"Maintenance" Spankings

[TheIntrepidBoyager]

Does anyone else practice what I call maintenance spankings? Meaning, a few spankings, with or without device, just as a sort of periodic attitude adjustment I guess you could say.

Like so many of us involved in this lifestyle, my wife (Mistress) is not always into engaging in active D/s. Life is life and we're getting older - she's in her sixties.

But I'm needy. It can be seen as a shortcoming but also as a plus. She can get annoyed if I get overly needy but at the same time she loves, and leverages, it. She uses it to manipulate me in all the right ways. She used to really push back against it and shut down but she's learned that it is just a part of who I am as a submissive. I'm an outwardly alpha, strong personality. A carefully crafted persona forged in the fires of extremely difficult circumstances. But she knows, and can tap into, what lies within and I treasure it. I need it. It changes me.

So, there has to be some balance and maintenance spankings seem to satisfy us both. Tonight is a good example. We've been having a great time together for the past couple days and I was really wanting to keep it going tonight. She'd made some comments yesterday that led me to believe there would be play time tonight but as the day progressed, I grew increasingly doubtful of anything happening.

Admittedly, my demeanor changed. At one point she passed by me and said, "Stop pouting." and continued on. She was right. I was trying not to but I was.

A while later she called me over to her and with a flick of her hand she motioned for me to pull down my underwear. She gave my thigh a quick scratch with her oh-so-sharp nail and then instructed me to turn around. I did as I was told and soon felt the sharp stinging bites of a paddle on my ass. Just a few smacks on each cheek and then her feeling the warmth. The whole thing probably lasted less than two minutes.

But it completely changed my attitude. This isn't really a conscious thing. It just happens. That little bit just completely alters my behavior and I was bubbly and smiling in no time. It happened just about an hour ago and I'm still in a calm, good mood.

It's always like that. And she says it does the same for her. It's like a level-set.

Surely. I'm not alone in this right?

 

[Ash999]

Maintenance Spanking in F-m context, Mumbai, India
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[Boat1]

Does anyone else practice what I call maintenance spankings? Meaning, a few spankings, with or without device, just as a sort of periodic attitude adjustment I guess you could say.

Like so many of us involved in this lifestyle, my wife (Mistress) is not always into engaging in active D/s. Life is life and we're getting older - she's in her sixties.

But I'm needy. It can be seen as a shortcoming but also as a plus. She can get annoyed if I get overly needy but at the same time she loves, and leverages, it. She uses it to manipulate me in all the right ways. She used to really push back against it and shut down but she's learned that it is just a part of who I am as a submissive. I'm an outwardly alpha, strong personality. A carefully crafted persona forged in the fires of extremely difficult circumstances. But she knows, and can tap into, what lies within and I treasure it. I need it. It changes me.

So, there has to be some balance and maintenance spankings seem to satisfy us both. Tonight is a good example. We've been having a great time together for the past couple days and I was really wanting to keep it going tonight. She'd made some comments yesterday that led me to believe there would be play time tonight but as the day progressed, I grew increasingly doubtful of anything happening.

Admittedly, my demeanor changed. At one point she passed by me and said, "Stop pouting." and continued on. She was right. I was trying not to but I was.

A while later she called me over to her and with a flick of her hand she motioned for me to pull down my underwear. She gave my thigh a quick scratch with her oh-so-sharp nail and then instructed me to turn around. I did as I was told and soon felt the sharp stinging bites of a paddle on my ass. Just a few smacks on each cheek and then her feeling the warmth. The whole thing probably lasted less than two minutes.

But it completely changed my attitude. This isn't really a conscious thing. It just happens. That little bit just completely alters my behavior and I was bubbly and smiling in no time. It happened just about an hour ago and I'm still in a calm, good mood.

It's always like that. And she says it does the same for her. It's like a level-set.

Surely. I'm not alone in this right?

My Goddess Wife and I refer to them as "Tune-ups!".. and we both LOVE ❤ them, Her giving, me receiving.

 

[HarleyQuim]

I think people who enjoy spanking should just enjoy spanking. I mean, punishing a masochist with spankings is not going to alter behavior positively. If the bottom consents and the top wants to, why bother with pretext?

 

[Boat1]

I think people who enjoy spanking should just enjoy spanking. I mean, punishing a masochist with spankings is not going to alter behavior positively. If the bottom consents and the top wants to, why bother with pretext?

I see your point when it comes to "playful spankings" or even light to moderate spankings...
But it can be taken to a WHOLE new level in some cases... between the brutal implements I make and the beautifully brutal harshness with which my Lovely Wife Domme applies them, it's definitely a game changer and could change behavior as well, IMHO.
Does anyone else have smelling salts on hand for their whipping sessions?

 

[subdudeme13]

I see your point when it comes to "playful spankings" or even light to moderate spankings...
But it can be taken to a WHOLE new level in some cases... between the brutal implements I make and the beautifully brutal harshness with which my Lovely Wife Domme applies them, it's definitely a game changer and could change behavior as well, IMHO.
Does anyone else have smelling salts on hand for their whipping sessions?

It must make those boat rides out to the rig hard to take in rough weather!

 

[base10]

I think people who enjoy spanking should just enjoy spanking. I mean, punishing a masochist with spankings is not going to alter behavior positively. If the bottom consents and the top wants to, why bother with pretext?

To me, there is always the big difference in spanking just to have fun and excite and use as foreplay…and spanking as punishment and to correct behavior

 

[Boat1]

It must make those boat rides out to the rig hard to take in rough weather!

It's frustrating that I heal so quickly... it truly saddens me when Her beautiful artwork fades away from my flesh, but on the bright side, it allows me to give Her a fresh, blank canvas every time I come home!

 

[TheBrainyBimbo]

Yeah this is a thing for me.

Prevention is better than cure, right? So if a blistering is gonna keep me on the right track for the next week or month or whatever, I'm gonna take that every time.

Plus there's a delicious sense of unfairness at getting whacked without cause that works for me.

 

[J D Danger]

Yeah this is a thing for me.

Prevention is better than cure, right? So if a blistering is gonna keep me on the right track for the next week or month or whatever, I'm gonna take that every time.

Plus there's a delicious sense of unfairness at getting whacked without cause that works for me.

love this

 

[Samantha47]

I think people who enjoy spanking should just enjoy spanking. I mean, punishing a masochist with spankings is not going to alter behavior positively. If the bottom consents and the top wants to, why bother with pretext?

Sounds wonderful to me

 

[SirSparky]

Yeah this is a thing for me.

Prevention is better than cure, right? So if a blistering is gonna keep me on the right track for the next week or month or whatever, I'm gonna take that every time.

Plus there's a delicious sense of unfairness at getting whacked without cause that works for me.

This is exactly why I like to give maintenance spankings to keep her on the straight and narrow. These are never as severe as punishment spankings and dont go on as long

 

[Dearelliot]

For me painful spanking is a sign I belong to her...and she decides...She chooses to spank/whip me as proof of her dominance over me...She can and does at will...she doesn't need a reason, and she wants me to be aware, of who is in charge, who is a boss in our relationship. This isn't open for discussion, we don't have a debate and decide if I will be abused...it is something she enjoys doing, and I have no say in the matter.

 

[Hypocrites]

Maintenance, sometimes called an "alignment".

For any of my subs, one follows a series of small infractions, none rising to the level of corporal under my rules. Or if they have been apart from me for a time, there's a need to reestablish their place in the dynamic. And then I've administered them when my sub has something they want to purge and cry out.

For me, punishment should have a point. This is different than funishment and it also involves managing expectations. Maintenance spankings being the most loosely applied punishment but should also be known and expected by your sub.

 

[wwot40]

In my view, maintenance spankings are not arbitrary, they’re a tool of structure, connection, and authority. They help prevent drift, reaffirm roles, and feed both the psychological and sensual aspects of power exchange. On a more personal level, I simply enjoy the act, the sound, the control, the tactile reinforcement of power. Even if the spanking isn’t harsh, the deliberate decision to spank without needing cause is an expression of sovereignty in the dynamic. It satisfies my desire to keep authority active, not passive.

 

[cascadiabound]

In my view, maintenance spankings are not arbitrary, they’re a tool of structure, connection, and authority. They help prevent drift, reaffirm roles, and feed both the psychological and sensual aspects of power exchange. On a more personal level, I simply enjoy the act, the sound, the control, the tactile reinforcement of power. Even if the spanking isn’t harsh, the deliberate decision to spank without needing cause is an expression of sovereignty in the dynamic. It satisfies my desire to keep authority active, not passive.

Again - this resonates.

Maintenance spankings are also a form of intimacy imo. Especially when otk bare handed using a CMnf dynamic. Being that close and that physically submissive/vulnerable as pain is administered just because it is part of our structure and what he likes and I need in an ongoing way creates deeper intimacy and has the effect on me of reducing my overall anxiety. The pain of a spanking can wash my busy brain clean of worry and spiraling thoughts. After the first few spanks I just find that I lean into the pain of it and relax and let go reveling in his control and need to give me pain. I love that it lasts past when I get up from his lap. I love that he may combine a spanking with edging/teasing. That sometimes a spanking goes right into him taking me hard and fast, the generated pain/heat of my ass amplifying our coupling. That the heat, redness and pain is a gift I get to carry with me for the next hours/days giving me an ongoing reminder that I am his subby girl. His to reward, punish, edge, deny, administer pain and pleasure. "sovereignity in the dynamic" - nicely put.

 

[wwot40]

Again - this resonates.

Maintenance spankings are also a form of intimacy imo. Especially when otk bare handed using a CMnf dynamic. Being that close and that physically submissive/vulnerable as pain is administered just because it is part of our structure and what he likes and I need in an ongoing way creates deeper intimacy and has the effect on me of reducing my overall anxiety. The pain of a spanking can wash my busy brain clean of worry and spiraling thoughts. After the first few spanks I just find that I lean into the pain of it and relax and let go reveling in his control and need to give me pain. I love that it lasts past when I get up from his lap. I love that he may combine a spanking with edging/teasing. That sometimes a spanking goes right into him taking me hard and fast, the generated pain/heat of my ass amplifying our coupling. That the heat, redness and pain is a gift I get to carry with me for the next hours/days giving me an ongoing reminder that I am his subby girl. His to reward, punish, edge, deny, administer pain and pleasure. "sovereignity in the dynamic" - nicely put.

Thank you so much cascadia. I am glad so much of what I written resonates with you. I believe a good old fashioned OTK spanking is one of the most intimate acts between Dominant and His submissive. The shared stinging pain frm administering firm full palms spanks across her derriere as it begins to burn more and more especially as the burn begins to travel deeper into her. It is meant to be both theraputic and lingering.

 

[Boat1]

Again - this resonates.

Maintenance spankings are also a form of intimacy imo. Especially when otk bare handed using a CMnf dynamic. Being that close and that physically submissive/vulnerable as pain is administered just because it is part of our structure and what he likes and I need in an ongoing way creates deeper intimacy and has the effect on me of reducing my overall anxiety. The pain of a spanking can wash my busy brain clean of worry and spiraling thoughts. After the first few spanks I just find that I lean into the pain of it and relax and let go reveling in his control and need to give me pain. I love that it lasts past when I get up from his lap. I love that he may combine a spanking with edging/teasing. That sometimes a spanking goes right into him taking me hard and fast, the generated pain/heat of my ass amplifying our coupling. That the heat, redness and pain is a gift I get to carry with me for the next hours/days giving me an ongoing reminder that I am his subby girl. His to reward, punish, edge, deny, administer pain and pleasure. "sovereignity in the dynamic" - nicely put.

Well said! You just described the feelings I get, which I refer to as "Freedom Through Captivity!"

 

[TheIntrepidBoyager]

A little bit ago, I got off an infuriating work call. I was openly disrespected by someone of higher rank who has a history of it. All my alpha male juices were boiling by the time I got off the call. I was pissed to the point of silence.

She knew it and tried to talk to to me and joke with me but I was fuming.

That's when her demeanor changed and she called me over to her. She's had the paddle I recently made sitting on the coffee table since I finished it and has yet to use it on me. I was hesitant as I was so pissed. Her tone got deeper and I knew to obey. She pulled down my underwear, gave my balls a decent yank and nail squeeze and then had me turn around.

A few good whacks and my mind began to melt. My body relaxed. The fire was quenched to a smolder.

It was exactly what I needed. Not overly hard or prolonged like a punishment but stern and deliberate all the same. It was a perfect read by her and I cherished it. I dropped to a knee and kissed the back of her hand.

As a bonus, the paddle's performance turned out very nice.

 

[MK_Whimsy]

Have never been able to do this but it sounds like a very appealing idea.