I think the title says it all. But here is some more info. I am not looking for 24/7. I feel instinctually comfortable with being a dominant male, and my main interest is not merely in short-term BDSM thrills. At this point actually, I am more interested in a gentle, strong, loving relationship that involves a one-sided power differential (out of intellegent decision and trust). I don't even want to use the words servitude or submissive here because they don't precisely fit what I am looking for. For a thorough positive description (rather than what i am not seeking), you can find out, via use of the search engine, more about taken in hand.
I truely believe in trust and respect. That said a 'submissive' would have to be willing to be spanked lovingly for the sake of harmony, and also for the sake of satisying the inner needs of both partners. I am not looking for vanilla. Can explore other BDSM, but to reiterate I am mainly looking for exploration into trying TiH (it would have to be built slowly). Short-term thrills off BDSM are a minor concern. I wouldn't have any qualms and would feel comfortable tying, spanking, milking, humiliation, etc. so do not let my youth and de-emphasization of BDSM deter you. I simply want to make clear that I don't need a one-dimensional BDSM kink addict who does not care much about who I am or who she herself is. These things may come in time if they should. In the end, what I seek in the long-run, is for the both of us to grow and to gain some new insight into who we are.
Just as growth within the relationship is important, I also think growth of both partners as a unit in the rest of the world is as important. I don't believe in either the dominant partner or the submissive partner becoming totally dependent or socially isolated, so if you want to get lost in a world of total need, please look elsewhere. I would expect to guide, introduce, and in general open up new doors for my potential 'submissive' lady.
So a little about me. Currently, I'm working on a PhD in engineering. I'm primarily attracted to the opposite: someone with artistic or musical talent. Outside my PhD work, I have time for a serious relationship, but not enough time for a 24/7 slave. I would prefer a woman with very clear desires, not just in terms of what she wants in a man, but what she wants out of life and out of a career. I also appreciate people in general who are committed to learning throughout their lives. As for age, it is not a huge factor, but I would prefer someone within 7 years of my own (24).
In terms of physical excercise, I am an amateur fighter. If I did not have passions in the engineering world, my second choice profession would be to be a pro fighter of some sort. I prefer someone who also excercises on a regular basis.
Although I am looking for a 'submitting' lady, I do not equate this sort of 'submissiveness' to inner-weakness. I am confident that there is a lady out there that is both smart, strong within, but has a need to both cede power, as well as the need to feel protected by a man. I am heavily into symbolism, so symbolic accessories such as collars, or symbolic actions such as kneeling, are of interest to me.
Even if you don't match all the criteria above, PM if you are curious. We can even chat online (though I think excessive online small talk can kill chemistry that might otherwise present itself spontaneously in a face-to-face encounter). The above is merely a description of an ideal match, a person who may or may not exist in this small literotica realm. There is no way a short personal could be used perfectly to predict how a match would work out. Especially, because what I desire in many ways does not perfectly fit in any certain category. One thing I will not comprimise on is spanking once in a relationship (not just in the bedroom but for being disobedient). If I were to just be 'dominant' in the bedroom or by nature and attitude alone, I could simply put an ad up in the vanilla personals.
PM me if this interests you.
I truely believe in trust and respect. That said a 'submissive' would have to be willing to be spanked lovingly for the sake of harmony, and also for the sake of satisying the inner needs of both partners. I am not looking for vanilla. Can explore other BDSM, but to reiterate I am mainly looking for exploration into trying TiH (it would have to be built slowly). Short-term thrills off BDSM are a minor concern. I wouldn't have any qualms and would feel comfortable tying, spanking, milking, humiliation, etc. so do not let my youth and de-emphasization of BDSM deter you. I simply want to make clear that I don't need a one-dimensional BDSM kink addict who does not care much about who I am or who she herself is. These things may come in time if they should. In the end, what I seek in the long-run, is for the both of us to grow and to gain some new insight into who we are.
Just as growth within the relationship is important, I also think growth of both partners as a unit in the rest of the world is as important. I don't believe in either the dominant partner or the submissive partner becoming totally dependent or socially isolated, so if you want to get lost in a world of total need, please look elsewhere. I would expect to guide, introduce, and in general open up new doors for my potential 'submissive' lady.
So a little about me. Currently, I'm working on a PhD in engineering. I'm primarily attracted to the opposite: someone with artistic or musical talent. Outside my PhD work, I have time for a serious relationship, but not enough time for a 24/7 slave. I would prefer a woman with very clear desires, not just in terms of what she wants in a man, but what she wants out of life and out of a career. I also appreciate people in general who are committed to learning throughout their lives. As for age, it is not a huge factor, but I would prefer someone within 7 years of my own (24).
In terms of physical excercise, I am an amateur fighter. If I did not have passions in the engineering world, my second choice profession would be to be a pro fighter of some sort. I prefer someone who also excercises on a regular basis.
Although I am looking for a 'submitting' lady, I do not equate this sort of 'submissiveness' to inner-weakness. I am confident that there is a lady out there that is both smart, strong within, but has a need to both cede power, as well as the need to feel protected by a man. I am heavily into symbolism, so symbolic accessories such as collars, or symbolic actions such as kneeling, are of interest to me.
Even if you don't match all the criteria above, PM if you are curious. We can even chat online (though I think excessive online small talk can kill chemistry that might otherwise present itself spontaneously in a face-to-face encounter). The above is merely a description of an ideal match, a person who may or may not exist in this small literotica realm. There is no way a short personal could be used perfectly to predict how a match would work out. Especially, because what I desire in many ways does not perfectly fit in any certain category. One thing I will not comprimise on is spanking once in a relationship (not just in the bedroom but for being disobedient). If I were to just be 'dominant' in the bedroom or by nature and attitude alone, I could simply put an ad up in the vanilla personals.
PM me if this interests you.
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