Lovers... and their siblings

[RaLaWrites]

The title isn't what you think! I'm having trouble with my boyfriend and I'm not sure of what to do, so I've come to ask all you lovely Literotica folks.

I'm nineteen and my boyfriend is twenty-six. We've known each other for almost two years now. He's a pretty nice guy; very intelligent, well-spoken, courteous. Everything you could ask for in a man. He has three siblings: One, a sister and the other two are brothers. I've seen the sister before and she's pretty nice, but I hadn't seen the brothers until recently.

And... wow.

They're both younger (eighteen, twenty) and clearly not as mature as my boyfriend, but god-damn it if they aren't sexy. From the way they carry themselves, to their personalities. They're your average-run of the mill young guys -- video games, music, going out with friends. Same things I do.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, my boyfriend is attractive but he pales in comparison to both brothers. However, how he is on the inside is the reason why I stay with him. A good person, beautiful or otherwise on the outside is hard to find.


So here's a question to women and men: Have you ever been in a situation where you were first introduced to your mate's siblings and for a split-second, thought that you were getting the short end of the stick? Did you break it off or stay with them?

 

[fireymatt]

I have.... was with an old gf. The sister was very good looking. As anyone will tell you though, looks go only so far. I would much rather be with someone for who they are than based solely on looks. You found your bf and like him for who he is... he isnt an olger...lol... so it seems like he should be the one to stick with. After meeting the sister and chatting for about 10mins. those thougths of switching over, went away....FAST. Turned out she was a 'biotch'..lol
So, i think its the entire package that counts.... not just one thing or another.
If you were to leave him, surely you woulnt be with one of the brothers .... other than a quick fling... so why leave. It seems like the grass is always greener on the otherside........... then when you jump over to the otherside and look back.... usually you go 'DAMN, i fucked that up' ....lol
Leaving should be based on wanting to leave..... or in my case then... being asked to leave....LOL all for the better in the end...

 

[Noor]

The title isn't what you think! I'm having trouble with my boyfriend and I'm not sure of what to do, so I've come to ask all you lovely Literotica folks.

I'm nineteen and my boyfriend is twenty-six. We've known each other for almost two years now. He's a pretty nice guy; very intelligent, well-spoken, courteous. Everything you could ask for in a man. He has three siblings: One, a sister and the other two are brothers. I've seen the sister before and she's pretty nice, but I hadn't seen the brothers until recently.

And... wow.

They're both younger (eighteen, twenty) and clearly not as mature as my boyfriend, but god-damn it if they aren't sexy. From the way they carry themselves, to their personalities. They're your average-run of the mill young guys -- video games, music, going out with friends. Same things I do.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, my boyfriend is attractive but he pales in comparison to both brothers. However, how he is on the inside is the reason why I stay with him. A good person, beautiful or otherwise on the outside is hard to find.


So here's a question to women and men: Have you ever been in a situation where you were first introduced to your mate's siblings and for a split-second, thought that you were getting the short end of the stick? Did you break it off or stay with them?

In high school, my lover's younger brother and I got on really well and we used to play practical jokes on each other. Sometimes when things were hard I would wonder why my lover didn't get some of his brother's characteristics, but I never for a moment considered him as anything more than my lover's brother.

Like in the old song from Cinderella that goes "do I love you because you're beautiful or are you beautiful because I love you?" people are attractive to me because I like/love them.

If you are seriously considering breaking up with the your boyfriend because he isn't as cute as his siblings, not to mention mention sexy as anything in your eyes, I think you might want to give some thought to setting him free from the delusion that you are serious about him.

I suspect he is really too old for you at this point, and you would be better with a guy your own age, who does things you like to do. Seven years at this point in your life is a lot. When I was in college I dated someone that much older than me for awhile. His priorities in life were very different than mine. He was out of school and working hard on his dream. I was still in college and still had my parents as a safety net.

You should be having fun, suffering sexy but immature young men who can go all night...

 

[bailadora]

My high school bf's older brother was quite possibly one of the best looking males I've ever seen. The problem was: he knew it and acted accordingly. Based on looks alone, his brother always initially garnered more attention, but couldn't keep it and went through women like no one's business. OTOH - my boyfriend and I were together for nearly three years before we split.

However, how he is on the inside is the reason why I stay with him. A good person, beautiful or otherwise on the outside is hard to find.

I think it's important to remember this and it kind of reminds me of one of my favorite quotes from the chidren's story, The Velveteen Rabbit:

Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand.

IMO, real beauty is internal rather than external.

 

[Cathleen]

Let's see, nice b/f who has cute and sexy siblings who do the things you enjoy. Great. Now all you have to do is dump your b/f and then find some cute, sexy guy who likes the things you like, who isn't the sibling of a former b/f.

All it takes is a half second attempt at visualizing their Sunday dinner table. No seat for you.

 

[Noor]

All it takes is a half second attempt at visualizing their Sunday dinner table. No seat for you.

Good one Cathleen!

 

[satindesire]

he isnt an olger...lol...

What's an olger?