M4F - I can't decide if I want to be Sub or Dom, help me choose?

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I've been kinky for quite a long time and whilst I'm a "natural born" dom, I also relish in being a clingy lil submissive. Call it a first world problem, but I struggle to chose which one to focus one and I don't like switching often so... I've decided to put myself out here under both labels and see if I spark a connection. Jokes aside, this is something I genuinely want and I'm here for something ongoing, not a hump-and-dump.

*About me*
I'm a 22 year-old grad student in Australia, working in healthcare whilst I work on my masters degree. I'm also a classical musician, playing mainly the bass in a few orchestras and writing my own music. I guess I'm a bit of an overachiever but I don't let it get to my head.

I have too many interests...but if I'm not writing music, I'm out for a run, cycling, reading, drawing or cooking; my ideal dinner date is in my own kitchen.

I'd like to think I'm very self-aware. I take the time to know myself - both the good and the bad - and I work hard to be a better person every day. I have my flaws but I have no desire to project them onto anybody.

I'm affectionate, expressive and very caring...even if I default to "dry sarcastic goof" a lot of the time, whoops.

I'm 5'10" with black hair, glasses, light brown skin and a fit body.


*Kinky Stuff*
As a dom I'm nurturing, protective, gently possessive and want to build my sub up until they feel like the centre of my attention and are overdosed on validation. I'm gentle 99% of the time but give me the green light and I can be pretty damn intense.

As a sub, I'm the most doting, affectionate and endearingly clingy lil thing you'll ever meet. If you've come back from a hard day at work, you can guarantee I'll be there to do whatever helps you relax - sexual or otherwise.... and more if you're nice.

Kinks: Gentle domination (giving and receiving), guided masturbation, ANR/breast play, spanking, lingerie, dirty talk (I am NOT quiet), praise (both ways), oral, teasing, phone sex and waaay more.

limits: No blood, rape, scat or incest. I am not into pegging, chastity, being humiliated or treated as slave
 
This answer is something you really only know in your heart. What is wrong with switching? Only you know you.....but you might also be a bit like me, meaning, doing the same "act", gets boring. Dominating is fun but way more responsibility then subbing. Subbing makes one feel cherished, but does not have the wicked feel I long for when leading.....
Again though, this is not really a question random Litsters can answer for you.
 
Your post resonates with me as new to so much, and love variety, and love all the perks and challenges of each side.
 
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