhelming awe for the female--I felt it in the presence of my mother, my sisters, and any other female I encountered (even the nuns who taught me at school). The key word there is WITHIN, because I always maintained a stoically assertive male exterior that forbade such awe to be expressed, or even admitted to (except in fantasy). That is, until a few years after my mate and I had "settled" into our relationship. One day, in a moment of male weakness, I told her that I craved the opportunity to submit to her. After a wierd, excruciating quiet, the first of many long discussions followed. In the midst of our busy lives, we experimented. We fouled up a few times, but sometimes we opened new avenues of understanding. We are now middle-aged professional people, slowing down, enjoying our freedom as lovers (our daughters, whom I secretly worship as much as I worship their mother, are both in college now). In almost a quarter century of experimentation, we have arrived at a skill level that allows us to draw on the richness of a Domme/sub dimension to our relationship. (It is not the only dimension, by far, but is an important one.) Within that dimension, we occasionally discover the sweetness of a liberated expression of love for each other. (I have a couple of stories posted that provide examples of how we relate to each other within this domension). As with all dimensions of love, it is very fleeting, but oh so euphoric. In those brief glimpses (of paradise?--we're no longer religious, so I'm not sure of using spiritual language to talk about it), she is the essence of our love and I but its periphery. The metaphor of the moth and the flame is appropriate here: when we are "in our playhouse," I am mesmerized by her flame, continuously flying around it until I finally go right through it and burn up. Two things happen: while I am burning, she, the flame, expands and flares up for just an instant, and I, knowing her brightness is enhanced by consuming me, feel my submission fulfilled. That is the brief glimpse I mentioned. Again, we have many other dimensions to our relationship, but this one is the most intense by far. Because it is something I have never discussed with anyone but her, I find it very hard to describe without using metaphors. Well, my mother has been gone for some time now, I seldom see my sisters, and as for the nuns--are they even still around? Meanwhile, thanks to my understanding mate, I continue to nurture that sensitivity.

This is one of the more amazing posts I have read around here lately.

Thank you so much for sharing your reality with us.

~anelize