Making amends to Mistress

[PaulBlart]

This is an open letter to my Mistress and posted at her instruction. I posted an ad not long ago looking for online domination and discussion with a woman. Mistress responded, we exchanged emails and seemed to have good chemistry. Since then, she has been controlling my orgasms. Each day we communicate and she often tells me to play with myself and I am to report back to her afterwards about what I fantasize about, how it feels to me. I have been kept without orgasm for two weeks now with frequent torment from her so that I have been on edge. She gave me permission to orgasm earlier in the week but I told her I wanted to do so when I had sex with my wife. When my wife declined sex, Mistress continued the torment. I had reached a point of desperation.

This morning, Mistress instructed me to masturbate for 10minutes, but not to cum. In the midst of this, about a tablespoon of cum flowed out of my cock. I didn't have an orgasmic spasm and there was no pleasure from it. I have begged forgiveness from Mistress. She is considering how to handle this, but her first demand was to have me post this here.

Mistress, please forgive me. I did not do this intentionally. I swear to be honest if anything like this ever happens again. That is the only way an on-line relationship can be fulfilling to either of us.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Your mistress is an asshole with no respect for this forum.Like so many others.

I swear it's like ants-- let one of these cybersex roleplay posts stay and they all come flooding in.

 

[Loverskitten]

Open Letter to ALL Mistresses/Masters,
We don't give a rats ass who came, who cam (or didn't cam) or any of your other bullshit.
Stop sending your bitches here to apologize to you.

 

[DVS]

So, is this another play thread? Should we ask mistress if it's OK?

Poor lost soles that don't understand what's going on in the world. This cyber stuff is getting out of hand. I agree...ants! Do you think the mistress is even a woman? And more importantly, does she like gum? Da da daaaaaaa! Tune in tomorrow to find out!

 

[dreamykitten2]

Well since free speech is an American right

Anyone should be allowed to say whatever they like! You have a right to your opinion but don't try to muzzle others !!!

 

[DVS]

Anyone should be allowed to say whatever they like! You have a right to your opinion but don't try to muzzle others !!!

Yes, but post it in the cafe or better yet, in the role play forum. The BDSM Talk forum is for serious discussions and questions from those who really need to know the answers. Cluttering up the forum with threads like this deminishes those worthy posts. That's why the cafe was created. This thread is fluff!

Hummm, the word muzzle produces some sexy images in my head.

 

[dreamykitten2]

Ok

Yes, but post it in the cafe. The BDSM forum is for serious discussions and questions from those who really need to know the answers. Cluttering up the forum with threads like this deminishes those worthy posts. That's why the cafe was created. This thread is fluff!

Hummm, the word muzzle produces some sexy images in my head.

Apparently not everyone is aware of your "rules"
So noted!!!!

 

[DVS]

Apparently not everyone is aware of your "rules"
So noted!!!!

Don't take offense, because none is intended. But there are rules to things. Shit, life itself has rules.

 

[dreamykitten2]

No offense taken

Don't take offense, because none is intended. But there are rules to things. Shit, life itself has rules.

However maybe a reporting of the rules are needed!

 

[brothertime]

Isn't breaking the rules half the fun? I think, and it's just me, that she has control of him. This is one of the ways she is controlling him. I believe one should not judge a dom/sub relationship.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Apparently not everyone is aware of your "rules"
So noted!!!!

From the forum rules:

11. Please post content in the appropriate forum. We do not believe in censorship, but your posts will be moved or removed if you do not read the forum title before hitting "SUBMIT". Personal ads should be posted in the "Personals" forum, story ideas in the "Story Ideas" forum, BDSM issues in the BDSM forum, random nonsense on the General Board, and so on.

 

[waaitg]

Isn't breaking the rules half the fun? I think, and it's just me, that she has control of him. This is one of the ways she is controlling him. I believe one should not judge a dom/sub relationship.

No one is judging the relationship.

What people are responding to is the posing of an irrelevant topic to this forum area. If we accept your argument then, he is not responsible if she tells him to post pictures of dead seagulls, his laundry list, or copy and pasting articles on how to knit a sweater for a Yorkie.

By the way, there are appropriate areas for posting all of those things, but the reason why we have different categories is so that relevant material stays together. All this does is create chaos and wastes the time of other people.

W~

 

[Loverskitten]

And just to be extra annoying the OP posted in personals asking for comments on this thread. Which is not what that forum is for either! Yuck

 

[seela]

What puzzles me the most is that the OP is not a newbie and has posted on BDSM Talk before. He most likely knows how this kind of threads go down over here and how much the regulars hate being made witness to other people's games.

Yeah yeah, his mistress told him to post here, but a command or not, he should have told her how what happens. Unless, of course, she already knew and just didn't care. Although if that were the case, shouldn't the Mistress also have known that it's actually her that gets all the shit and attention here and not the misbehaving of the OP?

 

[Loverskitten]

What puzzles me the most is that the OP is not a newbie and has posted on BDSM Talk before. He most likely knows how this kind of threads go down over here and how much the regulars hate being made witness to other people's games.

Yeah yeah, his mistress told him to post here, but a command or not, he should have told her how what happens. Unless, of course, she already knew and just didn't care. Although if that were the case, shouldn't the Mistress also have known that it's actually her that gets all the shit and attention here and not the misbehaving of the OP?

Yeah, and I bet she'll show up annnny minute, just like all the other mistresses/masters.

 

[PaulBlart]

What puzzles me the most is that the OP is not a newbie and has posted on BDSM Talk before. He most likely knows how this kind of threads go down over here and how much the regulars hate being made witness to other people's games.

Yeah yeah, his mistress told him to post here, but a command or not, he should have told her how what happens. Unless, of course, she already knew and just didn't care. Although if that were the case, shouldn't the Mistress also have known that it's actually her that gets all the shit and attention here and not the misbehaving of the OP?

Seela, I'm not a newbie and neither is my Mistress, by a long shot. We are strictly on line, so there is limited recourse for dealing with missteps other than withdrawing contact or something like this. I mistakenly placed this here rather than in the cafe. My fault. If this happens again, I will post in the appropriate place. I had the choice to do or not do what she instructed. This is a psychodrama between the two of us and I enjoy it as does she (and yes, she is a she). To refuse her instruction would have been a violation of our implied contract and probably would have also resulted in her withdrawing contact with me. Clearly, she intended to publicly humiliate me. I accept this, because I violated our expressed contract and I expected a consequence. I have learned her lesson as well as that of you folks here. Your point is well made.

 

[the captians wench]

Seela, I'm not a newbie and neither is my Mistress, by a long shot. We are strictly on line, so there is limited recourse for dealing with missteps other than withdrawing contact or something like this. I mistakenly placed this here rather than in the cafe. My fault. If this happens again, I will post in the appropriate place. I had the choice to do or not do what she instructed. This is a psychodrama between the two of us and I enjoy it as does she (and yes, she is a she). To refuse her instruction would have been a violation of our implied contract and probably would have also resulted in her withdrawing contact with me. Clearly, she intended to publicly humiliate me. I accept this, because I violated our expressed contract and I expected a consequence. I have learned her lesson as well as that of you folks here. Your point is well made.

[rant]

The idea that with drawing contact is nearly the only form of discipline that some one has when conducting an online relationship is something that really just rubs me the wrong way. It screams laziness and lack of imagination to me and is probably one of my biggest pet peeves with online relationships. [/rant]

 

[bhndblueyes88]

However maybe a reporting of the rules are needed!

(since I'm sure you're the sort of person who would take offense, please note I'm talking to more than just you with this reply)


Forum rules are always clearly posted somewhere on a forum and...here's the clincher...

One should always read the rules of a forum before beginning to post there, in any section under any thread

If you don't, you have NO grounds to complain about making mistakes about the rules.

Furthermore, It's just polite and prevents any ridiculous nonsense like this from occurring. No one makes mistakes and irritates the hell out of the rest of the neighborhood, AND, the person making the mistake doesn't get people jumping down their throat.

Two minutes of your time creates a win/win situation for everyone!!! YAY!

And, even if there aren't rules posted some where, it's just BASIC COURTESY to keep a topic with its relevant topics. If a group of people were talking about the price of corn in China, would you consider it polite to suddenly jump into it and start babbling about how much it cost you to buy shoes from Germany? OF COURSE NOT. A simple skim of this section (or a reading of the intro-to-bdsm-forum sticky!!!), would have alerted one to the fact this was not the appropriate location to draw other people into one's sex life.

((Aside: they may have a right to "free speech", but we have a right not to be thrust into someone's sexual dynamic. That's essentially what these threads do. It's not very different to making out in a public forum. You may not care, but other people might and they have a right to enjoy their dinners without having to watch people slobber all over each other.))

There is a playground and a "not discussion" forum. The playground would be the most appropriate because there people are walking into the forum intentionally sticking it into the sexual situations (ha ha sticking it). The "not-bdsm discussion" (i.e. the Cafe) forum is a distant second because at least it doesn't clutter up actual bdsm discussion, although it's definitely distant enough that you're still going to cop some criticism.


Lastly, if you can't take some criticism, don't make the post. Even following every rule and making the most affable agreeable post, someone is going to criticize you because this is the internet. Here, people bitch about adorable pictures of puppies. Regardless of power dynamics, you are always your own person (this is mandated by law, after all )and if you can't tell your PYL that you are not comfortable doing something, and they won't respect that, then I would say your PYL is an asshole who doesn't deserve the power you give them.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Is she going to punish you for putting this in the talk forum instead of the cafe? And if so, will you have to post a second TMI post?

 

[rosco rathbone]

Your mistress is an asshole with no respect for this forum.Like so many others.

I swear it's like ants-- let one of these cybersex roleplay posts stay and they all come flooding in.

Maybe they could have their own subforum or something.

I guess they only get their kicks by annoying a real forum though.

 

[Loverskitten]

Anyone should be allowed to say whatever they like! You have a right to your opinion but don't try to muzzle others !!!

Bahahaha are you "mistress"?

 

[DVS]

From the forum rules:

That is from the web site rules. While they do apply here, what I posted is always at the top of the BDSM Talk forum, in a sticky and deals specifically with what happens here. Everybody who posts here has access to that, before they start a thread or post a comment.

It's called Welcome To The BDSM Talk Forum.

 

[dreamykitten2]

Thank you

That is from the web site rules. While they do apply here, what I posted is always at the top of the BDSM Talk forum, in a sticky and deals specifically with what happens here. Everybody who posts here has access to that, before they start a thread or post a comment.

It's called Welcome To The BDSM Talk Forum.

I will read them but most likely won't be posting much anymore! People make mistakes and mine was apparently so huge that it has taken up the majority of everyone's time to bash! I will read them and will never post again unless it's needed in my opinion. At least here.

I really enjoyed Lit till today. Yes it was my mistake but It could have been handled differently.

I think I need to think about it for awhile!

 

[mediocre]

I will read them but most likely won't be posting much anymore! People make mistakes and mine was apparently so huge that it has taken up the majority of everyone's time to bash! I will read them and will never post again unless it's needed in my opinion. At least here.

I really enjoyed Lit till today. Yes it was my mistake but It could have been handled differently.

I think I need to think about it for awhile!

LOL. Taking my ball and going home. Mean people. Wahhhh.

These people were kind. (For the most part) I've seen people shredded much worse for much less. All they ask is that you pay attention to the guidelines and follow them. There are times and places for things.

And no I wasn't being mean either. I could have said a lot more but others have said things better and nicer.

 

[dreamykitten2]

Well maybe I'm sensitive then

LOL. Taking my ball and going home. Mean people. Wahhhh.

These people were kind. (For the most part) I've seen people shredded much worse for much less. All they ask is that you pay attention to the guidelines and follow them. There are times and places for things.

And no I wasn't being mean either. I could have said a lot more but others have said things better and nicer.

Ok I will think about what u said. I took responsibility for causing the discussions in the first place. It was my fault for not being aware of the rules. And like I said it won't happen again! I will be better read in the future!