Lust or love, how do you know?

[Cirrus]

I know how this is going to make me sound, but here goes:

There's a man I've had strong feelings for for a while now. I've never said anything to him, because circumstances being what they are, it would just make things awkward. We're casual friends, meaning we go out to lunch once in a while and things like that. I thought I loved him. I swore I loved him.

But...and there's always a but...he's been out of town for about 3 weeks, and in the interim, I've noticed someone else and have some feelings for him. Not that strong, mind you, but I'd like to get to know him better, and I'm definitely attracted to him. When the first guy got back yesterday, I noticed my feelings had changed. I still like him, and I still find him attractive, but I'm not anywhere near crazy for him like I was before. So I realized it couldn't have been love...love wouldn't fade that fast if it was ever really there.

So, how do you tell the difference between lust and love? What's the cue for you as to which one it is?

 

[Always]

when instead of wanting to fuck them silly you find yourself thinking about their little faults, and liking those, and thinking about a future with them... basicaly a relationbship deeper than casual fucking.. a friendship with something extra... you'll know, trust me.

 

[sexy-girl]

well theres lots of definitions for love and lust but i think a good one is


with love you would gladly have your feelings hurt in a BIG way to prevent your lover's been hurt in alittle way


lust you "love" being with the person and the feelings you have when your with them ... but its a more selfish feeling you dont love the person

 

[bluntforcemama]

You don't know! You have to take a flying LEAP of fuckin' faith. It's more fun that way, anyhow.

 

[YoungGun69]

The way I see it is this

Lust:You want passionate,wild, body dreanching sex in everyway possible and do what you want in bed.

LOVE: You want passionate sex doing what you both want in bed. then you want to Spend time out of bed with him as well.

 

[PacificBlue]

I get the two confused on a regular basis BUT...

I think lust fades rather quickly and your left feeling hollow and searching for the next thrill, the next rush of emotion. Lust is all about filling a want. Lust is self-serving.

Love is lasting. Love is work. It's caring more about someone else's feelings than your own. It isn't always a rush of emotion but you know that it's there. Its not walking on glass.

If you want to know the difference...take a break from that person, sometimes for just a couple of days....it becomes more clear. I do believe absence will make the heart grow fonder or it won't and then you know.

 

[Desert Amazon]

 

[Juspar Emvan]

You don't know! You have to take a flying LEAP of fuckin' faith. It's more fun that way, anyhow.

Why is it you always say what I was going to say, before I get a chance?