made a promise that seemed easy, now i dont know about it.

[Guest]

there is a woman who i have shared fantasies with, we have had cybersex. and this morning i said glibly without thinking that i would write her an erotic piece of fiction. she got serious and said okay, but i had to write it for HER not me. and i said no problem, i know of a site with lots of women writers, i would just do some reading and see how womens erotica differed from men. then she said that most of those women authors were men in real life, and their views still reflected a mans erotic piece. so now im trying to think about what a woman would find attractive in a man, and i feel kinda sick about it. sooo, how do i write erotica for women???????? i know what i and almost every other guy desires in bed, but women are trickier. help please!!!!!!

 

[KillerMuffin]

Well, I think in this instance, she be dead wrong. Muffie is all female here. Otherwise I think the StudMuffin would get highly pissed of. M Butterfly is NOT what he would consider a good joke.

It's a very simple difference, and it's not really "women's erotica" and "men's erotica." It's porn vs. erotica. A porn story is solely about the sex. The sex is the main point and anything the characters do or say is incidental. An erotic story is solely about the relationship between characters when they are in sexual situations.

This is an example of a porn story: http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=7904
http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=255

This is an example of an erotic story: http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=15274
http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=384

You can't ever know what will get one person off and what won't. You know your chicky.

When a woman asks about your fantasies, she is really asking, "What do fantasize about me?"

 

[cymbidia]

Entering through the All-Female door: cym here, definitely female, as are the majority of those Literoticians who identify themselves as such. (I think.)

KM's points are, as usual, well taken. Here are a couple more things to think about when writing this story for your woman friend.

(Disclaimer: My comments are deliberately very generalized because we all lie along a vast continuum with respect to the elements we want our hot fiction to contain.)

1. We don't really care about long physical descriptions. We can flesh out the picture in our mind's eye pretty well. What we do like in our fiction, however, is wildly descriptive emotion behind the actions.

2. This probably doesn't need to be said and is belaboring the obvious but sometimes it's good to go over the basics, right? Ahem. We like our erotica to be fully flowing in its sexuality. In other words, we don't really get off on stuff that has, as its main focus, narrative about his penis and his orgasm. There's a few more body parts that are in need of some story line attention, too, and we definitely want to read all about *that*.

3. We all have our own little peculiarities with regard to kinks. As KM said, "you know your chicky". Toss some of those in there. Tailor the story to *her* needs and desires.

You’ve shared cybersex with her. You’ve shared your fantasies. Now just put those experiences into words. Include emotion. (Emotional openness is hot.) Include her in your story. Toss in one or two new fantasies, little exciting bits that you haven’t shared with yet. Edit it, proof it, and give it to her. Then ask her to write one for you.

This whole thing sounds like fun to me. Relax. Think about who she is, who you are, who you are together. Write *that*.

Then post the story here so we can all read it.

 

[Whispersecret]

I'm also a REAL woman writing erotica.

(Insert Cymbidia's disclaimer about vast generalizations here)

If I had to generalize, I'd agree with both Muff and Cym. Men seem to prefer the hot, nitty-gritty, pulse-pounding sex. I think that they probably like it if the emotional stuff happens to be included, but aren't upset if it isn't. Whereas, women prefer to read about the feelings behind the physicality and may tend to feel "cheated" if it's missing.

For example a man might be fine with:
His cock got rock hard when he looked at her gorgeous tits, straining against the flimsy material of her blouse. He felt an aching need to touch and caress her.

A woman might prefer:
His cock got rock hard when he looked at her gorgeous tits, straining against the flimsy material of her blouse. He'd never been too good with words, but he thought he just might be able to tell her how he felt about her with his body. He could show her how much he cared because the words just always came out jumbled up or not at all.

When I write, I probably just automatically include emotion and thoughts. I've never actually analyzed erotica written by men vs. that written by women.

Cym talked about description. I think that men just naturally think measurements, probably as a result of magazines, like Playboy. As a woman, I never think of my measurements, or anyone else's, except when I have to buy a bra. When describing a character, I NEVER use measurements. I think it's lazy writing, bad taste, and it cheapens the story to some degree.

As far as the male orgasm is concerned, I like to include descriptions of that because I like it. However, I don't skimp on the female's climax or any of the other various physical or emotional reactions that go along with two people coming.

I think also, women need to know they're desirable. They like to imagine that they're irresistable, that the man can't help but react the way he is, not because she's a hole he can fuck, but because she is who she is, unique and different from any other woman on earth. Include what makes that woman unique and different in your story and I think you'll make your friend happy.

 

[KillerMuffin]

I don't think I've ever described a character in my stories. I've checked, but I don't see any description at all. Huhmmm.

 

[RJ Fan]

Hi...if you want to know what women like, although I can really only speak for myself, read Richard Janice's stories. They're fabulous! I can hardly believe he's a man.

 

[GuyJD]

That exact same thing happened to me WB. A young lady wanted me to write a story about her and I. We had had cyber in the past but I had the hardest time trying to create such an idea. Finally, being that she lived out of state, I created a story of her running away from home and crossing stateline to be with me. She told me that it was a great story.

 

[Tigress84]

Don't worry.

All that you have to do is change your way of thinking. I haven't posted the story yet, but It deals with a man's and a woman's point of view. If you're writing in a man's point of view, try to think of having the woman do what you would like for her to do, but most when turned on actually behave like cats. Slow, teasing and sexy. Taking their time to make sure everything is going the way they want it to go, but with authority and a little roughness. Or it's hard, fast, furious and only to reach their climax. Just like dogs. Take the time to watch a cat. See how they look at you, how they move and their behavior. That's how a woman acts when she wants to be a temptress. In your story, let the woman take control.