M4W - Why do we keep posting?

[tulsa4taboo]

Why men do we keep posting and searching for that elusive connection? We far outnumber women who are looking and most of our post get no replies or very few that aren't truly interested. Yet we keep posting, keep searching, keep hoping this is the one, this time will be different. I am not saying we don't get lucky now and then but our chances are only slightly better than playing the state lottery. Even now that I am fifty, I have better luck finding someone in person.

Learned a lesson when I was nineteen years old that I still employ to this day. CONFIDENCE I spotted the most beautiful girl I was smitten instantly. I was also terrified to talk to her because I figured she was way out of my league. Despite my fears I asked her out and guess what she had a boyfriend. I walked about five feet away and something came over me. Turned around walked straight back to her and grabbed a piece of paper and wrote my name and telephone number down. When I handed it to her I told her to call me when she got tired of her boyfriend taking her for granted.

Two weeks later and almost forgotten about she called me out of the blue. We dated for a year and a half. Trying to get chosen online seems so daunting when you can't stand out in the ocean of other men searching. So why do we keep trying? Why do you keep trying?

 

[10169kek]

I must agree with you. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. I have had responses to my online ads, many of them were scammers, but I have had a few actual responses and several great encounters. I am convinced that in person interactions will provide a far better result.

 

[bestkeptsecret678]

It’s an interesting question; why make the effort given the low, low chances of success? A few thoughts:

For one, us men believe that a low chance does not mean zero. Myself, I have a rewarding connection w someone as a result of one such post in the past. So, it can work out.

Secondly, it’s how we’re wired, albeit adapted to this digital age. Most of us want… and some of us seek…
Somewhere in another lit post it was said, “why try to undo a million years of genetic programming,” or something to that effect.

Finally, To expand on your confidence point: we’ve all read the oft repeated, M4W post, and they’re all predictably similar. A post that demonstrates confidence in one’s self, and what one is seeking or offering, is another animal altogether.

 

[adamISOeve]

Some of your questions, @tulsa , are based on falsehoods. It is simply not true that you cannot stand out – in the ocean of other men searching. You proved that through your experience in high school. And your success eventually.
But an outstanding approach is no guarantee either. It may help for attracting a beautiful 19-year old, but what if you look for a mature lady with a truly beautiful soul? Like I am doing this. And one who falls in love with your kind of personality?
Such a lady may well be un-available here, so even your superior approach won’t help you. So it all boils down to plain luck, or not, And every time you bump a personal ad of yours, you increase your chances by a small amount.

I bid good luck to you, in any case. Adam

 

[IARainman]

Why men do we keep posting and searching for that elusive connection? We far outnumber women who are looking and most of our post get no replies or very few that aren't truly interested. Yet we keep posting, keep searching, keep hoping this is the one, this time will be different. I am not saying we don't get lucky now and then but our chances are only slightly better than playing the state lottery. Even now that I am fifty, I have better luck finding someone in person.

Learned a lesson when I was nineteen years old that I still employ to this day. CONFIDENCE I spotted the most beautiful girl I was smitten instantly. I was also terrified to talk to her because I figured she was way out of my league. Despite my fears I asked her out and guess what she had a boyfriend. I walked about five feet away and something came over me. Turned around walked straight back to her and grabbed a piece of paper and wrote my name and telephone number down. When I handed it to her I told her to call me when she got tired of her boyfriend taking her for granted.

Two weeks later and almost forgotten about she called me out of the blue. We dated for a year and a half. Trying to get chosen online seems so daunting when you can't stand out in the ocean of other men searching. So why do we keep trying? Why do you keep trying?

Maybe stop trying to get e-laid, treat people like people, get to know someone without end goals.

I’ve met some wonderful women by making connections and I hope to keep those friendships going

 

[PapaRomantic]

It is simply not true that you cannot stand out

Sometimes you can stand out for being an ass, while trying to re-invent yourself and blaming ALL women who do not answer you.

 

[tulsa4taboo]

Sometimes you can stand out for being an ass, while trying to re-invent yourself and blaming ALL women who do not answer you.

So true, so true.

 

[htester]

As a straight woman, I encourage y'all to keep trying. I typically look at a post, wonder if he's single, then look at his writing style. If I think we might have a connection, I reach out. And hey new people join every day.

 

[KatieDoes]

Maybe stop trying to get e-laid, treat people like people, get to know someone without end goals.

I’ve met some wonderful women by making connections and I hope to keep those friendships going

This^

If you just talk to women as though you think of us as actual people and not just dick receptacles, you will stand out as one of the maybe 5% of men here that manage that.

(If you think that you can pretend to like women as people long enough to trick us into being a dick receptacle, we can tell the difference and will also tell other women about your nonsense)