male Dom looking for female sub to chat with, get to know, and if we click...

SirRay23

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Short version: male Dom looking for female sub to chat with, get to know, and if we click then maybe some task play.

LONG VERSION:
Hello,
My name is Jeremy, and I am a dominant male, who is looking for a submissive female. At this point your probably thinking the same thing I am, get in line! So let me get right to the point and tell you why I am different from a lot of other dominant males on this site:

I am an articulate, creative, true to myself, funny, smart, and most importantly looking to get to know someone before jumping right into calling her a slut and telling her to get naked.

Not saying I have anything against name calling, in fact I find it quite hot. But I'm not one of those guys to start name calling just because you're a submissive.

Here is what I am looking for:
First off some form of personality is required. If my ears are filled with nothing but monotone “Yes sirs” back to back with no other interaction, it wont work. I need to know you’re alive and not just pressing copy and paste. so please no one that believes those 2 words are the only things allowed out of their mouth. The cliche slave of eyes always down “yes sir” is boring for me. I need someone playful and perhaps with a bit of a devious side...or shy side. I love shy :)


Second, you must be female and preferably under 45.

Third, experience is irrelevant. Whether your curiosity just peaked and you’re looking to get a bit of knowledge, and experience to see if this lifestyle is for you, or if you have many years worth. It does not matter to me.

Fourth, please, please be open to communication. If this is purely online relationship, then our written communication is all I have to go off of. So if you're hiding things you don't like or if you're hiding things you do like for fear of embarrassment, I will never know unless you tell me as I have no visual communication to go off of. I'll be more than happy to help those that are shy about communicating.

Fifth, be articulate and Add to the conversation. It gets boring if it feels like a one sided interrogation the entire time! Also text talk is a major pet peeve of mine, so unless its an occasional lol, I don't want to see that you are roflma.

Sixth, have an open mind. I have a very open mind and will try most things once or twice. All I ask is the same.

Seventh (and lastly), no judging. I will not judge others based on their likes, dislikes, looks, or any other category you can imagine. So I ask the same. We come on here to be ourselves, and a judge free zone helps us be just that.

A little more about me:
I am twenty-three years old, and live in the USA. I have dark brown hair and am 6'3. I became interested in bdsm at a very young age, so while I am young I do have experience beyond my years. I am studying psychology with focus on mental health. I hope to be a councilor or a therapist when I graduate.

A couple major turn-ons (don't worry if you don't share/dislike one or all of these) :
Corsets
Clothing control
Orgasm Denial/ control
discreet public play
(that's all for now, you will have to reach out to know more)


What you can expect when reaching out:

The first thing I do, is talk. Ask questions, answer any questions you have. Durring this time you will never receive a command or order from me. That only happens after we have talked and have both decided that we click.


I hope to hear from you soon,
Jeremy
 
Here is an Icebreaker bump for anyone not sure of what to say in that first message:

what is one fantasy that never fails to get you off?
 
Legit bondage. I have always wanted to know, purely out of curiosity, what being tied up is like. The stuff i have had partners try is barely scratching the surface, like little plastic hand cuffs and shit. Almost doesnt count.
 
sadly the plastic cuffs and scarves don't come anywhere near the real thing. it is a feeling of total helplessness *depending on how you are tied.* that your partner can do whatever they please and you can do nothing to stop it. it takes a lot of trust, but strangely at the same time it builds a lot of trust. It is a very difficult thing to describe as most of the amazing experience takes place in your head.
 
Just wanted to say hi

Yes. I had a friend who was a dom. I never asked for a scene or experie ce but he did tell me about a few things. Joked around with me a lot about how i would make a terrible sub. Too mouthy.
 
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Hello Sir Ray. It has been quite sometime since I've logged in. Your personal caught my attention. The theme of genuineness came through very clearly. I have not been a life long submissive. I discovered this about my self about 7 years ago. I am mother and a career woman. I am intelligent, articulate, approachable and I love to laugh. I am 45, and Puerto Rican yankee. I am in a transition from being married for 21 years and now separated.
I have few friends in kink. Exactly 2. People judge and I'm rather private. I live in Ct and the BDSM community is not easily accessible. I have travelled a bit, I love reading, going to the beach, and good food (to list a few of my likes). Perhaps we'll chat. Until then. Elba
 
Yes. I had a friend who was a dom. I never asked for a scene or experie ce but he did tell me about a few things. Joked around with me a lot about how i would make a terrible sub. Too mouthy.

Too mouthy? That sounds like a brat to me. There are doms that like the challenge of a cheeky pixie. ;)
 
Too mouthy? That sounds like a brat to me. There are doms that like the challenge of a cheeky pixie. ;)

I live by the fact that being a smart ass is ALWAYS better than being a dumb ass. I may get punished for it, but i have exercised my wit and I am happy.
 
Hmmm

I must admit that I'm very curious, do you mind if I'm in the UK? Or that I'm looking to see if submission is for me?
 
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