- Joined
- Aug 17, 2020
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- 6
Please allow me to introduce myself. My name is Daniel and I am a late thirties, male, married, pansexual, submissive and higher functioning autistic. All of that relates to my being here. I love my wife and we have discussed my submissive tendencies, at great length, but it is not an area she is interested in. For ten years I have alternated between trying to bury my submissive side and trying to "self-dominate", neither have been particularly successful. The changes in routine and general uncertainty created by the pandemic have caused my autistic traits to be exacerbated, and linked to this my submissive tendencies. I know I could try Findom, however, money issues aside, being submissive is more mental for me than physical and that really requires being able to develop with a Dominant, to find out what pleases them and learn how to be a better submissive for them. At the end of the day I genuinely hold to the belief that whatever other kinks I have, it is the need to please and know that another is gaining enjoyment from owning you which matters.
I have experience on and offline, offline being before I was married, in various aspects of BDSM, but am still exploring my limits. At the moment the only really hard limit is that I don't do anything which could cause upset to my wife.
Physically I am dead on 6 foot and weigh just under 10.5 stone. I am quite skinny, have a beard and wear glasses. I work in the charity sector and am studying a part time Masters degree in international law.
When it comes to what I am hoping to find it is both complicated and simple. As you may have guessed from the length of this post, apologies for that, I have a tendency to overthink things. I really, I don't want to say "need" because I believe my needs should be secondary, so instead will say "hope" to find someone who gains pleasure from control. I love humiliation because it forces me to accept that I am not the one in charge and prevents me from thinking, likewise with pain, although I need to increase my tolerance.
Gender doesn't matter to me, nor age. The only thing I would ask is that any future owner understands that because of my autism I suffer from anxiety. This means that it does take me a bit of time to build up trust, and I get very awkward talking on the phone. I fully understand that being owned online may involve phone calls and pictures, but would request that we build to face pics, for discretion, and speaking in person.
If you have read this far please accept my thanks, even if you do not feel that I am suitable for you.
With kindest regards.
I have experience on and offline, offline being before I was married, in various aspects of BDSM, but am still exploring my limits. At the moment the only really hard limit is that I don't do anything which could cause upset to my wife.
Physically I am dead on 6 foot and weigh just under 10.5 stone. I am quite skinny, have a beard and wear glasses. I work in the charity sector and am studying a part time Masters degree in international law.
When it comes to what I am hoping to find it is both complicated and simple. As you may have guessed from the length of this post, apologies for that, I have a tendency to overthink things. I really, I don't want to say "need" because I believe my needs should be secondary, so instead will say "hope" to find someone who gains pleasure from control. I love humiliation because it forces me to accept that I am not the one in charge and prevents me from thinking, likewise with pain, although I need to increase my tolerance.
Gender doesn't matter to me, nor age. The only thing I would ask is that any future owner understands that because of my autism I suffer from anxiety. This means that it does take me a bit of time to build up trust, and I get very awkward talking on the phone. I fully understand that being owned online may involve phone calls and pictures, but would request that we build to face pics, for discretion, and speaking in person.
If you have read this far please accept my thanks, even if you do not feel that I am suitable for you.
With kindest regards.
