Lovers in a dangerous time?

[dangergirl]

Have you ever thought about just how dangerous sex is these days?

People meet on the internet and then meet in person...that is not ALWAYS a bad thing but it CAN be.

There are those that are involved in serious D/s lifestyles and they need a "safe call number" before they go off to meet strangers. What happens if one of those times, the person they meet dominates them to the point of death?

And what about all the "sex clubs"? How do you know that just a condom will protect you?

There is also the serious worry about AIDS and other life-threatening diseases. There is the date-rape drug....so many worries, all for just a little physical enjoyment.

 

[Mensa]

Have you ever thought about just how dangerous sex is these days?

People meet on the internet and then meet in person...that is not ALWAYS a bad thing but it CAN be.

There are those that are involved in serious D/s lifestyles and they need a "safe call number" before they go off to meet strangers. What happens if one of those times, the person they meet dominates them to the point of death?

And what about all the "sex clubs"? How do you know that just a condom will protect you?

There is also the serious worry about AIDS and other life-threatening diseases. There is the date-rape drug....so many worries, all for just a little physical enjoyment.

"Listen to this woman!!" - Pope John Paul II

 

[morninggirl5]

Have you ever thought about just how dangerous sex is these days?

People meet on the internet and then meet in person...that is not ALWAYS a bad thing but it CAN be.

There are those that are involved in serious D/s lifestyles and they need a "safe call number" before they go off to meet strangers. What happens if one of those times, the person they meet dominates them to the point of death?

And what about all the "sex clubs"? How do you know that just a condom will protect you?

There is also the serious worry about AIDS and other life-threatening diseases. There is the date-rape drug....so many worries, all for just a little physical enjoyment.

Actually, a safe call would be a good idea for ANYONE meeting in RL after conversing online.

 

[dangergirl]

Re: Re: Lovers in a dangerous time?

Actually, a safe call would be a good idea for ANYONE meeting in RL after conversing online.

BUT what happens if it starts out safe and then changes partway through the meeting?

 

[alexandraaah]

You might be due for a change of middle name girl.

How about "err on the side of caution" is my middle name?

 

[Desdemona]

Some people plan for more than one safe call during the meeting. It depends on how long you are with the person and the setting. I have always met in a very public place and have had no problems.

 

[dangergirl]

You might be due for a change of middle name girl.

How about "err on the side of caution" is my middle name?

My middle name may be danger but it sure as hell aint stupid.

 

[morninggirl5]

Re: Re: Re: Lovers in a dangerous time?

BUT what happens if it starts out safe and then changes partway through the meeting?

That's one reason for having the safe call occur after a period of time. And noone has ever said there can't be more than one safe call. Using some common sense can keep you safe. When you get to the reality, meeting someone in RL that you first knew online is no more dangerous in most cases than meeting a blind date your mother's best friend's cousin's daughter knows.

 

[dangergirl]

What about those who need the BDSM lifestyle to experience sexual pleasure and they leave their kids at home while they travel a couple of hours away to meet someone just for pain?
How is a planned safe call for two hours from now going to help you when your hands are tied behind your back, a blindfold covers your eyes and your mouth is gagged?

 

[Desdemona]

The safe call is for the getting to know each other phase which, for me, would always come before the scene you describe. I have to know someone very well and develop a trusting relationship before I would ever participate in this sort of fun. At that point, a safe call is not what I need. Now, a safe word (or gesture), on the other hand.....

Have you looked at the BDSM thread on the how to board?

 

[Ishmael]

safety

There are many ways that you can protect yourself, but taking a little time to get to know the person you are about to intrust yourself to, or just have sex with would seem to be the prudent measure.

Perhaps one or more meets in a public venue.

As far as the disease issue, demand a recent test. That is not unreasonable at all and should not be taken with offense. If it is, that may be the first danger sign.

There is a lot of trust involved, so trust not lightly.

Ishmael

 

[cellis]

What about those who need the BDSM lifestyle to experience sexual pleasure and they leave their kids at home while they travel a couple of hours away to meet someone just for pain?
How is a planned safe call for two hours from now going to help you when your hands are tied behind your back, a blindfold covers your eyes and your mouth is gagged?

Perhaps it is the BDSM lifestyle you are having a problem with?? Try reading the thread for greater understanding...

 

[riff]

oooooo

like that girl in Cape Fear (Scorcese).

I do think of all you women out there. I would hate for something like that to happen to ANY of you.

You be safe! You be damned safe!

What you need is someone like me, you see.... I'm just safe enough... LOL